Topic: proposal
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Wed 02/18/15 06:13 AM


It's not inappropriate these days,but it would take the tradition and romance out of the proposal if it came from a woman...

My kinda guy.. I agree.. :thumbsup:
Awww,thanks Crystal flowers

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Wed 02/18/15 06:21 AM
Edited by tealbreeze on Wed 02/18/15 06:26 AM

Is it appropriate for a lady to propose to a man?


emma003, I have done just a little research for you on your own culture and how this question would pertain to you.

Ghanian Marriage Traditions
Much has changed over the years, as in many communities the traditions revolving around Ghanaian marriages are becoming modernized, as locals move away from their villages, formal education becomes more important, outside religions influence the country, and certain influences from western culture seep in. According to Ghana Nation, in the past (and sometimes still) it was often tradition for a young man's father to find him a suitable wife based on her medical history, criminal record and work ethic (the woman's family would also look into the potential husband based on these criteria). If the families agreed it was a worthwhile arrangement, the bridegroom would give the bride's family a gift, typically money and ti-nsa (head wine).

Another tradition is mainly among Ewe communities for the bridegroom's maternal and paternal aunts to send the bride's father a pot of palm wine, which is essentially a message asking if their nephew can have the daughter's hand in marriage. After about a week or two in which the bride's family researches the potential groom, the father will send his reply. From there, the groom's parents will send the bride's parents a pot of palm wine to thank them if there has been consent.

And in the North, it's all about the gifts. If a man wants to marry a woman, he'll start giving her gifts for instance, money, hankerchiefs and towels. And if she accepts the gifts, this means she�'s also accepting the proposal. Sometimes, the man will also send gifts to the bride's family to show them his potential as a son-in-law.

Again, these traditions still occur, but less so as Ghana becomes more modernized especially in the capital of Accra.

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There you have it.

You must have Aunties to help you.

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Wed 02/18/15 06:25 AM


Is it appropriate for a lady to propose to a man?


You must have Aunties to help you.


and they must be local Aunties...

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Wed 02/18/15 06:33 AM
I wish Americans had those family values and traditions still..

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Wed 02/18/15 06:34 AM

It's not inappropriate these days,but it would take the tradition and romance out of the proposal if it came from a woman...


Not necessary. It might be even more romantic! We don't have o stick to old traditions in my opinion. I think we should all be equal and respect each others feelings when it comes to "Proposal"

Why men have to be the "Macho" in the relationship? I don't agree, because if both work hard to make a living it we should be equal...but maybe this should be another topic laugh flowers I still love men!!

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Wed 02/18/15 06:35 AM
Traditions are boring.

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Wed 02/18/15 06:36 AM
Maria I know what you mean, my ex is Salvadoreno

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Wed 02/18/15 06:44 AM


It's not inappropriate these days,but it would take the tradition and romance out of the proposal if it came from a woman...


Not necessary. It might be even more romantic! We don't have o stick to old traditions in my opinion. I think we should all be equal and respect each others feelings when it comes to "Proposal"

Why men have to be the "Macho" in the relationship? I don't agree, because if both work hard to make a living it we should be equal...but maybe this should be another topic laugh flowers I still love men!!
I certainly wouldn't refuse if i loved my partner and she proposed to me,but i might kick myself and wish i had done it first laugh
I might be misunderstanding you hear Maria,but where does 'macho' come in to this ? If it is now seen by some to be macho when a guy would rather be the one to propose to his partner,then i will happily be labelled as a traditionalist :smile:

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Wed 02/18/15 06:50 AM
There's different kinds of macho, some are more obvious some are more subtle.

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Wed 02/18/15 06:52 AM

Maria I know what you mean, my ex is Salvadoreno


Oh nooo! Good thing you're not with him anymore Estelle :smile: .

I was married to a Mexican. Maybe is the reason I am so insecure and sometimes I rather be alone than have men in my life. But I have a good heart and feelings for others, I know Is somebody out there for me!

