Topic: Wake Up !!!
FireandIce54's photo
Thu 04/30/15 05:25 PM
Most people are looking for more than what they can have!! For years I was guilty of the same thing; and I finely woke up. Look for the person inside not the outside. There is where you will find happiness... It doesn't matter how big her breast are or how good his butt looks in tight jeans. What matters is the person on the inside; they can be beautiful on the outside and the ugliest person you will ever met on the inside. Learn from you mistakes... I did.

no photo
Thu 04/30/15 07:16 PM
So true.. sadly, there are too many people that waste time thinking "there will be more time" & then wonder they are alone.

For me, at my age it is about companionship first. Unfortunately for me.. there are too many men out there looking for a " Combo" girlfriend. And over 50, that seems to include, housekeeper & nurse...

Oh hell no noway

TMommy's photo
Thu 04/30/15 07:43 PM

So true.. sadly, there are too many people that waste time thinking "there will be more time" & then wonder they are alone.

For me, at my age it is about companionship first. Unfortunately for me.. there are too many men out there looking for a " Combo" girlfriend. And over 50, that seems to include, housekeeper & nurse...

Oh hell no noway



and mama grumble


so many profiles say " just looking for a good woman" which translates into wanted: cook and housekeeper

no photo
Thu 04/30/15 07:52 PM


So true.. sadly, there are too many people that waste time thinking "there will be more time" & then wonder they are alone.

For me, at my age it is about companionship first. Unfortunately for me.. there are too many men out there looking for a " Combo" girlfriend. And over 50, that seems to include, housekeeper & nurse...

Oh hell no noway



and mama grumble


so many profiles say " just looking for a good woman" which translates into wanted: cook and housekeeper


Hhhaaaa.. I was thinking the " Mama's Boy Syndrome" or more commonly know as " Peter Pan Syndrome". Seeing this a lot... & feeling like a magnet.
But all that & age & bad health...
Geez. hirer some people & shut up already.. explode

Rock's photo
Thu 04/30/15 08:05 PM
I'm searching for a woman I can love and cherish.
Forever, and beyond time.

I'll admit, that the road has had a few potholes.
And, I've made a wrong turn here or there.
But, I'll keep searching, until I'm absolutely sure
that I've found the right woman.


I can't have that?

Stop me.

TMommy's photo
Thu 04/30/15 08:08 PM
here is an example of what I see with guys over age of...54

does not exercise on regular basis
has health issues
often times carrying a lot of hostile baggage towards women
that comes across in his profile
says he likes to eat at home most of time
says he likes to travel but also says he has not done so because he is alone
often times the profiles sound like they are written by someone depressed
who hates his life

FireandIce54's photo
Thu 04/30/15 08:21 PM
A lot of what you say is true. A lot of men and women have hostile baggage their caring. But its not just the over 50 crowd, most people have had at least one bad relationship. I see a lot of 30 and 40 year old profiles reflecting this. I also see a lot of 20 to 40 year old people on this site that out of shape as well. So lets not single out the 50+ people.

TMommy's photo
Thu 04/30/15 08:25 PM

A lot of what you say is true. A lot of men and women have hostile baggage their caring. But its not just the over 50 crowd, most people have had at least one bad relationship. I see a lot of 30 and 40 year old profiles reflecting this. I also see a lot of 20 to 40 year old people on this site that out of shape as well. So lets not single out the 50+ people.



no it can be true at any age
just saying that the prevalence tends to increase along with age


I am not even saying I am opposed to dating someone older than I am
just would have to be someone with a good head on his shoulders
who still cares about something in his life
including himself and his own needs happy

FireandIce54's photo
Thu 04/30/15 08:27 PM
You are wise looking for someone like that. I hope you find him.

TMommy's photo
Thu 04/30/15 08:35 PM

You are wise looking for someone like that. I hope you find him.
thank you happy

JustScribbles's photo
Thu 04/30/15 08:53 PM


A lot of what you say is true. A lot of men and women have hostile baggage their caring. But its not just the over 50 crowd, most people have had at least one bad relationship. I see a lot of 30 and 40 year old profiles reflecting this. I also see a lot of 20 to 40 year old people on this site that out of shape as well. So lets not single out the 50+ people.



no it can be true at any age
just saying that the prevalence tends to increase along with age


I am not even saying I am opposed to dating someone older than I am
just would have to be someone with a good head on his shoulders
who still cares about something in his life
including himself and his own needs happy



rofl Pick me! Pick me! I can still fit into my Dress Blues almost 40 years later. And the button holes don't stretch! I can even help with your Psych homework. (and I don't have to worry you'll turn green, again. tongue2 )

