Topic: When someone just don't respond back anymore.
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Sat 05/16/15 07:46 AM


Women being 'too polite' in the real world can be a dangerous thing.
Being ' too polite ' in cyper, can be a nasty or annoying thing.

If a man says NO to another man,it is for the most part, excepted. * Okay Cool*
But if a woman says NO to a man, too many men see that as an NEGOTIATION. * Why? don't you like...blah blah blah? *
And they not only want an explanation, they will try to convince you that your thinking or rationale is flawed & therefore something is wrong with you for NOT wanting them.

NO is NO, NO is NOT an NEGOTIATION..

Only about 25% of the time, do I say, " I'm sorry, we are not compatible"
Because in my years, of this,only 25% can deal with that.

* Reminds me of the book- "HE is just NOT that into you " ... same with women *


It's the story of Jennifer Aniston's pathetic life.....lol


happy They destroyed the author my making it into a movie & choosing that half wit!

Now .. Steve Harvey's Book " Act like a lady, think like s man ", turning that into a movie was actually funny.
* That book is a woman's bible... run ladies run out & get it .. bigsmile *

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Sat 05/16/15 07:54 AM

I have had women contact me and we have chatted for a while and things were great but then I get no more response from them.this happened already a few times.

Well I look at this two different ways. Was the email exchange dwindling down to just a sentence or two? If it was that is the writing on the wall..
I equate that to in person, if I am just being polite to someone I will give smaller and smaller answers so I can escape.


OR there is something you are saying or doing that you might be aware of that is offensive, if this is happening more than once. Reread what you are writing and find the drop off time and decide if you are happy with your responses etc.. If so great if you find something not so great then change it.



I just find it rude to just stop talking to someone especially if that person wanted to chat with you in the first place.


Have they been on??? I know at times it says I am logged in and I am not. If I log in with my phone it just continues to stay logged in and I m long gone.
Also a person in the real world may hello and spend a couple of minutes chatting then decide to move on. Yes we normally say excuse me or what ever.

I'm not a boring person and didn't say anything that would have offended them at all. I don't get it. what



Again this is subjective, what one person finds acceptable another is going to be offended.. What one person finds interesting another is going to find boring.

I know what I am going to say is not well received by some and others will agree.
I have some basic rules for my internet behavior, I treat each and every person as I would if I was standing there face to face. I do answer and I do respond to emails the same as I would respond to someone smiling and saying something in person.

I have no problem in the real world to politely telling someone that I am in a relationship and open to friendships nothing more. The same as I do here.

When I was single I had no problems letting someone know if I was interested or not.

Now that doesn't mean I am going to go into a lengthy diatribe of the whys I am not interested. I just say thank you and wish them well..

What I have found in my many years of being in chat rooms, or on forums sites is somewhere people use it as a way to release their angst against the world and in doing that it gives them a license to be rude. Mostly way more than they are in public or anyways I hope so.


I often caution people new the internet to get a thicker skin if you don't have it then you won't last.
Laugh at others antics and enjoy the show..



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Sat 05/16/15 08:12 AM
Internet 'relationships' - any of them, not necessarily romantic ones - sometimes provide folks, who otherwise would never have the stones to be aggressive and abrupt, the armor they need to explore that side of themselves. You see the same thing on any highway in the land. Surprisingly often, 3000 pounds of armor turns passive types into something completely different.

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Sat 05/16/15 08:16 AM

Internet 'relationships' - any of them, not necessarily romantic ones - sometimes provide folks, who otherwise would never have the stones to be aggressive and abrupt, the armor they need to explore that side of themselves. You see the same thing on any highway in the land. Surprisingly often, 3000 pounds of armor turns passive types into something completely different.


true statement

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Sat 05/16/15 02:51 PM
I appreciate the comments I received from most of you. I am not looking to make my own rules. As a matter of fact I'm new to this online dating so was just stating a fact and my opinion which I have a right to do so. I have more of a thick skin than people realize I have. I am going to take the advice of some of you and leave the ones who have insulted me behind. I'm on here to met people and have fun and hopefully sometime meet her. :smile:

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Sat 05/16/15 03:01 PM
She may be talking to a lot of different people and found others she is more interested in.

