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Topic: Its actually hard getting a woman to talk to you on here..
Huddanny's photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:17 AM
Just like every other dating sites/app.. Women find it hard to talk to a new guy or reply his messages because of past issues from scammers, heartbreakers, cheaters e. t. c they therefore portraited a schema that every guy that wanna talk to them is a potential scammer... How can we be in a relationship/dating if i cant talk to you personally?

TyphoonMk1b's photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:29 AM
Women find it hard to talk to a new guy or reply his messages because

ah. so you know this HOW?

therefore portraited a schema that every guy that wanna talk to them is a potential scammer...


again - how the Bloody hell are you coming up with this?


How can we be in a relationship/dating if i cant talk to you personally?


by doing what YOU just did. Play the victim, the poor innocent, White knight with pure intentions.




but back to the answer you seek:
Not at all. it�s no longer possible to date them.
All your efforts are futile because of the things you said before.
Not that it is based on anything substantial, but hey... i suppose you are right, right?

Huddanny's photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:35 AM
Lol... Calm down sir

Women find it hard to talk to a new guy or reply his messages because

ah. so you know this HOW?

therefore portraited a schema that every guy that wanna talk to them is a potential scammer...


again - how the Bloody hell are you coming up with this?


How can we be in a relationship/dating if i cant talk to you personally?


by doing what YOU just did. Play the victim, the poor innocent, White knight with pure intentions.




but back to the answer you seek:
Not at all. it�s no longer possible to date them.
All your efforts are futile because of the things you said before.
Not that it is based on anything substantial, but hey... i suppose you are right, right?


TyphoonMk1b's photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:45 AM
Edited by TyphoonMk1b on Tue 09/01/15 10:48 AM
But come on! It�s ridiculous!

Don�t even try to weasel yourself past all the errors other men might have done. You�ll fail.
There is no guaranteed plan to get her to reply.
Nor do you know the Reasons why.

Keep it simple. be yourself. Be nice, be smart, maybe she�ll appreciate, maybe not.
If not...
Her loss.

Also tell yourself this:
these are live people.
they spend time here.

If their experience was as bad as you portray it, they would have closed their account a long time ago.

So if their experience was as bad as you portray it, and they are STILL here...
They must be either desperate... or stupid.

Nope.
nopenopenope lets not even go there.
;-)



sybariticguy's photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:46 AM
The best way to interact with a woman is to offer her some insight into you and what you care about and share that with her. People who present sincere and open aspects of themselves have a better chance in being accepted than simply saying hello or how you look!! It takes more than compliments to gain an intelligent womans ear so you might think about what would be most propitious in attempting to interact with her..Ifyou find this difficult that may be an indicator of why success is not present.. Assume more responsibility for your input and see if that changes womens responses to you

Huddanny's photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:48 AM
Hmm... Thank you so much sir i appreciate the advice

The best way to interact with a woman is to offer her some insight into you and what you care about and share that with her. People who present sincere and open aspects of themselves have a better chance in being accepted than simply saying hello or how you look!! It takes more than compliments to gain an intelligent womans ear so you might think about what would be most propitious in attempting to interact with her..Ifyou find this difficult that may be an indicator of why success is not present.. Assume more responsibility for your input and see if that changes womens responses to you

Huddanny's photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:49 AM
Thanks man

But come on! It�s ridiculous!

Don�t even try to weasel yourself past all the errors other men might have done. You�ll fail.
There is no guaranteed plan to get her to reply.
Nor do you know the Reasons why.

Keep it simple. be yourself. Be nice, be smart, maybe she�ll appreciate, maybe not.
If not...
Her loss.

Also tell yourself this:
these are live people.
they spend time here.

If their experience was as bad as you portray it, they would have closed their account a long time ago.

So if their experience was as bad as you portray it, and they are STILL here...
They must be either desperate... or stupid.

Nope.
nopenopenope lets not even go there.
;-)




kinejimenez's photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:55 AM
You're right there's a lot of scammers here, you don't who's real.

no photo
Tue 09/01/15 10:58 AM
Hello. I don't know how I ended up clicking the wrong link and ended up here, but I might have useful advice, I guess.
I can't speak for every woman, and I'm sure it's got a lot to do with which women you're pursuing (Choosing the right people is just as important)

The top reasons I don't respond to messages is because

1. No attraction (Sorry. >< Don't want to seem superficial but the top and maybe only reason a woman would be on a dating site and not respond to a message would be because she's not attracted to the person.)
2. Cannot think of anything to say based on an empty profile, little to no pictures, and lack of text in your greeting. OR the opposite, where I receive a paragraph of overly romantic text that is very vague and impersonal and appears as if it's been massed produced and sent out to everybody on mingle.
3. There's somebody else in the picture... and he's becoming important but we haven't made it to a real couple yet.

There are ways to build attraction. Like having a handful of pictures of you out doing things, with friends, or creative selfies.
Fill out your profile. (!!) add some depth or talk about something you're passionate about. You don't have to list all of your 'goals and achievements' either. If you can keep it concise and intriguing then a girl, who you messaged, who has already been drawn in by your pictures, will be intrigued to know more about you and have something she can use to respond.

no photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:02 AM
also, the advice above; that's more for marriage, not dating.
Definitely don't take that approach... in the beginning.

dreamerana's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:05 AM

Just like every other dating sites/app.. Women find it hard to talk to a new guy or reply his messages because of past issues from scammers, heartbreakers, cheaters e. t. c they therefore portraited a schema that every guy that wanna talk to them is a potential scammer... How can we be in a relationship/dating if i cant talk to you personally?


do you walk up to strangers on the street and say hey I want to be in a relationship?
or if someone walks up to you and says something similar do you just jump right in?
no, you don't. you would probably be suspicious and get away.
maybe, just maybe, you see a spark of interest and give someone a chance to prove themself.

so why would you expect something different online? if things were going well in the real world you probably wouldn't be searching for someone online.

instead of complaining about caution that's natural when talking to anonymous strangers, join the forums. get to know people.
if people don't respond go on to someone who does.

Huddanny's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:07 AM
That doesnt mean you should ignore messages

You're right there's a lot of scammers here, you don't who's real.

Huddanny's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:08 AM
Thank you dear

also, the advice above; that's more for marriage, not dating.
Definitely don't take that approach... in the beginning.

BeautyJ21's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:10 AM
Guess some will take that chance to get to know a person and some won't.

BeautyJ21's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:10 AM
Guess some will take that chance to get to know a person and some won't.

yellowrose10's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:20 AM
No answer is still an answer. Many women get emails like crazy. No I don't have time or desire to reply to everyone especially when it's obvious they didn't bother to read the profile. I'm not here looking for the one. I am here for the forums only and if someone catches my eye (that lives near me!) then I might exchange emails

kinejimenez's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:36 AM
So you're talking in general maybe it's a matter of carefulness.

kinejimenez's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:40 AM

That doesnt mean you should ignore messages

You're right there's a lot of scammers here, you don't who's real.


So you're talking in general maybe it's a matter of carefulness.

kinejimenez's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:43 AM
Some are so exaggerated,sugar coating, the'y already love and marry you. How come they don't even know you, it's funny right?

4feelings4filled's photo
Tue 09/01/15 11:45 AM
All you got's to do is top writing messages to woman who say "don't message me" in their profile
....there you go ... and also Try starting your emails of with.."Hey (they love it when you call them that)

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