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Wed 02/18/15 06:57 AM
Edited by Maria195 on Wed 02/18/15 07:00 AM



It's not inappropriate these days,but it would take the tradition and romance out of the proposal if it came from a woman...


Not necessary. It might be even more romantic! We don't have o stick to old traditions in my opinion. I think we should all be equal and respect each others feelings when it comes to "Proposal"

Why men have to be the "Macho" in the relationship? I don't agree, because if both work hard to make a living it we should be equal...but maybe this should be another topic laugh flowers I still love men!!
I certainly wouldn't refuse if i loved my partner and she proposed to me,but i might kick myself and wish i had done it first laugh
I might be misunderstanding you hear Maria,but where does 'macho' come in to this ? If it is now seen by some to be macho when a guy would rather be the one to propose to his partner,then i will happily be labelled as a traditionalist :smile:


Justfun_1 Is the reason I wrote...Why men have to be the "Macho" in the relationship? I don't agree, because if both work hard to make a living it we should be equal...

>>>>>>>But maybe this should be another topic.<<<<<<

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Wed 02/18/15 07:01 AM




It's not inappropriate these days,but it would take the tradition and romance out of the proposal if it came from a woman...


Not necessary. It might be even more romantic! We don't have o stick to old traditions in my opinion. I think we should all be equal and respect each others feelings when it comes to "Proposal"

Why men have to be the "Macho" in the relationship? I don't agree, because if both work hard to make a living it we should be equal...but maybe this should be another topic laugh flowers I still love men!!
I certainly wouldn't refuse if i loved my partner and she proposed to me,but i might kick myself and wish i had done it first laugh
I might be misunderstanding you hear Maria,but where does 'macho' come in to this ? If it is now seen by some to be macho when a guy would rather be the one to propose to his partner,then i will happily be labelled as a traditionalist :smile:


Justfun_1 Is the reason I wrote...maybe this should be another topic. happy flowerforyou
The same reason i wrote 'i might be misunderstanding you' :smile: flowers

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Wed 02/18/15 07:02 AM
Justfun_1 flowerforyou flowers :smile:

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Fri 02/20/15 10:04 PM
No woman needs to wait for a man to make up his mind. If he's dragging his feet and hedging his bets, she should come straight out and ask him, "Do you want to get married?" If he says yes, they move on with their lives together. If he says no - or refuses to give a straight answer - she moves on to find the right person. No sense in dithering about when one partner knows what she wants and the other has no idea.

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Fri 02/20/15 11:04 PM

No woman needs to wait for a man to make up his mind. If he's dragging his feet and hedging his bets, she should come straight out and ask him, "Do you want to get married?" If he says yes, they move on with their lives together. If he says no - or refuses to give a straight answer - she moves on to find the right person. No sense in dithering about when one partner knows what she wants and the other has no idea.


frustrated

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Fri 02/20/15 11:19 PM


I think not, but that's just my opinion.


I think it's inappropriate for a man to feel it's inappropriate for a woman to propose to a man.


I think it's inappropriate that you think my opinion about tradition is inappropriate, especially since you will never be allowed to date, let alone marry me, so it's none of your damn business.

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Fri 02/20/15 11:23 PM



I think not, but that's just my opinion.


I think it's inappropriate for a man to feel it's inappropriate for a woman to propose to a man.


I think it's inappropriate that you think my opinion about tradition is inappropriate, especially since you will never be allowed to date, let alone marry me, so it's none of your damn business.


MadDog, would you ever propose to me?

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Fri 02/20/15 11:23 PM
No Vegas quickies though. And honeymoon in Hawaii.

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Fri 02/20/15 11:46 PM




I think not, but that's just my opinion.


I think it's inappropriate for a man to feel it's inappropriate for a woman to propose to a man.


I think it's inappropriate that you think my opinion about tradition is inappropriate, especially since you will never be allowed to date, let alone marry me, so it's none of your damn business.


MadDog, would you ever propose to me?


Maybe. I don't really know you.

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Sat 02/21/15 12:10 AM
He said maybe!!!! Woot! *starts shopping for wedding gown* flowerforyou