HoneyFly's photo
Sat 05/16/15 03:06 PM

I appreciate the comments I received from most of you. I am not looking to make my own rules. As a matter of fact I'm new to this online dating so was just stating a fact and my opinion which I have a right to do so. I have more of a thick skin than people realize I have. I am going to take the advice of some of you and leave the ones who have insulted me behind. I'm on here to met people and have fun and hopefully sometime meet her. :smile:


flowerforyou Best of luck!

sweetestgirl1983's photo
Sat 05/16/15 07:54 PM
Everyone have different own reason. If they are not interesting. So move on and good luck!:) hopefully you can find someone new and sweet to you ok.

jacktrades's photo
Sat 05/16/15 09:54 PM
If someone stops contact with you its over or they need a break,or something really important in life came up and they need to focus on that.That's why you should met a few friends until you meet the right one. Good luck to your sir.

maclizzy's photo
Sat 05/16/15 09:58 PM
sorry
about that

Annierooroo's photo
Sat 05/16/15 09:58 PM
That's true.
Don't worry. They didn't want to meet an awesome person.

joanncecilia's photo
Sat 05/16/15 11:07 PM
The bright side of those "no responses" is you know that they are not into you. Think of the time, energy, and focus you have , once YOU know. Take it easy. Do not be hard on yourself, relax, and you'll find your spexiwl person.

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Sat 05/16/15 11:41 PM
Edited by teasel on Sat 05/16/15 11:44 PM

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Sat 05/16/15 11:42 PM
Edited by teasel on Sat 05/16/15 11:43 PM


I just find it rude to just stop talking to someone especially if that person wanted to chat with you in the first place.


Have they been on??? I know at times it says I am logged in and I am not. If I log in with my phone it just continues to stay logged in and I m long gone.
Also a person in the real world may hello and spend a couple of minutes chatting then decide to move on. Yes we normally say excuse me or what ever.

I'm not a boring person and didn't say anything that would have offended them at all. I don't get it. what



Again this is subjective, what one person finds acceptable another is going to be offended.. What one person finds interesting another is going to find boring.

I know what I am going to say is not well received by some and others will agree.
I have some basic rules for my internet behavior, I treat each and every person as I would if I was standing there face to face. I do answer and I do respond to emails the same as I would respond to someone smiling and saying something in person.

I have no problem in the real world to politely telling someone that I am in a relationship and open to friendships nothing more. The same as I do here.

When I was single I had no problems letting someone know if I was interested or not.

Now that doesn't mean I am going to go into a lengthy diatribe of the whys I am not interested. I just say thank you and wish them well..

What I have found in my many years of being in chat rooms, or on forums sites is somewhere people use it as a way to release their angst against the world and in doing that it gives them a license to be rude. Mostly way more than they are in public or anyways I hope so.


I often caution people new the internet to get a thicker skin if you don't have it then you won't last.
Laugh at others antics and enjoy the show..




OR there is something you are saying or doing that you might be aware of that is offensive, if this is happening more than once. Reread what you are writing and find the drop off time and decide if you are happy with your responses etc.. If so great if you find something not so great then change it.

Spot on Ms. Rains!

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Sun 05/17/15 02:00 AM
I have long wondered why people are so intent on "demanding" relationships with people who do not desire one with them. And sometimes, ironically enough, ignoring those that do.

If a person suddenly clams up, the reason doesn't matter. If you think it rude, think it rude and carry on.

If a few emails has someone so emotionally invested that they have to watch Jerry Maguire while eating a half gallon of chocolate ice cream when the messages stop, they got issues.

Ye olde electronic medium is a way to meet people you otherwise wouldn't in your daily life, it isn't an "accelerator" that has you living together in a week.

My recommendation would be to return to "real life" (said even though anything you do, such as chat online is an aspect of real life) to chat up women. But be warned. If you dog them for a reason they stopped talking to you in this arena you'll likely catch a stalking charge! :laughing:

This is the old bar stool banter played out online: You chat with a beautiful woman for a few minutes, she's laughing at your jokes, she touches your arm, she calls you sweetie, and you think you "got this" when she abruptly stands up and says, "Oh, my boyfriend's finally arrived, nice chatting with you".

If the advice the women have provided hasn't clued you in I'll state it directly: Whining isn't attractive to the ladies!

Man up and move on.

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Sun 05/17/15 03:25 AM
Ok I have moved on and stated that I took the advice of some. Thank you for the kind comments.

singleman960's photo
Sun 05/17/15 03:27 AM
Annierooroo flowerforyou

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Sun 05/17/15 03:37 AM
good luck flowerforyou

singleman960's photo
Sun 05/17/15 04:43 AM
Thanks debbie1980 flowers

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Sun 05/17/15 05:15 AM

rule
1. if you get a message from someone and you look at pics and read profile and you are not interested?IGNORE
2. if this person upon noticing you looked at their profile sends you a message? respond with yes I did look at it and read it and no thank you: NOT INTERESTED
3.if they want to know why you can give them a brief synapses if you so choose
4. if they persist you may then tell them to take a flying leap

Have to agree with TMommy completely on this! :thumbsup:

Being face to face in real world is a different situation. But even someone just not "feeling"something will look for a way out of the situation if they're not "feeling" some sorta chemistry. ohwell