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Topic: Ladies: Heterosexual Preferences
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Wed 12/02/15 02:47 AM
Ladies: Male Heterosexual Preferences * 3 questions *

Question 1- Do you have a sexual preference ?

Macho men
Metro sexual
Urban sexual
Lumber sexual
Spornosexual
Jock
Mama's Boy
Brainiac
Thug
Sapiosexual

* Did I forget any?*

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Question 2- Exclusively

Do you only (or almost always), date a particular type? Or look for a particular type?

Example: Tall ( 5 '10'+) bearded/ mustached, white collar, Asian, never married or divorced, childless, college graduated , social drinker. Etc.
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Question 3- Major Turnoffs ?

Examples : Jobless, Living with their mother, Illegitimate children/ Baby mama drama, Baseball hats, Sports fanatic , Baggie pants.. rofl

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Wed 12/02/15 05:32 AM
Question 1

Metro sexual
Sapiosexual
Brainiac

Question 2

Two races (by my definition) Two faiths (by my definition) Natural born American (or he passed the test... :wink: ..), 5 '8' (minimum) height

Question 3- Major Turnoffs ?

Examples : Jobless, Living with their mother, Illegitimate children/ Baby mama drama, Baseball hats, Sports fanatic , Baggie pants..

* these ^^ are mine * laugh
& ANY addictions (zero tolerance for that personality) & I do not play mommy to other peoples children.
noway


SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 12/02/15 08:31 AM
I don't really get the "Illegitimate children" bit...
If a man has children with a previous partner but he wasn't married to her, you have a problem with it?

I have a problem with a man still having young children, because I am way past the family situation. I got my freedom back, and no way am I gonna compromise on that.
But whether his children are 'legitimate' or not, do I care? None of my business really ...

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 12/02/15 08:53 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Wed 12/02/15 09:03 AM
Question 1- Do you have a sexual preference ?
Most what you mention I don't even know what it is :tongue:

I just want an empowered man.
Empowered sexual laugh


Question 2- Exclusively
Do you only (or almost always), date a particular type? Or look for a particular type?
- 1.85m + (6'1 - 6'2" +)
- Caucasian, Dutch or native English speaker only
- no beard or mustache
- A masculine-energy man (as opposed to a feminine-energy man)
- good chest & shoulders & legs & arms are a plus! Oh, and hands, I'm a sucker for masculine hands love
- has something going on for himself, he's got a life


Question 3- Major Turnoffs ?
Apart from the logical stuff (drugs, booze, poor hygiene etc)
- Jobless
- Weird voice (once met this guy who's voice sounded as if his baws hadn't dropped yet. Instant turnoff)
- bad (looking) teeth --- I just keep staring at 'em ohwell
- Lacking masculinity, not just physical, but behavioral. I wanna be with a man, not another woman
- man boobs & big areola
- lacking muscle tone. If a man has thin, non-muscular arms and legs, things aren't gonna happen.
- too muscular, as in overworked bodybuilder muscles, eewww...
- a submissive man (but I guess that one was pretty clear, lol)
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Wed 12/02/15 09:27 AM
Edited by TMommy on Wed 12/02/15 09:29 AM
I don't even know what half those categories are..


ummm lemme see
at least my height
with a job
no criminal record be nice
he should have most of his teeth
be fairly close to my age
have a brain
yes I need to find him attractive

not too skinny
I am not into that caved in chest look
not too heavy
not into that rolly polly look
so that means somewhere in between

not girly
not a doormat
gonna need a sense of humor

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Wed 12/02/15 10:01 AM
Good god... Does a man need to volunteer a sample of his blood to prove his genetic worthiness before one of you fine women will consent to letting him buy you a cup of coffee?

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 12/02/15 10:08 AM

Good god... Does a man need to volunteer a sample of his blood to prove his genetic worthiness before one of you fine women will consent to letting him buy you a cup of coffee?

Well, since you mention it ... At least we'll know whether he's got HIV or not or any other STDs and chit ...

Sperm count is not required, I don't want kids anymore.

I don't really see anything wrong with stating what you find attractive and what not. As long as it isn't nitpicking and overly detailed, cos that's BS.

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Wed 12/02/15 10:09 AM
About the "bad-teeth" thing,I once met a really nice-looking man. Even though his teeth weren't exactly great to look at, he still had a lot of women flirting with him. But you know how that goes. And he was good at flirting. He never let the state of his teeth get in the way of his flirting skills. laugh. Quite admirable to have that sort of confidence. Some of the people we know, still tell me how he'd look a lot better if he had veneers put in. Yet, his personality seems off-the-wall, I guess he makes up for it in that sense. So one day, you yourselves might meet a person with bad teeth, but he might be so good at roping you in, that you just might look past it. :shrug: :thumbsup:. You won't actually know until you meet one. Some have such big personalities [I bet you thought I was going to say something else ;] ].

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Wed 12/02/15 10:23 AM

I don't even know what half those categories are..


ummm lemme see
at least my height
with a job
no criminal record be nice
he should have most of his teeth
be fairly close to my age
have a brain
yes I need to find him attractive

not too skinny
I am not into that caved in chest look
not too heavy
not into that rolly polly look
so that means somewhere in between

not girly
not a doormat
gonna need a sense of humor

Should he shower more than once a month noway

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Wed 12/02/15 10:23 AM


Good god... Does a man need to volunteer a sample of his blood to prove his genetic worthiness before one of you fine women will consent to letting him buy you a cup of coffee?

Well, since you mention it ... At least we'll know whether he's got HIV or not or any other STDs and chit ...

Sperm count is not required, I don't want kids anymore.

I don't really see anything wrong with stating what you find attractive and what not. As long as it isn't nitpicking and overly detailed, cos that's BS.



There is nothing wrong with whatever an individual demands. However... When I was dating I kept an open mind and worked from the premise of what I could not tolerate as opposed to what I must have. I know it doesn't seem like there is a big difference, but it allowed me to enjoy the company of a variety of different women.

Having a cup of coffee with someone never required me to open my book of judgement other than to decide if I enjoyed her company... Not everything hinged on whether or not she was relationship material.

I will acknowledge that making connections via the internet changes the way people approach other people and that is precisely why I eventually eschewed online "relationships." Maybe someone should blow up the internet and force us to interact the way my parents generation did...

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Wed 12/02/15 10:30 AM

About the "bad-teeth" thing,I once met a really nice-looking man. Even though his teeth weren't exactly great to look at, he still had a lot of women flirting with him. But you know how that goes. And he was good at flirting. He never let the state of his teeth get in the way of his flirting skills. laugh. Quite admirable to have that sort of confidence. Some of the people we know, still tell me how he'd look a lot better if he had veneers put in. Yet, his personality seems off-the-wall, I guess he makes up for it in that sense. So one day, you yourselves might meet a person with bad teeth, but he might be so good at roping you in, that you just might look past it. :shrug: :thumbsup:. You won't actually know until you meet one. Some have such big personalities [I bet you thought I was going to say something else ;] ].

I know, I have been there. My ex had horrible looking teeth, although he did brush and floss etc. I think the worst teeth in history, I'm sure everyone would agree if I was to post a picture of them.
Yes, you get used to it, up to a point. You never stop noticing it, not really. He didn't let him stop him from anything either, and funny enough he was also very flirty.
In the end he got dentures and when he saw the result, I think he felt he should've done that 40 years earlier, haha.

For me, I want a man who has enough self-respect to want to look good. Not ridiculous, just the normal, basic things. Like teeth.
My ex didn't give a chit about anything really, and in a way you can say that you shouldn't have to. But it's also to do with feelings of self-worth.

Anyhow ... I'm not going there again. That's what I learnt from being with a guy for 10 yrs who didn't give a chit about how he looked.

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Wed 12/02/15 10:50 AM
Lumber sexual




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Wed 12/02/15 10:57 AM
So, if a man is so physically disabled that he can't work outside the home and currently can't afford to live on his own, then he is out of luck when it comes to having a girlfriend.

Is that what the women here are saying?

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Wed 12/02/15 12:37 PM

Ladies: Male Heterosexual Preferences * 3 questions *

Question 1- Do you have a sexual preference ?

Macho men
Metro sexual
Urban sexual
Lumber sexual
Spornosexual
Jock
Mama's Boy
Brainiac
Thug
Sapiosexual

* Did I forget any?*

OK most of these labels are so open to personal definition and stereotypes I think I will just stick to monogamous heterosexual and hope it works out to how I define it.

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Question 2- Exclusively

Do you only (or almost always), date a particular type?

Nope.


Or look for a particular type?

Yes. That is usually someone size, temperament, and intellectual social equal. Above 5'9"/medium build/fair over all health , some college, traditional but kind/gracious/ considerate but not driven personality, probably a parent of grown emancipated children/maybe grandchildren but not essential, veteran, employed most of his adult life, retired.

Example: Tall ( 5 '10'+) bearded/ mustached, white collar, Asian, never married or divorced, childless, college graduated , social drinker. Etc.
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Question 3- Major Turnoffs ?

