Topic: Is a dating site an alternative for pple who are not perfect
mightymoe's photo
Tue 02/24/15 02:30 PM

Hope if hv not pissed you guyz off?..
Im really sorry for the post...
I actually wrote based on where i came from and the kind of family i grew up.
Im 23 and my Dad is a pastor..here in Nigeria "especially frm the east" our young girlz hadly get pregnant out of wedluck...those who get pregnant out of wedluck hadly get married. So all do try their best not. Some of them will end up marrying any kind of man..they dnt have the choice.
Here, since i was born have not seen a single 50+ man or woman who still wnt to marry. Its either they wna remian single for life or something.
And pple dnt divorce easily..though they still divorce cos of one problem or the other but it do affect women more...cos the men can still marry but women dnt easily get married after divorce..except if the bride price paid on her head is returned.
But im not in anybody's shoe...most things that happnes isnt anybody's fualt. I did not write to get certain pple upset plz..im not perfect either.


when your 50, and been threw what we have, you see the point then...

2469nascar's photo
Tue 02/24/15 02:32 PM

rofl
So where do the perfect people hang out?
That's one place I'm definitely avoiding.
YA I KNOW RIGHT,,, them kinda PPL scare me

ayegbar's photo
Wed 02/25/15 09:10 AM
Perfect is a scary word to m. I rather be where pple who are nt perfect are. And whts even ur definition of perfect!

Okoro Daiv's photo
Wed 02/25/15 09:48 AM
Edited by Okoro Daiv on Wed 02/25/15 09:53 AM

Perfect is a scary word to m. I rather be where pple who are nt perfect are. And whts even ur definition of perfect!

hmmmm.
not bad...but it ok if you try to be

MariahsFantasy's photo
Wed 02/25/15 10:50 AM
It's just an alternative if people (perfect or not) wanna stick around. Besides I don't believe many members date here anyway.

Okoro Daiv's photo
Wed 02/25/15 12:44 PM

It's just an alternative if people (perfect or not) wanna stick around. Besides I don't believe many members date here anyway.

tnks dear..got it

taniash's photo
Thu 02/26/15 02:26 AM
I think, we are here, because we need someone to communicate with. We are imperfect not because of being divorced or having children. It`s inner state.

no photo
Thu 02/26/15 03:31 AM

Im Nifty and In My 50s
:banana: drinker yawn

50s?? oh come on. stop bluffing.

Okoro Daiv's photo
Thu 02/26/15 03:52 AM

I think, we are here, because we need someone to communicate with. We are imperfect not because of being divorced or having children. It`s inner state.

you right dear...thnks

no photo
Thu 02/26/15 06:09 AM

Hope if hv not pissed you guyz off?..
Im really sorry for the post...
I actually wrote based on where i came from and the kind of family i grew up.
Im 23 and my Dad is a pastor..here in Nigeria "especially frm the east" our young girlz hadly get pregnant out of wedluck...those who get pregnant out of wedluck hadly get married. So all do try their best not. Some of them will end up marrying any kind of man..they dnt have the choice.
Here, since i was born have not seen a single 50+ man or woman who still wnt to marry. Its either they wna remian single for life or something.
And pple dnt divorce easily..though they still divorce cos of one problem or the other but it do affect women more...cos the men can still marry but women dnt easily get married after divorce..except if the bride price paid on her head is returned.
But im not in anybody's shoe...most things that happnes isnt anybody's fualt. I did not write to get certain pple upset plz..im not perfect either.

:smile: I Remember one of my widowed aunt before. She remarried at the age of 60s and all her children are against of it. Even I, I questioned why she got married of that age. I have no understanding but my father explain me the reason why. Smartdave you are still young and maybe you are still living with your parents. Someday if you get old and live alone you will understand.:smile:

About devorce I have nothing to say that the people here have different understanding, belief and faith.

