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Topic: Emotions
Scrumpymonkey's photo
Sun 05/10/15 09:56 PM
What do you think of a man that has strong emotions for EG when I see things about animal cruelty I can have tears and in the film titanic when you see the lady in the sae with her baby I was the same myself I am good feeling like that just wondered what others think

regularfeller's photo
Sun 05/10/15 10:13 PM
I don't reckon I cotton the idea of it.

dreamerana's photo
Sun 05/10/15 10:18 PM
I think like with anything else, it depends on the situation.
we all have a human side. men have feelings too.


regularfeller's photo
Sun 05/10/15 10:22 PM
Don't think men are devoid of "feelings", I just don't think they gotta drip from their eyes to prove it.

Personally, I am suspicious of a crying man. I don't trust it. When I've witnessed it, it is generally contrived to manipulate a person or situation

dreamerana's photo
Sun 05/10/15 10:30 PM
I agree. many people, both genders, often use tears as a ploy to achieve a purpose.

that's why it depends on the situation. ..
is there a genuine reason.
does it seem like genuine emotion.
in general, what is the person's usual outlook. are they a whiny, poor me person or generally positive going through rough moments.

and on the level of communication. are they willing to share and let a person be there for them. are they going to push a loved one away and hide that part of themselves

regularfeller's photo
Sun 05/10/15 10:46 PM
In my estimation it is viewed as an emasculating practice by both genders. I'm not talking about the "my mama just died" tears, but the "I'm sensitive" ones. You don't gotta be weepy to be compassionate towards animals or sympathize/empathize with others. In chauvinistic terms, crying is women's work.

When I see a woman cry I want to offer her comfort. When I see a man cry I want to get the heck out of there!

no photo
Sun 05/10/15 10:49 PM

I agree. many people, both genders, often use tears as a ploy to achieve a purpose.

that's why it depends on the situation. ..
is there a genuine reason.
does it seem like genuine emotion.
in general, what is the person's usual outlook. are they a whiny, poor me person or generally positive going through rough moments.

and on the level of communication. are they willing to share and let a person be there for them. are they going to push a loved one away and hide that part of themselves


:thumbsup:

Goofball73's photo
Sun 05/10/15 11:09 PM

What do you think of a man that has strong emotions for EG when I see things about animal cruelty I can have tears and in the film titanic when you see the lady in the sae with her baby I was the same myself I am good feeling like that just wondered what others think


Never let em see ya sweat. Haha!

PacificStar48's photo
Mon 05/11/15 09:07 AM
Since I have seen many people turn on and off the water works to manipulate too often "tears' usually irritate me more than anything. My inclination is to give them something to cry about.

I usually think people, adults especially, should check themselves rather than be crybaby's. Especially in the work place. Has nothing to do with gender.

If it is a well crafted movie, hopefully I am into the story enough to feel something, but not going to be all broke down. I don't find being sad particularly entertaining so the five hankie movies I don't consider "date" material.

While I like animals, find cruelty towards them wasteful or stupid maybe enraging because it seems like cowardice, I generally save my upset for humans.

One thing I did learn being a helping professional is it does the consumer no good at all if they are having to deal with your "drama" when they are in crisis. And if you encourage them to be out of control that just amplifies their problems.

Scrumpymonkey's photo
Mon 05/11/15 09:53 AM
my emotions are never used in ANYWAY to manipulate anyone and I am by far no cry baby where I am from in the uk if we have anything to say we say it no holds barred it makes my proud to have emotions feelings sensitivity like I have and I am not ashamed in any way

msmyka's photo
Mon 05/11/15 11:18 AM
To be honest I'm not a very emotional person, so a guy being more emotional than me is a bit unnerving.

no photo
Mon 05/11/15 01:36 PM
What do you think of a man that has strong emotions

All men have strong emotions.
They're human beings.

Different men get different levels of gender training growing up.

Some repress more than others, some wallow in them more than others, people associate different levels of different emotions with different things (e.g. one person cries at titanic, another person laughs hysterically. One person laughs hysterically because it's really a funny situation to them, another person laughs hysterically because they were trained to not cry as it shows weakness so laughter masks tears, one person sheds one tear and emotionally believes they are crying hysterically).

And all sorts of things can affect a guys emotional stability.
Male menopause/andropause.

