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It's partly the looks that draw us in, but it is the personality that helps to hold us together and to possibly love. SO....are you wanted because you are wonderful? OR Are you wonderful because you are wanted? Just Curious... |
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Yes :-)
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Edited by
peggy122
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Tue 04/05/16 01:55 PM
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Many of us have resorted to trolling for romance in the seedy world of online dating.
How "wanted" can we be?  
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Ummm.. I take it no one here has heard of plastic surgery... looks May Never fade..lol.. that reminds me! I'm late for my Botox injections..lol
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Intimacy is the key....could not have said it better....
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Looks Fade : Then What? Eyesight fades. Mental acuity fades. Everything fades over time. It's partly the looks that draw us in, but it is the personality that helps to hold us together and to possibly love. Really? So when you get together around the holidays and you and your sister reminisce about how you sat in the car for a 14 hour drive to grandma's playing the "I'm not touching you!" and "flick boogers" game you think to yourself "you know, too bad you were ugly, or at least I didn't find you attractive, but thank goodness those shenanigans never annoyed me, I absolutely loved your personality, so much that I keep coming back year after year to spend time with you, talk with you, laugh with you, and share my joys and life with you. Because it's personality that kept us together. And your personality never ever ever ever ever ever ever changed in our WHOLE life together, not one bit, not one iota. You do the exact same stuff, have the exact same outlook on life, treat me the exact same way, your personality hasn't changed a bit." Sorry, for dating, without looks, no real motivation to pursue knowing personality, putting in the time to bond. Without personality, you take second glances at looks and realize some pretty things aren't worth it. And good luck if you are ever in a relationship and you tell your wife/husband: "you know, you're just plain ugly as hell now, seriously, I'm not being cute. If I saw you on the street and didn't know you, looking at you would make me want to simply vomit. Well, maybe not vomit, but I just wouldn't look at you a second time at all. But I know you, so that's okay." See if that doesn't lead to hurt feelings and resentment and let me know if that really helps your relationship and their esteem. are you wanted because you are wonderful? I'm not wanted. At least not by everyone. Don't need to be. Just need to find someone that finds my looks AND personality attractive. After a while, neither looks or personality matter more than simple experience and bonding together, routine and establishing norms and a status quo. Are you wonderful because you are wanted? No. My value isn't primarily measured by someones subjective desire for me at any given time. |
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Many of us have resorted to trolling for romance in the seedy world of online dating. How "wanted" can we be? We are all doing the same peggy 
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I think the key is intimacy .. Which can be based on looks or personality or both . Once that fades .. A relationship will struggle to survive . When was the last time you had a moment of wonder ???? Feeling wonderful is within all of us .. Whether in relationships or not .. So I choose the first . You are wanted because you are wonderful :-) I think you hit the nail on the head, Intimacy 
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Looks Fade : Then What? Eyesight fades. Mental acuity fades. Everything fades over time. It's partly the looks that draw us in, but it is the personality that helps to hold us together and to possibly love. Really? So when you get together around the holidays and you and your sister reminisce about how you sat in the car for a 14 hour drive to grandma's playing the "I'm not touching you!" and "flick boogers" game you think to yourself "you know, too bad you were ugly, or at least I didn't find you attractive, but thank goodness those shenanigans never annoyed me, I absolutely loved your personality, so much that I keep coming back year after year to spend time with you, talk with you, laugh with you, and share my joys and life with you. Because it's personality that kept us together. And your personality never ever ever ever ever ever ever changed in our WHOLE life together, not one bit, not one iota. You do the exact same stuff, have the exact same outlook on life, treat me the exact same way, your personality hasn't changed a bit." Sorry, for dating, without looks, no real motivation to pursue knowing personality, putting in the time to bond. Without personality, you take second glances at looks and realize some pretty things aren't worth it. And good luck if you are ever in a relationship and you tell your wife/husband: "you know, you're just plain ugly as hell now, seriously, I'm not being cute. If I saw you on the street and didn't know you, looking at you would make me want to simply vomit. Well, maybe not vomit, but I just wouldn't look at you a second time at all. But I know you, so that's okay." See if that doesn't lead to hurt feelings and resentment and let me know if that really helps your relationship and their esteem. are you wanted because you are wonderful? I'm not wanted. At least not by everyone. Don't need to be. Just need to find someone that finds my looks AND personality attractive. After a while, neither looks or personality matter more than simple experience and bonding together, routine and establishing norms and a status quo. Are you wonderful because you are wanted? No. My value isn't primarily measured by someones subjective desire for me at any given time. I have said it before....you are a very smart person. Thanks
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very true op ...
but if you have enough in command with your S/O... and keep the communication going ... beauty has always been in the eye of the beholder ... and so long as they have a beautiful soul ... along with the love for one another ... and be able to compromise some... I believe you both ... will have a ever lasting loving relationship ... |
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I always go for personality then looks
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Lucky to have a huge Johnson
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I find when the cookie monster googly eyes don't bring'em in anymore it's time to go fishing... no for real..
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Lucky to have a huge Johnson Heck yea, like the say in surfing, grab your board, and show'em your nutz! |
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hopefully, when wanted, its because that person feels IM wonderful
and after looks, comes money,,,realistically speaking or, ability to pay bills if I'm not being so blunt look at all the undesirable looking men with beautiful women, usually its the THINGS they can offer which assist in that outcome the security of having endless resource available, can TRUMP,, actual good looks much of the time I imagine there has to be the ability to at least tolerate their personality as well ,,speaking generally, and not specifically'' I prefer the person, and don't care so much about the money or the looks as I do that they have certain character |
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very true op ... but if you have enough in command with your S/O... and keep the communication going ... beauty has always been in the eye of the beholder ... and so long as they have a beautiful soul ... along with the love for one another ... and be able to compromise some... I believe you both ... will have a ever lasting loving relationship ... Beautifully said 
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Lucky to have a huge Johnson Johnson? what about a small Rocky |
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Ummm.. I take it no one here has heard of plastic surgery... looks May Never fade..lol.. that reminds me! I'm late for my Botox injections..lol 
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hopefully, when wanted, its because that person feels IM wonderful and after looks, comes money,,,realistically speaking or, ability to pay bills if I'm not being so blunt look at all the undesirable looking men with beautiful women, usually its the THINGS they can offer which assist in that outcome the security of having endless resource available, can TRUMP,, actual good looks much of the time I imagine there has to be the ability to at least tolerate their personality as well ,,speaking generally, and not specifically'' I prefer the person, and don't care so much about the money or the looks as I do that they have certain character You are one fine sounding lady
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