TMommy's photo
Thu 04/30/15 09:05 PM



A lot of what you say is true. A lot of men and women have hostile baggage their caring. But its not just the over 50 crowd, most people have had at least one bad relationship. I see a lot of 30 and 40 year old profiles reflecting this. I also see a lot of 20 to 40 year old people on this site that out of shape as well. So lets not single out the 50+ people.



no it can be true at any age
just saying that the prevalence tends to increase along with age


I am not even saying I am opposed to dating someone older than I am
just would have to be someone with a good head on his shoulders
who still cares about something in his life
including himself and his own needs happy



rofl Pick me! Pick me! I can still fit into my Dress Blues almost 40 years later. And the button holes don't stretch! I can even help with your Psych homework. (and I don't have to worry you'll turn green, again. tongue2 )
hahahaha well now that's a mighty nice offer on table..yes indeedy but where may I ask were you earlier tonight when I was doing this homework??? hmmmmm...tap..tap..taps her foot

JustScribbles's photo
Thu 04/30/15 09:11 PM
Why, doing prep work at an Aberrant Psychology workshop in the sincere hope that you might ask that very question, Dear. love

TMommy's photo
Fri 05/01/15 05:25 AM

Why, doing prep work at an Aberrant Psychology workshop in the sincere hope that you might ask that very question, Dear. love
that's a good man

2469nascar's photo
Fri 05/01/15 06:00 AM

here is an example of what I see with guys over age of...54

does not exercise on regular basis
has health issues
often times carrying a lot of hostile baggage towards women
that comes across in his profile
says he likes to eat at home most of time
says he likes to travel but also says he has not done so because he is alone
often times the profiles sound like they are written by someone depressed
who hates his life

ya? see that same profile in 90% of woman over fifty,,,sad

TMommy's photo
Fri 05/01/15 06:06 AM
Edited by TMommy on Fri 05/01/15 06:08 AM


here is an example of what I see with guys over age of...54

does not exercise on regular basis
has health issues
often times carrying a lot of hostile baggage towards women
that comes across in his profile
says he likes to eat at home most of time
says he likes to travel but also says he has not done so because he is alone
often times the profiles sound like they are written by someone depressed
who hates his life

ya? see that same profile in 90% of woman over fifty,,,sad
I know ..I see it all around me
it's like a mass memo that goes out to everyone by about 45 or something noway

I am not perfect and in no way am I saying that I am
but it would be nice to find someone
who still has a bit of hope
still has interests, goals to look forward to
still trying

SitkaRains's photo
Mon 05/04/15 02:17 PM


here is an example of what I see with guys over age of...54

does not exercise on regular basis
has health issues
often times carrying a lot of hostile baggage towards women
that comes across in his profile
says he likes to eat at home most of time
says he likes to travel but also says he has not done so because he is alone
often times the profiles sound like they are written by someone depressed
who hates his life

ya? see that same profile in 90% of woman over fifty,,,sad

What makes this sad to me is that some of those negative profiles are hiding really great people...
I hear some talk about how they are older and wiser so they know what they "don't" want but I be damned if they know what they "do" want.

Life is too short to worry about the negativity just go with the flow.
I have read some really great profiles out here of men...sorry ladies I don't perve yours.. I always drop a note in them to say great job...

I prefer to try to keep body in shape not so much for the looks as the health issues I want to do things in life I have worked damn hard to be able to play now I want to enjoy the playtime.

TMommy's photo
Tue 05/05/15 05:06 PM
NEGATIVITY IN PROFILES

shoot this deserves it's own thread
you know how much I see of this ?

especially after being married a time or two and going thru bad break ups

we have a lot of things WE DON'T put up with anymore and that is all fine and dandy andy but...

when you list it off in your profile one by one
you come across as bitter, hostile


I wish more people knew this
best foot forward people would get you a lot more responses happy

JustScribbles's photo
Tue 05/05/15 05:15 PM
Edited by JustScribbles on Tue 05/05/15 05:16 PM

NEGATIVITY IN PROFILES

shoot this deserves it's own thread
you know how much I see of this ?

especially after being married a time or two and going thru bad break ups

we have a lot of things WE DON'T put up with anymore and that is all fine and dandy andy but...

when you list it off in your profile one by one
you come across as bitter, hostile


I wish more people knew this
best foot forward people would get you a lot more responses happy


Amen! There's certainly a time and place for 'pity parties' but it just doesn't make any sense to me why someone would log into a dating site, put up an 'Oh, woe is me' profile, post multiple 'nobody wants me' entries and in the next breath - seriously and honestly - say things like 'Why is nobody knocking down my door to hook up?'

*scratches my head*

I've stolen these lyrics from a song, before ~ 'These are surely not the best colors that you shine.' slaphead