Okoro Daiv's photo
Thu 02/26/15 07:11 AM


Hope if hv not pissed you guyz off?..
Im really sorry for the post...
I actually wrote based on where i came from and the kind of family i grew up.
Im 23 and my Dad is a pastor..here in Nigeria "especially frm the east" our young girlz hadly get pregnant out of wedluck...those who get pregnant out of wedluck hadly get married. So all do try their best not. Some of them will end up marrying any kind of man..they dnt have the choice.
Here, since i was born have not seen a single 50+ man or woman who still wnt to marry. Its either they wna remian single for life or something.
And pple dnt divorce easily..though they still divorce cos of one problem or the other but it do affect women more...cos the men can still marry but women dnt easily get married after divorce..except if the bride price paid on her head is returned.
But im not in anybody's shoe...most things that happnes isnt anybody's fualt. I did not write to get certain pple upset plz..im not perfect either.

:smile: I Remember one of my widowed aunt before. She remarried at the age of 60s and all her children are against of it. Even I, I questioned why she got married of that age. I have no understanding but my father explain me the reason why. Smartdave you are still young and maybe you are still living with your parents. Someday if you get old and live alone you will understand.:smile:

About devorce I have nothing to say that the people here have different understanding, belief and faith.

thanks for you opinion...
You right..how i view divorce may not be similar with otherz cos of believe...
Buh I dnt actually stay with my parents....im independent

no photo
Wed 09/16/15 12:01 PM
A perfectionist is a perfect candidate for obsessive compulsive disorder.

no photo
Wed 09/16/15 12:10 PM

I was supprise when i came across a comment somebody made..."that if you r perfect you wnt be here"
and i from what i have seen so far since i joined this site.
I noticed there are too many aged women and men (50+) here.
Almost all ther ladies i have browsed their profile already have children. Others divorced.
Does it mean therez no decent lady who have not married before or who have not had children out of wedluck in this site?
Cos i blv pple who r perfect can still use a dating site.


I'm gonna use your words kay.

Married woman aren't DECENT?
Too many 50+ woman, is that a sin?
Have children out of wedlock? Is that discrimination?
People who are perfect can use a dating site? Did u mean you?
Last but not least , do perfect humans exist?
You sound like a lovely chap
rofl

TMommy's photo
Wed 09/16/15 12:26 PM
too many aged women grumble

no photo
Wed 09/16/15 01:35 PM

I was supprise when i came across a comment somebody made..."that if you r perfect you wnt be here"
and i from what i have seen so far since i joined this site.
I noticed there are too many aged women and men (50+) here.
Almost all ther ladies i have browsed their profile already have children. Others divorced.
Does it mean therez no decent lady who have not married before or who have not had children out of wedluck in this site?
Cos i blv pple who r perfect can still use a dating site.


Hello Smartdave,welcome to mingle!:) I think you were not smart enough to choose your words carefully coz you have stepped on a lot of people here:smile: :wink: and since nobody is perfect by the way, I would excuse your behavior here and I hope next time, think twice before writing offensive post:smile: :wink: Just to let you know , I'm 42 yrs old next week , single ,never been married with no children, a decent woman but definitely not perfect, I have flaws and so are youlaugh I believe you have not browsed all the profiles yet , and u already made an assumption which is wrong. Lastly, we all have different reasons why we are in a dating site not because we r perfect or imperfect but maybe because of the forum, to socialize, communicate, make new friends, find love, boredom etc. Whatever is your purpose here, I wish you goodluck.oops becarefulhappy bigsmile :wink:

mightymoe's photo
Wed 09/16/15 01:47 PM

rofl
So where do the perfect people hang out?
That's one place I'm definitely avoiding.


i would tell ya, but then they would kick me out...

no photo
Wed 09/16/15 02:20 PM
I am new here and i am not getting this site :/
can anybody help me

Allen8Allen's photo
Thu 09/17/15 05:42 AM
That's the right thought process!! :)

1onlyaname's photo
Thu 09/17/15 06:29 AM
I understand what you are saying but it would be wise not to share what you observe and experience. :) some young men like to find younger single woman start his own family nothing wrong with his thinking. he is just experiencing something other than he wants. have a great day!

msharmony's photo
Thu 09/17/15 06:50 AM
there are no perfect people

people use social network sites for many reasons,, some dont even involve trying to date