My life is complicated. I am a mother and I am married . However I am a lesbian. My husband knows this has always known and Very supportive and allows me to have relationships with women as long as I don't leave him. Being with him has protected me from violence and being disowned by my family..But yet I feel trapped and desire to be with a woman freely Without all the baggage. I'm so depressed and I feel so alone.But at the same time I feel selfish for desiring to leave as he is kind , accepting and my best friend. Anyone else going through similar?

Find your husband a good wife before you leave. He sounds like a great guy.

Woa... I understand that marriage can be restricting (in various degrees), by family, culture & religion, society

Pray & put yourself & your children first. Because if YOU are not happy, your children will NOT be either... NO matter what anyone else thinks or says.

Sending positive thoughts, good luck.

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Kristi

find out a way to convince ur husband to get divorced then try to live as u want and act what u love , don't waste time if u are not happy with

I would advise you both to speak to a counselor
this band aid solution will end up hurting you both
though he claims to be 'ok' with this
not so sure he is being honest with you or himself
but is willing to settle with this so he does not lose you
or his family. Not much of a marriage or a life for either one of you

u are a mother.
u are a wife.
(some single women like me can only fantasize )
yet u still feel alone?

that.should.tell.u.that.something.
is. very.wrong.

u are depressed.
u should be.
u are hurting yourself
& your family
by being unhappy with what u have.

everyone knows that in
varying degrees all humans are selfish.

How bout your husband?
do u think he is not depressed
just because he is very supportive?

How bout your children?
do u think they wont know & feel
if their parents are unhappy
with each other?

I dare to say,
find courage to
stop using your husband Ma'am
as a shield & protector.
Be ashamed at least on that
aspect, he is the father of your
children.
He deserves more than that.

I dare to say,
find courage to
stand on your own 2 feet.
Face violence & being disowned
by your family or any other
issues that affects the lives of
your immediate family.
You owe them that.
You owe it to yourslef.

I dare to say,
find courage to be kinder to yourself
and to your husband.
You deserve to be with someone who can
make you happy, not depressed & alone.
Your husband deserves to be with someone
who will love him and want him only.
Your husband deserves freedom
to be with someone who can make him complete,
not just as a protector.

I dare to say,
your children deserves
parents that are happy with
their choices than parents
who choose to be unhappy both
for their sake.

I thank everyone who replied to this post. I'm beginning to feel stronger about doing the right thing even though it will be tough. Love and blessings to you all.