to make a long story short...ive been in a relationship for 3 years and married for 1 and have 3 kids. now im getting a divorce because my husband has cheated multiple times throughout our relationship and tonight we were argueing and he hit me so i called the police and they arrested him. now im worried he's going to be extremely mad when he gets out and idk what he might do or what's going to happen. I can't afford our apartment by myself without help from him (like child support) but don't know how willing he'll be now to pay. Did i do the right thing?

yes, violence is never the answer.....now go online and get a job....get away from him.

I dont know much about where you live but there's always state help to with 3 kids it will be hard, but you did the right thing..

yep, I agree with Gypsy on that one

you did the right thing....dont ever second guess your descision

i would say now that violence has happened

you may be able to use legal aid

get advice from them

and a battered womans group

good luck

may much good come your way

Yes baby u did the right thing. Go file a restraining order. Do what u have to even if u have to go to DHS for help. Nothing in this world is more important than u and those 3 babies. He will do it again no matter how much he promises to change. Never take him back there are other ways and if nothing else u get u and them babies to a battered womens shelter. Go to ur local legal aid for help with the divorce ur part will be free I'm sure. Then have child support taken out thru CSED and they will automatically take it out of his check every month no matter where he works. I have been thru it and no one should ever have to go thru what we have. If u ever need to talk i'll be around...char

Heck yes! See if you can get a restraining order to block him from contacting you. A few sates are getting tough on child support. He pays or gets his wages garnished! But get to an abuse center as soon as you can! And let them help you!

you did this right thing.just think of how far it could have gone if you didn't call the cops!!!.do you have family or friends that you and your 3 kids can stay with while in the process of getting help?

Yes, …safety for you and the kids is important. You will manage, just cut back your means and use your energy to work out what you should do instead of worrying about him. When he gets out and starts on you again just call the cops

thank you guys sooo much! my state has a mandatory 72hour restraining order and i can extend that an extra 15 days. if any contact is made he goes back until the court date in dec.

lilwabbit: Be prepared to soon hear not anger, rather a seemingly heart-felt appology from your husband. DO NOT RECONSIDER RECONCILIATION! Believe me, it will happen! He will promise you that he will never do it again and question how "you" can break up your family. Never forget....HE crossed the line and started severing the sacred bond between you. Unless, and until he gets PROFESSIONAL help and is responsive to it.........please, please go your seperate ways. You have children to consider, not just yourself anymore. It WILL happen again, despite all his promises, begging and pleading if you go back. Heed my warning and take control of your own life, do not let any person control it for you.

Yep, he hit you, and he belongs in jail for that. He aint gunna do nothing to you when he's out, unless he's totally stupid. He sounds like a real piece of work.

Don't ever second guess what you did! Yes you did do the right thing.He is going to swear up and down that he's so sorry for what he did but take my word on it,it will happen again if you take him back.
He crossed that line now he should pay for it.
Your children don't need to see their mother being hit it's not a geat thing to watch and who knows if he would ever turn on them.
Keep your spirits up and I'll be praying for you
Laura

Got to protect your kids and you. I hope you can get some help.

u did the rite thing good luck w everything, as i'm sure ur aware think of the kids 1st and ur good

I agree with Jen; you did the right thing hon -- you have three babies to consider in all of this. Good luck to you.

You did the right thing...now you have to do whatever you need to do to take care of those babies. If he hits you once, he will hit you again!
You are afraid he will be mad? How do you feel? Did he hit you in front of your children? Trust me, children live what they are taught. Do you want your children to think its ok to live with someone who hits? Or if you have a son, do you want him to hit his mate? I would hope the answer is NO...its time to make him get out and stay out!!
I know it will be tough to raise 3 kids on your own, but in most states they automattically take out child support. They have really cracked down on that, don't be afraid to go and apply for child support. Trust me, they will be in your corner.
I wish you luck and don't forget...you are the voice for those children~~~so be strong and speak up!!!

my husband did the same thing not once but several times, then we figured out he had an alcohol problem and I did to by enabling him. We both sought help, and was able to work it out, but it took years. Best of luck to you it is a hard place to be. I worked at a shelter and they are great people to help get an apartment and a job, so if need be contact them, that is why they are there.

Agree with most that have answered you.
Would like to add, you need to find consuling for you also.
Local YWCA here, has an excellent program, for both sex's.
You may still love this guy & would like back what you had in the beginning. This might help. Men can learn, I did. Never struck my wife, but was verbally & intimidativly abusive. I learned in my 40's & changed tremendously. Learned what I had been TAUGHT wrong. Change is poss.

Hope it all works as you want it to.
God Bless you & your family