Complicated question. In persin first impressions aren’t always accurate, so I’ll often give them more chances if my first impression isn’t so good. I usually wonder if I’m being to quick to judge, or if they’re awkward, or if I’m just being paranoid. Sometimes I’m really sorry that I gave them another chance.

1st impressions linger, but a lot of times I'm willing to give a 2nd chance.
Only if something was done that I couldn't forgive or get past.

Lol I'm not always an A hole...

If we're all honest first impressions include two items;

1. Is their photo anywhere close to reality?

2. Does their personality come anywhere close to what is described in their profile?

If they carry 30 to 50 pounds more than their picture, are 10 to 20 years older and don't possess an award winning personality this leaves a bad first impression of being dishonest.

I have learned over the years that first impressions
can be entirely misleading.

I have met peeps who made my skin crawl, to find out
later wonderful things about them, I had seen just
a wee piece of who they were.

Everyone has bad days (weeks, months haha) and I sure
do not wish to be judged on a bad day, so I will
always be open to the truth about somebody.

That assessment can be tricky. People can look fatter or slimmer in pics according to the lighting, the angle and the clothes they are wearing. That doesn't mean they are lying about their appearance.

And personalities are dynamic things. Two people can interact with the same person and have completely different impressions about that person and sometimes it simply has to do with chemistry or lack of chemistry between two combined energies. A person could be bubbly with one person and quiet and colourless with another, and it could simply be a result of incompatible energy. It is all subjective and in the end, a person's profile description is NOT the sum total of who they are, but that doesn't make them dishonest.

Photos making one look a few extra pounds different and a couple of years different is one thing. Even a photo won't make a person look 50 pounds lighter.

There are two items I look at before anything else: her age (needs to be somewhat close to mine) and her location. If she's 100 miles away I don't need to go any further.

At my age a typical woman will have a "few" extra pounds, some wrinkles and silver hair. This is normal and not a problem. When her photo has no wrinkles, her physique is that of a 40 year old woman and her hair doesn't have the colorized look (blond, brown or black) she's uploaded an older picture. At my age I can recognize if a woman is old enough to be in her 50's or 60's. We all know this and to deny it is to deceive ourself. Some say "I don't look my age". Maybe by a few years but not by 20 years.

Well I think I have to separate this from for example here on the internet.
I have had first impressions by several people that I have had to take a step back and think dang woman you have misjudged them. I have also thought someone was awesome til I got to chatting privately and thought Oh lord thank God I didn't give them my phone number.

In Person I rarely give first impression a thought. I take it easy and wait things out.

I can only remember 2 incidents that I was glad I listened to my gut and kept my distance. Unless my inner gut is screaming at me then I listen and keep my distance. That has only happened 2x in the last 20 years. And I was thankful I listened.

True, Slap one cheek and I;ll turn the other ... Slap that cheek and all bets are off

I am sure all of us have encountered individuals whom we disliked almost immediately because of a bad first impression they displayed.

If you get a bad first impression of someone, are you GENERALLY open to giving them a second chance to redeem themselves?

If so , what might incline you or NOT incline you to give them a second chance?