Crappy diet of all sorts of chemicals and processed foods that inhibit or destroy testosterone and production and/or increase estrogen.

A lifetime of repressed feelings finally blowing the lid off the pot.

Other than that I will see a car parked with a woman sitting inside crying her eyes out about every 3 days, I feel bad for them, then I keep driving and don't think about them again until someone asks about crying.

I don't think I have ever seen a guy sitting in his car crying his eyes out. But I don't think I'd have a different reaction.

If I was at work and I had an employee come into my office and wouldn't leave because they couldn't stop crying I would be annoyed.

If a jehovah's witness or the UPS guy knocked on my door and just stood there crying I would be a little weirded out and annoyed.

I would probably not develop a friendship relationship with a guy that constantly cried, or was overly emotional. That seems like they would either be a constant bummer or requiring constant moral support, hugging, back pats, and long emotional talks while we braided each others hair, drank wine, and shopped for panties together.

no photo
Mon 05/11/15 01:47 PM
Well, it's really only important what you think. I'm sure you aren't going to change because of what anyone here says. To me, I am uncomfortable around anyone crying, man or woman, under any circumstance.

regularfeller's photo
Mon 05/11/15 01:56 PM

my emotions are never used in ANYWAY to manipulate anyone and I am by far no cry baby where I am from in the uk if we have anything to say we say it no holds barred it makes my proud to have emotions feelings sensitivity like I have and I am not ashamed in any way


Relax Scrumpy, you DID ask for everyone's thoughts on the subject and we answered. No one accused YOU of anything, called you any names, or said you should be ashamed, so you don't have to....uh...cry ohwell about our comments.

You have every right to be you, warts, emotions and all. I have every right to believe that emotional, teary eyed men, are not on the "A" list for women seeking a partner.

There may be some people who disagree with me and they have every right to do so. That pool of people would be a good place to seek a companion.

Where I'm from in the US we also say whatever is on our minds, also no holds barred. It was instilled in me that a crying man whose mother hadn't just passed on was someone to be leery of and for me to not be that man.

It makes me proud that I can be sensitive and compassionate without needing a tissue and someone to comfort me.

Ruth34611's photo
Mon 05/11/15 02:04 PM

To be honest I'm not a very emotional person, so a guy being more emotional than me is a bit unnerving.


Ditto.

Ruth34611's photo
Mon 05/11/15 02:05 PM


To be honest I'm not a very emotional person, so a guy being more emotional than me is a bit unnerving.


Ditto.


Actually I misread this. I AM a very emotional person. So a guy who is more emotional than me would unnerve me.

Scrumpymonkey's photo
Mon 05/11/15 09:53 PM
Iam not saying I am over emotional all I am saying is I am not ashamed of showing them and at regularfella I am NOT crying at the comments and I am big enough and old enough to understand that people have different views and I don't cry my eyes out over things I just shed the odd tear and yes I do agree with you that it is everyone to there own also I have no wish to fall out with anyone over this subject and thank everone for there views

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Wed 05/13/15 04:15 AM
I am intensely emotional, and I don't really care if some women discard me for it, even as some others proclaim that I'm not "emotionally available" in some way, simply because of exactly when and how I express my emotions.

I am who and what I am, and trying to play otherwise just hides me from the people I genuinely care about.

I think what bothers most people in general about whatever kinds of emotional expressions they DO object to, is either that the outburst is out of proportion to the significance of what is being reacted to (tears after you spill your drink, for example), or that WHAT you get emotional ABOUT is weird.

I have also seen through self-observance, that what a person does react to emotionally, is very dependent on their life experiences, and on their core sensibilities. Many things which had no effect on me as a child, now cause anything from terror to despair to deep happiness in me. And some things which upset me to no end way back when, are now laughable at most.

HoneyFly's photo
Wed 05/13/15 04:17 AM
^drinker

OP : ... "Walk it off!"

regularfeller's photo
Wed 05/13/15 06:45 AM

Iam not saying I am over emotional all I am saying is I am not ashamed of showing them and at regularfella I am NOT crying at the comments and I am big enough and old enough to understand that people have different views and I don't cry my eyes out over things I just shed the odd tear and yes I do agree with you that it is everyone to there own also I have no wish to fall out with anyone over this subject and thank everone for there views


Peace brother. :thumbsup:

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