everytime I go into the pantry..
our see a new hole in the wall..
..grrr.

Regrets? Only one....and there really wasnt much I clda done to change it......
Im a retired fire/medic. In '05, I was working a 5p-5a shift on an ALS unit. Got a call to stage in another post.....the unit there had a run and we filled in.
Fifteen min after being staged at the new post, the unit at our last one made an MVA(Motor Vehicle Accident)......ended up with that unit running a Code 1 to the hospital with a 3 y/o pt. I twinged a little...like I always do with any pediatric call.....I had a 3 y/o daughter.
Anyway, abt an hour later, we got a call to meet our Supervisor at HQ......That earlier MVA innvolved my ex, her bf, and my daughter. She didnt make it.
Ive always wondered...."If"....if we wlda stayed at that post, maybe I clda done something to change the outcome. I cldnt have....I talked to the unit that made the call.....they did what they were supposed to do.... but still....
Dont get me wrong, Im not after any sympathy.....my story just fit the "regrets" part of this thread.
Hell......I have a real angel in Heaven now......and I damn sure didnt regret any moment with my daughter leading up to that point.

I don't think any woman would regret having children unless she was too busy trying to become a man, then there is no time for being a mother.

Or, if the woman married for money, had children, and not out of love, then there can be some regret, but not to the extent of the first example.

Or, if the woman had children out of love for a man and for his children, or for just the love of children, and after the man did not take responsibility to provide anything, then this is cause for some regret, but not as much as either above examples and not regret for having children, but regret for who they had them with.

Finally she might regret it if something was wrong physically or mentally with the child but only for the sake of the child's quality of life and feeling guilty more than regretful, a mother wants the best for her children that's all.

I don't think any woman would regret having children unless she was too busy trying to become a man, then there is no time for being a mother.

Or, if the woman married for money, had children, and not out of love, then there can be some regret, but not to the extent of the first example.

Or, if the woman had children out of love for a man and for his children, or for just the love of children, and after the man did not take responsibility to provide anything, then this is cause for some regret, but not as much as either above examples and not regret for having children, but regret for who they had them with.

Finally she might regret it if something was wrong physically or mentally with the child but only for the sake of the child's quality of life and feeling guilty more than regretful, a mother wants the best for her children that's all.

Same goes for all the fathers I know. Including myself I have never regretted a day since my children were born even with my son is special needs. They brighten up my life.

So I currently stand at a crossroads. I am actually going to see a marriage counselor today(just me). Basically my wife wants kids and I don't. I am the rational not very emotional kind of person. My wife even accuses me of being cold sometimes which is probably true. She knows I don't realize I am coming across that way. Anyway, the main point is I was wondering if people have ever regretted their choice on children. Whether you decided to have them or not, did you later regret your choice and why.