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Topic: Hundreds of suicide/depressed notes found
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Tue 12/16/14 05:36 PM
What do you think hundreds of suicide or depressed letters/notes means?

I recently just found a large box of letters/notes talking about sadness, suicide, depression, etc. etc. Dating back 17 years to present.

This person always tries to have a good time, smiles a lot and tries hard to just live a simple happy life. Unfortunately this person also runs and hides from dramas and relationships in their life constantly.

Just looking for some input. Thank you

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Tue 12/16/14 05:50 PM
Being that these have been written over the course of 17 years it possible that it is this persons way of dealing with their sadness...my daughter does that...but I don't know what to say as far as what you should do about it...maybe let said person know that your there if they need someone to talk to...other then that...if this was something kept hidden said person may not appreciate you finding them...flowerforyou

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Tue 12/16/14 06:05 PM
Yes, it is very much possible. But there are letters from other people written talking about their concern for this person. Or letters saying when the time is right I will do it. Or, I am going to do it and nobody will care.

If this person doesn't appreciate me finding them then possibly this person never should have fled from their family in the middle of the night without them lol.

I really am not laughing, the things I have read have made me rethink everything about the relationship. Makes me want to take away some things from the past, or add some things to the past. I never knew this person was so hurt inside.

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Tue 12/16/14 06:23 PM
Actually I am with a smile on my face laughing at how one thinks I am angry. Typed words no matter what they say are always taken the wrong way. You cant hear my tone nor see my expressions. You cant see my happiness nor my sadness. You cant see my frustrations nor my concerns.

An unwise soul would push blame on others whom know nothing of the matter at hand.

Mental illness runs deep, and if communication was never granted for the topic then how was one to know?

My pain is in their sufferings. Wish this person was not hurt on the inside.

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Tue 12/16/14 07:31 PM
Assumptions can and have ruined relationships since the beginning of time. Sometimes one is so lost that all they have left is to assume. Weird!

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Thu 12/18/14 05:20 PM
Edited for off-topic.

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Fri 12/19/14 11:26 PM
It sounds like someone crying out for help and wanting someone to listen. If you are friends with this person take time out to listen to them they need your friendship. Also try to steer them to talk to a professional about their thoughts there is no shame in looking for help on dealing with life. Every life is valuable and we are all Gods children.Good luck and best wishes.

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Sat 12/20/14 07:45 AM
If you don't know where to start, this may help.

Being a compassionate listener is much more important than giving advice. You don't have to try to "fix" the person; you just have to be a good listener. Often, the simple act of talking to someone face to face can be an enormous help to someone suffering from depression.

Encourage her to talk to you about her feelings, and be willing to listen without judgement. Don't expect a single conversation to be the end of it. Depressed people tend to withdraw from others and isolate themselves. You may need to express your concern and willingness to listen over and over again. Be gentle, yet persistent.

Last but not least seek help from a mental health professional +CBT.

Good luck to you.:-)

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Sat 12/20/14 11:07 AM
Thank you everyone flowerforyou

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Sat 12/20/14 11:38 AM

What do you think hundreds of suicide or depressed letters/notes means?

I recently just found a large box of letters/notes talking about sadness, suicide, depression, etc. etc. Dating back 17 years to present.

This person always tries to have a good time, smiles a lot and tries hard to just live a simple happy life. Unfortunately this person also runs and hides from dramas and relationships in their life constantly.

Just looking for some input. Thank you


Let them come to you, but be inviting and warm to help encourage them. I wouldn't bring it up unless they do or the moment is right. Gently encourage them to seek help. Try not to be judgmental or anything simply listen and help or at least point them in the right direction.

They may not have wanted to find the letters, but you have found them for a reason.

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Sat 12/20/14 07:23 PM

blame one self for all sad.


More great words of wisdom. Thank you!flowerforyou

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Sat 12/20/14 07:45 PM

suicidal be sexy.


I would have to say the person is the most beautiful soul I have ever placed eyes on. The sexiest of human creatures. Both inner and outer as well. But ones troubles within, no one soul should find sexy. Excepting with an open heart and ear, but not sexy.

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Sat 12/20/14 07:50 PM
find all that exist good, never never not bad, as the blind find, then one find true love in it's heart, that does and cannot ever die, and then one know's naturally how to handle and speak to, all that exist.

peace brother.

go gettem um.

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Sat 12/20/14 07:55 PM

find all that exist good, never never not bad, as the blind find, then one find true love in it's heart, that does and cannot ever die, and then one know's naturally how to handle and speak to, all that exist.

peace brother.

go gettem um.


I completely agree with what you have just said. Now we are finally on the same page with something lol

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Sat 12/20/14 08:01 PM


find all that exist good, never never not bad, as the blind find, then one find true love in it's heart, that does and cannot ever die, and then one know's naturally how to handle and speak to, all that exist.

peace brother.

go gettem um.


I completely agree with what you have just said. Now we are finally on the same page with something lol


sorry man...

had to make sure you was a good guy first...

and that nothing could anger you...

no matter the words.

before one tell and give away all the secrets of a women's heart.

peace bother.

don't let what science say she is, make you believe nuttin bad about her!

ONLY believe all the good you know her as, none of the bad, then, dynamic can occur.

strange love ain't got nuttin on true love.

ditto's.

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Sat 12/20/14 08:06 PM
I am just human. I have my faults and I have done wrongs. But my true heart is pure with nothing but good intentions in life. Forever and a day, she shall hold highest in ones heart as she is purest of beings.

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Sat 12/20/14 08:12 PM
feel ya man...

peace and blessings to your unconditional love, that find all her feelings as valid no matter what the naysayers say, then she know, who love her, and wish nothing in return.

then she returns home.

when the time be right.

and no force nor coercion be used against her.

to get her there.

peace brother in arms.

a strong will, needing no validation from any, doth the strong of love provide, with no fee.

peace & love


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Sat 12/20/14 08:17 PM
i did not doubt you my friend, just made sure, as you would wish, indeed, since you are filled with honor too.

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Sat 12/20/14 08:18 PM

feel ya man...

peace and blessings to your unconditional love, that find all her feelings as valid no matter what the naysayers say, then she know, who love her, and wish nothing in return.

then she returns home.

when the time be right.

and no force nor coercion be used against her.

to get her there.

peace brother in arms.

a strong will, needing no validation from any, doth the strong of love provide, with no fee.

peace & love




Perfection:smile:

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Sat 12/20/14 08:30 PM
you should tell us at least ur first name, so we can hold you and her in our wishes, in our hearts, our prayers, for the good for all, so it can be done sooner, and less painful.

we love ya bro.

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