Topic: starting all over again...
lookforward1980's photo
Sun 05/22/16 09:12 AM
How to start a new life when all youve been living for is gone and u look around and relise just how empty your life is...

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Sun 05/22/16 09:15 AM
Do the things youve always wanted, keep yourself busy with work/familyfriends/hobbies & eventually things will fall into place

lookforward1980's photo
Sun 05/22/16 09:19 AM
Thats just it I dontknw what it is I want to do lol I dont have many friends as they was all mine and my ex partners mates and to move on I kind of turned away. Its just so strange doing things alone now x

Angeinthebox's photo
Sun 05/22/16 09:25 AM
You can start with doing the chores or digging in the garden or giving money for charity ...

peggy122's photo
Sun 05/22/16 09:58 AM
Well. You are off to a decent start. The forum here is quite a supportive community and most of us have been through the horrors of divorce so we relate to the pain you are going through.

Be careful about the emailers you respond to because many of them will be scammers and will try to take advntage of your vulnerability , Dont give out your number, email or contact information to anyone.

Apart from that try to connect with your family as much as you can . You would be surprised how comforting it is to get messages back and forth on your phone from people who love you.

Also, like unknown Romeo says, seek out things you always wanted to do or if there is any club or activity in your community that you can sign up for to take your mind off things. It will help you to meet new people and potentially new friends.

lookforward1980's photo
Sun 05/22/16 10:20 AM
Thanks for your replies and ur right just being on chat sites and having people replying is comforting :wink:

soufiehere's photo
Sun 05/22/16 10:32 AM
Plus, you look like you could be from the Kardashian
gene pool, how bad can that be? :-)

Manturkey1's photo
Sun 05/22/16 10:41 AM
Truth be told..you have a long road ahead. First adjust to the day to say chores that need to be done , then the money side of life .

Having family to call upon is allways a plus.

Some one is allways here to chat but like said .. Limited personal information.

Jaan Doh 's photo
Sun 05/22/16 10:59 AM
Hiya LookForward1980,

Sorry to hear everything you have been living for is gone.
Sometimes our relationships fall apart for whatever reasons....

When my marriage went pear shaped,
I found having as little free time as possible was a great help.
And keeping my mind occupied as much as possible helped lots.
I took to studying and looking at various ways to earn a living while working from home. This I did in my evenings after the normal 9 to 5 dungeon duty...

Next, I tried to do everything I dreamed/wanted of doing,
Which helped me address the fact that...
"I am the important person in my life, right now..."

So yeah,
Right now...

You are the most important person in your life,
(Unless you have Children, in which case they come first,
And you after them).

Like many of the other members said,
The forums here are great for friendship to begin with,
And if something mutually grows out of the friendship,
Well that a PLUS I guess.

Plus they are great for simply sharing thoughts,
ideas, many of the members often post their poems, art, jokes and much more.

The main thing is not to rush into anything,
Take Baby Steps and progress at your own pace.

Good Luck.

smile2 waving


PacificStar48's photo
Sun 05/22/16 11:31 AM
I know it is hard to believe but you have so much to look forward to that I hope you will just tie a knot in your rope and hang on a while.

I was about your age when the rug was pulled out from under me and I was able to recover and thrive and I am sure you can too.

Don't be so sure your whole circle of friends will ditch you because of your Ex. Give it some time and you may find out some actually "like you best". If not then work on better friends. As said here is a good start. Keep posting and locals will find you and your contacts will start being more productive.

Soufie is right you are so very pretty you could join Screen Actors Guild and make good money trying a fun part time career.

Why not build on your current job skills and start catering all the new marrieds in the GLBT community? Lots of entrepreneurs on Mingle you can chat and brain storm inexpensive grow a business ideas with.

I have a friend that runs a small day shift only cafeteria in and industrial park and she basically has a captive clientele since their lunch break is just long enough to walk in and get a box and walk back to their building and she is making serious money serving in season simple small low calorie meals that are not the same old stuff you get at fast food places. Her customers joke she is their "weight loss plan" and most of them come every day but the limited menu she keeps her costs down.

You have lots of time an freedom to brainstorm and invent yourself any way you want. And you have plenty of Mingle pals to cheer you on.

mzrosie's photo
Sun 05/22/16 04:36 PM

How to start a new life when all youve been living for is gone and u look around and relise just how empty your life is...



I can empathize... I promise it gets better.
You came to the right place. Mingle2 has the friendliest forums in the net.
Right now, you just need a friend to hug you.
We would be delighted to be your friend.

((((lookforward1980))))
Welcome to Mingle2
flowerforyou


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Sun 05/22/16 07:35 PM

How to start a new life when all youve been living for is gone and u look around and relise just how empty your life is...




Take one second... One minute... One hour... One day... At a time...


Welcome to M2...

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Sun 05/22/16 08:13 PM
How to start a new life when all youve been living for is gone and u look around and relise just how empty your life is...



that's how I feel one year and three months ago I felt like my life is nowhere to find. and someone told me it will be hard before it get better

just focus on the things you still have, it will get better in time... flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 05/22/16 08:37 PM
Honestly you take one day at a time...

Make yourself get out and do a few things even if it means by yourself..

Find things you enjoy be it reading, movies, hobbies ect...

It all takes time to adjust.

Take time for some deep thinking what is there you have always wanted to do? Start a nest egg and work towards your goal either it be a place you want to visit or something you have always wanted..

And you can do like many do, hang out here and chat sure passes the time..bigsmile

jacktrades's photo
Sun 05/22/16 09:40 PM
Edited by jacktrades on Sun 05/22/16 09:41 PM
We have all been where you are at before sometimes in our lives, to be honest it hurts and there seems to never be a light at the end of the tunnel.Ride it out, concentrate on things that make you happy, don't blame yourself,it may take awhile but soon the sun will shine on you again. God Bless and good luck to you.

blah..blah..'s photo
Mon 05/23/16 02:11 PM

How to start a new life when all youve been living for is gone and u look around and relise just how empty your life is...

Get a friend to tell you jokes until your ribs hurt laugh

good luck, hope you find happiness again flowerforyou

Frecklefarmer's photo
Wed 05/25/16 04:52 PM
Embrace it!
This is your time to get out and do whatever it is you want
And nobody's there to ***** about it!
:banana: