Topic: long distance online relationship
kai121's photo
Thu 03/27/14 07:57 PM
i do have a bf online for half a year already and all we can do is wait cause his contract got extended again. and now we have time conflicts since its like 8 hours difference..i do see him as my real bf same as what he feels..but lately we haven't really talked for 2 weeks cause i also have a job now. and im having this feeling that he has someone else now even if he is still sending me emails and sounds like he too misses me..

should i still continue with our relationship?

any comments or advice would be fine



pkh's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:03 PM
Oh sweetie, your so beautiful and so young I truly believe you deserve so much more. Have you talked on the phone? You should have by now. Has he asked for money? Please don't send it it's a scam. Life is to short your in school follow your dreams and finish school you have plenty of time for love

kai121's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:17 PM
thank you :) well he always try to contact me but this past 2 weeks its either im at work (i just graduated) :) and he knows about it..and i cant go online bcoz im on a night shift.and that would be the time we usually talk..or i fell asleep waiting for him same as last nyt i just read his messages when i woke up..but i do go online and call him whenever im free and during my day off. but i have this feeling that he has sum1 else ryt now or is it just me?

pkh's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:19 PM
Well if he cant call you or make time for you then maybe you should more on. That's just me though

kc0003's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:20 PM
we can't know for sure. nor do you, so maybe let it play out for now. see what happens, but be aware that this may not go as you had hoped.

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Thu 03/27/14 08:22 PM

i do have a bf online for half a year already and all we can do is wait cause his contract got extended again. and now we have time conflicts since its like 8 hours difference..i do see him as my real bf same as what he feels..but lately we haven't really talked for 2 weeks cause i also have a job now. and im having this feeling that he has someone else now even if he is still sending me emails and sounds like he too misses me..

should i still continue with our relationship?

any comments or advice would be fine





take it as a whatever...no reason to not correspond but look for a real man in real life while having a "pen pal"

sparkyae5's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:22 PM
follow the feelings you have in your gut-----and find out about what us guys are all about so you do not have to use pain as the teacher-----your young there is a big pool of guys out there and you have time----we teach people how to treat us---set your standards high and never believe your love will change or fix a guy---never have sex with a guy you do not know the cost in the long run will be more than its really worth----good luck----

kai121's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:31 PM
maybe ill just stick to it and see where it goes without getting my hopes up for something unsure for now..but i do appreciate all your replies :) if he is my prince then id be more than happy to spend an ever after with him..if he is not then i'll just wait for the right guy

no photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:35 PM
There ya go Kai121, go with your last thought.

no photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:43 PM

There ya go Kai121, go with your last thought.
:thumbsup:

do what makes ya happy

be glad you can feel :)


don;t ignore the cute guy who works at the Speedy King winking

kai121's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:44 PM
yeah i will..haha..but i though somehow wish he is..haha..confused..lol

kai121's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:46 PM
tnx sweetestgirl11 :)

ridewytepony's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:47 PM
Maybe you can't handle the doubt feelings, not being able to talk to eack
other, realy a lack of control, these kind of relationships put us in a
vulnerable posion and I think you realize that.When you weigh it all up,
its easy to jump while the jumping is good. You joined a dating site today and someone is going to ask you why but I'm not because a think
you want to get out of your situation as it was a good idea until its not.
"Life is what happens to 'you' when 'your' busy making plans".
Best of luck...oh and welcome to Mingle 2

kai121's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:56 PM
yes i know i joined a dating site just to get out and talk to somebody else...and i am open about things that could happen like finding someone else.but i really do like my current bf and im not yet looking for another guy..but if ever things wont work for us id be willing to move on but in a slower pace im not in a hurry :)

kai121's photo
Thu 03/27/14 08:56 PM
Edited by kai121 on Thu 03/27/14 08:59 PM

rohitkumr87's photo
Thu 03/27/14 09:49 PM
U can break up with him, I m ready to be ur Bf