Thank Leigh. :D

... Baby don't hurt me. Don't hurt me. No more'. :P

Welcome Rob. It is a bit counter-intuitive but what Franky says it's true: the inbox is clogged with inappropriate messages, and weird requests. I do understand trying to keep things positive. Apparently some people disregard what they read or lack enough understanding of particular characteristics that we want in our possible partners or friends.

For example, I have no friends that smoke. I mean none.

I had 2 beautiful Women pounding on my door the other day. I finally got up and let them out. lol

making a profile full of the things they don't want sends a negative message to the reader. it doesn't stop people from the kind of attention they're trying to avoid.

the best anyone can do is make a profile that describes you as close as possible and leave it at that.

have you considered that people that spend more time focusing on the don't is actually the kind of person they are? just a thought.

Welcome and please do not let the opinions of a "chosen" few reflect the opinions of all the women from across the site... Since 2007 on the site, an estimated 85% of all of the women that have contacted me via message has either solicited sex or sent nude pictures within a few exchanges.

Experience shows too, ones that have it listed in their profiles like that are the first ones to do it...

So, take advantage of that if you wish and most of all have fun!

the only negative i take offense to is if they diss marvel and praise dc comics

This kinda reflects how I am with my profile on some days.

Although my negs are at the beginning and I reiterate it at the end.

I think it saves those that want to sex text or send dic pics from reading through all the more general 'what I'm looking for' bumf.

Besides, I think it saves a lot of time if I state what I'm not looking for particularly as most people don't take the time to read my profile properly anyway.

Very well said, I couldn't agree more! I've added a little addendum to my profile just yesterday, and for a very similar reason. It is not that I want to come across as badass or bitchy, or scare anyone off, but sometimes the frustration trumps discretion and it has to be said.
Also, being able to filter certain countries is a brilliant idea. Not to sound racist or discriminative in any way, but I have noticed from my personal experience on the site (a mere few days) that Indian and Middle eastern men in general seem to be the vast population of the site, at least when it comes to contacting everyone. This is not just my opinion, because I've read other women's complaints on the forum.
So yes, the general idea of the profile is to attract the right kind of attention, and of course, we have all heard the old "you have to kiss a lot of frogs first..." adage, but when the only attention one gets is unwanted - overly eager and shallow men, fake profiles, indecent proposals etc - then what? You set some clear boundaries. Although even that doesn't stop them, it seems. :)

Good luck to you and welcome to the site!

My preference is to communicate with men with whom there is some hope of interaction on a personal level and not a long distance dream which may or may not come to fruition. I've been there and done that and to say the least it was highly disappointing even as a friendship. So, for me, if I can't meet them personally within a short time of having corresponded, it's not a viable situation for me. I don't have that type of time or energy to waste on someone who doesn't offer me what my mind, body and spirit craves. Simple as that! Plus the person must be someone who thrives on communication, which is key to any relationship and imperative to establishing a lasting one.

Its a matter of what one wishes to portray

if one wishes to be approachable, I would imagine focusing on some of the things that one is most looking for serves the purpose of people who match those qualities contacting them

if one wishes to not be approahced, I would imagine focusing on some of the things that one is most turned off from serves the purpose of people who match those qualities leaving them alone

though, in my experience, most contacts seem to be from sight only and rarely are they folllowing through with reading the profile anyway,,,

1st you have to pretend a woman knows what she wants

only at the most primal, animalistic pleasure centered realm does a woman know what she wants(sex is where the knowing what she wants comes to a complete stop)

a small few of the women that post the "IM NOT THAT TYPE OF GIRL, STAY AWAY"...THEse girls are trying to draw that attention from perverts, im sure the vast majority eventually give in to a perv at some point as there is, im sure no shortage of them

women have the ability to control their destiny and no matter what their situation, most, not all are there because they choose to be, if she is single, she wants to be single,just think when you look at some of these womens pics they are beautiful and they live in some of the nations largest cities, for instance take l.a. california, she cant find a man there or if you connect her with the world wide web

closing, when a woman says what she does not want, even waht she doesnt want comes from the fact that she has had so much of shes tired, meaning she has played naked twister on skype with so many pervs she is tired

I just read this - a belated welcome Rob most people try their luck and then discover they are blocked! Unfortunately as the site is free it is inundated with life's typical mix of 'the good, the bad and the ugly' - I basically don't answer the possible scammers, am polite to those that are still testing the waters and not too sure, open up to those that have become my friends, and enjoy the forums. Some people just don't get it!

Hi op ...
your going to see all kinds of profiles on any dating site you join ...
I am new to this site also and from what i have gathered they don't let you get away with a bunch of crap in the forums like some other sites might... good luck Op ...have fun ...

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