What is wrong with these people?! Guys are apparently saying "yes" or "maybe" to my pic but they can't be bothered to write me? What is up with that??!!

Yeah, I know, I can write them too but don't men preFER to be the ones who "chase" or make contact first? I've experienced that whenever I contact a man first they show no interest and/or then disappear

Maybe it's me LOL

No kidding - I am new at this internet thing - and also at getting back out there - but I don't understand it either?

i know what you mean totally...i've only actually talked to the guys on my friends list..the ones on my mutual matches have never talked to me or responded if i wrote them...so i don't bother much...

I don't get it!! I'm glad it's not just me but I don't get it, people!

Listen, I'll sit here and write emails to people all day, I've never had a problem chasing a man if I'm interested but sheesh, I get tired of Being The Guy!!

I personally think the mutual match thing is funny. Honestly, I don't know how they pick the matches. None of the guys I match with are really my type. Nobody contacts the other person, wht is the point really???????????????? I think it's a waste of time

Sweetnsexy, yeah, that's what it seems like to me. People get matched, or, well I can only speak for myself: I get matched, men are matched to me, but they do not correspond. I've written to some of them and the response is nil! I know how to write a decent email, I don't think it's that

Same here...
I don't get why they won't write?

It's not you...

Okay, teddybear, thanks, guess I'll go off and cry me a river now, sigh

I totally agree. I don't have a problem with starting the communication either, but the guys need to step it up a little bit!!!!!!!!!

take all those mutual matches and say yes to everyone. then you will get some hits, and some action. it may not be what you want, but nevertheless some activity.
then, you wait a day or two. it does not happen overnight. or try www.wealthymen.com. or SugarDaddie.com.

I agree! I looked at the match thing and there not my types so I dont even click on them.... Hmm men stepping it up will that ever happen??

Happens to me, people say "yes" or "maybe" to my picture and then when I write to them, they NEVER reply back. Makes you really wonder where their head is located now.

Hi there curious9. I looked at your profile to see if it was friendly, which it was, plus you are a very attractive lady! The site said you were "Online", so I attempted to IM you, but there was no response.

I think there are tons of software glitches on these sites, plus I believe the site randomly makes it look as if there are a lot of people online at any one time. Have you ever noticed how the pages are duplicates once you get 2 or 3 screens deep?

Dear Ladies,

Wait a second... I was about to make the same complaint/posting regarding ladies who simply dont reply. In all my "hello" type emails I'm always polite, direct, and never offensive. I even mention something from their profile to indicate that 'yes, i really did read it, and did find it interesting' I dont "shotgun" blocks of 'hello' messages, I'm respectfully selective [in regards to age/location etc].

To date - only two or three replies.


So either Rudeness Rules at JSH, or, my profile has "stink juice" all over it, OR, something is wrong with the email system? I think "Rudeness Rules" is the correct answer.

to curious9, alot of guys (like me for example) say yes and then we wait for you to say something to us because we dont want to pressure you inot talking to us if you dont want to, so we let you make the first move

cory, maybe that's true in your case, but a lot of guys just flat out ignore u when u send them a message. it's enough to make u wanna scream sometimes...but it is to the point where i am sick and tired of making the first move. from now on, i guess if i am meant to talk to someone, they are going to have to make the first contact.
Becca

It doesn't happen with every Mutual Match obviously, but there are a couple that I've contacted and a couple that have contacted me. No great fiery love going on, but lots of nice chats. Just give it some time, I guess. Continuye to post in the threads, and let people a little of your personality.

Hi everybody, thanks for all the replies and points of view

Maybe if I hang out on the boards and chat all day .... but ... um ... my boss wouldn't go for that

It is funny, tho. Maybe I'll try writing some more guys. I just haven't found that working very well. I suppose I'd get responses if I changed my profile to say I'm looking for Intimate Encounters LOL

its not just you,, happens to me,, ill even write them and get no response,, maybe i just stink or something. dunno. i just try to be friendly and they dont wanna talk,, hey thats them

for the record it's not just you...happens to me all the time. there are a few I have on my mm list that I keep in contact with regularly...but for the rest, they are just out there in MM cyber space.