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Topic: Sould I or shouldn't I??
TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 10/25/06 11:04 PM
WEll, myself I would say don't do it. For if you are questioning
yourself if it is right or not then 9 times out of 10 its not. You would
be stirring up the fires that you still have for her and knowing that
she does not have those feelings for you is like waiting for a time bomb
to go off and I'm talking about the one in your heart. Sorry but she is
playing you like a fine tuned fiddle. Why? Because she knows she can. As
long as you let her have her cake and eat it too persay you will never
get past that point of having those kinda feelings for her. And all you
are doing is making it harder for you to get on with your life.

But... now if your heart was not on the line I would say go for it butI
don't think that is the case with you.



Good luck in your decision. Just remember the way it makes you feel
afterwards and that could help you to decide.

Nervesgone's photo
Wed 10/25/06 11:10 PM
Thanks Txs, You are right because I have been there O so many times in
the past 2 years. It has been several months since we were together and
I rarly call her anymore unless it's about the girls. When she calls I
have been cutting her short or not answering the phone. She always comes
back and that is why I am trying my best to resist her.
Nerves

trying_to_fly's photo
Wed 10/25/06 11:18 PM
Nervesgone, you're nothing but a booty call for her. She must know you
still have feelings for her, that's why she's doing it. She's playing
those little "high school" head games with you. Actually, you know
what, invite her over and when she gets there, see what she wants and if
she wants to lead it to the bedroom just say, "Hey, thanks for coming
over, I gotta call this girl back I met at the store yesterday who gave
me her number and wants to get together." Then, say she has to go. You
can play too you know and no, don't see it as 2 wrong's don't make a
right, see it as teaching her a lesson for treating a human being like
that. She needs to go, straight up!!! Move on, find that one for you,
find the one you WANT to be with, not what you NEED to be with....see
the difference. I'm sure you're a smart guy. You know what you need to
do. :)

no photo
Wed 10/25/06 11:34 PM
I feel that's just heartache starting all over again she just using you
for sex however with you it more so I as again why put yourself through
this there is someone else out there for you who want to build a future
with you deserve better that's just my take on the matter:)

Nervesgone's photo
Wed 10/25/06 11:41 PM
Thanks, trying_to_fly and sexyladyonwheels

no photo
Wed 10/25/06 11:47 PM
Not a problem my friend:)

michael1313's photo
Thu 10/26/06 01:24 AM
sounds risky,"Nerves",but then I don't know if your EX was a
snake-n-th-grass like mine,,,sht,sht,shttatatatatatatat,
she's a rattler man!were it me...no...friends is one thing,but "Booty
call"after th divorce?think with th big head on this one ,please,and you
will see your answers...M.

no photo
Thu 10/26/06 05:44 AM
alot of exes use sex as a way of staying in your life. if the
relationship did not work out and you are tryin to move on, don't have
sex with them.

michael1313's photo
Thu 10/26/06 05:53 AM
you said it "King"

newguy's photo
Thu 10/26/06 06:22 AM
don't do it....she's just using you...from experience I can tell
you....you give into that...then she might want you to do this for
her....and that for her...and so on and on and on...all the while she
still gets to do her thing where ever with who ever and your left on the
side of the road as she's driving away.....AGAIN!
Think about it.

nascar8fan_31's photo
Thu 10/26/06 06:26 AM
Nerves:

I don't know if your familiar with it or not, but there is a song by
Tammy Wynette called Til I Can Make It On My Own. That song relates to
your situation..sometimes women do keep going back because they are
still stuggling emotionally..the sex is familiar..your familiar...and
it's easier to go to you then it is to move on and for her to "make it
on her own"...but there comes a time when you just have to basically put
your foot down just to spare your own feelings and to make it so she has
to move on..

no photo
Fri 10/27/06 05:34 PM
Tear it up. Why cut yourself off.

no photo
Fri 10/27/06 05:50 PM
OK, If she is coming over to say visit, and she's not say sex, but you
know that's what she's all about? But u want real emotions (heart) with
the sex? Ok, Let her come over and make sur that she is getting all hot
and bothered and wanting you in bed? Then when she is trying to tare
your clothes off, say STOP" then ask her do you really really want me to
make love to you? When she say's yes? Then tell her----OK,THIS IS HOW
MUCH I WANT YOUR FEELING'S IN YOUR HEART AND MIND TO BE? Im not going
to make love just for the sex? I want you but there has to be more,I
have to have more? Think on it, tonight and will talk later???????????
Hell try it, At least she will feel YOUR disapointment...

txazdesertgirl's photo
Fri 10/27/06 07:35 PM
DO NOT DO IT!! She's an EX for a reason. Keep it that way!!!

james_radabaugh's photo
Fri 10/27/06 08:01 PM
LIKE TX SAID, THERE'S A REASON SHE'S AN EX! im gonna tell you now, bro,
exactly hoe this'll play out: she'll come over. want to lay with you. if
your smart, tell her you want her to know you still have feelings for
her, and if she wants it, there better be more than sex in it for her.
and THAT'S when it'll happen. she'll want to get her way, so she'll say
maybe, or, there could be, with a little smile, giving you false hope.
as soon as she gets what she wants, she'll be GONE!! think on that,
nerves.

james_radabaugh's photo
Fri 10/27/06 08:04 PM
also, let that ho know she's messin' with your emotions. i know how it
feels to be tough on someone like that with someone that you've really
fallen for, but bro, you gotta let her know she can't roll over you like
that.

greeneyedlady42's photo
Mon 10/30/06 07:45 PM
How do you know if she just wants sex with you that you are the only one
shes been with? She could be wanting just sex with other people too and
that puts you at risk health wise. It is hard I know to be apart from
someone you clearly still care about but be cautious. There's alot of
"crazy stuff" out there going around. Wait for that special someone you
connect with and get the whole enchilada.


You're worth it! You deserve more than Just sex.

escapedlunatic's photo
Mon 10/30/06 10:40 PM
Uh......thats a negative ghost rider!!!
Houston....we have a problem.
Dont do it ...you'll just end up feeling worse!

chica42ny's photo
Tue 10/31/06 01:21 AM
She is your ex and remember everything went on. Don't think second
time around will be better, think again. She will use u and abuse u.
Get someone new and fresh. Good luck!

michael1313's photo
Tue 10/31/06 01:45 AM
and after y'all do all of that...GIT-R-DONE!!!

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