Examples : Jobless, Living with their mother, Illegitimate children/ Baby mama drama, Baseball hats, Sports fanatic , Baggie pants.. rofl



Repeated social/relationship failures. Can not live with in his means. Constant or current absence of housing. If you can't work and have to live in a rented room or subsidized apartment that would not preclude me giving you a chance depending on the circumstances that got you there but if I can clean and take menial jobs you better not think you are too good for it. Self inflicted disability is a condition of choice and will not fly with me. You drink, drug, or fight your way into a mess you will have to get yourself out. If you have a felony record you better be able to prove you were innocent or I am going to walk away. I don't care if you did the time or not. This may not includes someone having health issues that they can not afford to remediate but they have to have not given up on it. I will date a guy who pays his bills and provides for his kids if he is toothless and doesn't have a car but I find out you have back support owing or reduce your child support for your own selfish choices, are mortgaged up to your eyeballs, I will ditch you in a New York minute. Dodged service to country or abandoned country with out extreme reasons same story. Abandonment of dependent wife or children, or AGED PARENTS I figure the road gets tough I have to expect similar fate and that is a fail. Bigotry. Indoctrinated thinking. Religious or political zealots already had my fill. Any kind of liar. I don't buy you have to lie. You have the option to refuse to answer but I also have the option to see your silence as and undefined negative.

Do I need to know every little thing about a person before I date them? No. But my time is valuable and I do not waste mine and I am not wasting anyone else's'. Give me the facts and we can part company no harm no foul. My way may be the Highway but it does NOT have to be your highway. I will live and let live. I don't match make and I don't blow the whistle on adults personal life.

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Wed 12/02/15 12:41 PM


I don't even know what half those categories are..


ummm lemme see
at least my height
with a job
no criminal record be nice
he should have most of his teeth
be fairly close to my age
have a brain
yes I need to find him attractive

not too skinny
I am not into that caved in chest look
not too heavy
not into that rolly polly look
so that means somewhere in between

not girly
not a doormat
gonna need a sense of humor

Should he shower more than once a month noway
ewwwwwwwy good god yes

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 12/02/15 01:00 PM

So, if a man is so physically disabled that he can't work outside the home and currently can't afford to live on his own, then he is out of luck when it comes to having a girlfriend.

Is that what the women here are saying?

What I am saying and thinking is that his chances will be slim. But that is not gender related, it would be the same for a woman who's physically disabled.
For instance, my mom was dating regularly, then she ended up in a scoot mobile, age 55-ish. That was basically the end of her dating life (and chances of finding a partner) cos no man still able bodied man is willing to date a woman in a scoot mobile ...
Just saying ...

I can only speak for myself ...
I will indeed not date a disabled man and if he can't currently live on his own ... he better have a danged good reason!
I got the lowest benefit possible in my country, and I can live on my own. So if he can't, he seriously hasn't got his chit sussed, and I don't need a man in my life who hasn't got his chit sussed.
Maybe these things are different in the States, as your well-fare system isn't so good. It ain't brilliant over here anymore either, and it will get worse even, but people can still live on there own, even when unemployed.

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Wed 12/02/15 01:10 PM



Good god... Does a man need to volunteer a sample of his blood to prove his genetic worthiness before one of you fine women will consent to letting him buy you a cup of coffee?

Well, since you mention it ... At least we'll know whether he's got HIV or not or any other STDs and chit ...

Sperm count is not required, I don't want kids anymore.

I don't really see anything wrong with stating what you find attractive and what not. As long as it isn't nitpicking and overly detailed, cos that's BS.



There is nothing wrong with whatever an individual demands. However... When I was dating I kept an open mind and worked from the premise of what I could not tolerate as opposed to what I must have. I know it doesn't seem like there is a big difference, but it allowed me to enjoy the company of a variety of different women.

Having a cup of coffee with someone never required me to open my book of judgement other than to decide if I enjoyed her company... Not everything hinged on whether or not she was relationship material.

I will acknowledge that making connections via the internet changes the way people approach other people and that is precisely why I eventually eschewed online "relationships." Maybe someone should blow up the internet and force us to interact the way my parents generation did...

To me what I cannot tolerate and what I really do want boils down to the same thing, because I don't fill in any details like "Must have XXX hair, must have blue eyes, must have shoe size XXX, must be a bookkeeper/manager/carpenter" Etc etc. That's overspecifying and won't get you anywhere.

If I'd adept my list to "What I can not tolerate" it will remain exactly the same... I just prefer a more positive approach.
At the mo I'm busy with Law of Attraction a lot and when you focus on the negatives -what you do NOT want-, you give energy to that and you will get exactly that what you don't want. So you use knowing what you don't want to get clear what you DO want and then you start focusing on that.
flowerforyou

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Wed 12/02/15 08:31 PM
i have been talking to a few ladies. and the biggest thing with them is honesty and being romantic. NOT sex. course iam 66. i have two ladies over 70 that like me.

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Wed 12/02/15 10:41 PM
Heyyy girls ..I need a gf

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Thu 12/03/15 06:37 PM
I am not sure I have a "type" other then I tend to be attracted to tall guys with dark hair. I've been married for 23 years my husband is predominantly French, I have also dated Hispanic but the majority were Caucasian
Major turn offs would be alcoholic, bad hygiene and unemployed.
The rest is left to chemistry

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