Adopted man tracks down his mother... ‘falls in love’ with her



A Manchester man has confessed to “developing romantic feelings” for his long-lost birth mother after tracking her down on social media.

Shane Burke, 19, believes he had the psychological condition genetic sexual attraction (GSA), where sexual attraction arises between relatives after they meet as adults.

Rose Bestall was 15 years old when she gave birth to Burke, but social services deemed her too young to look after him.

Ralph Flynn (L), Carolyn Flynn. © Santa Clara County Sheriff's Office

He was taken into care and she was allowed supervised visits until he was adopted at age five.

But years after losing touch, Burke tracked her down via Facebook. After an emotional reunion, he says he began to develop romantic feelings for his mother.

He told the Mirror: “I’d have a few drinks and something strange came over me. I’d never thought of Rose in a romantic way but suddenly I’d started to have strange feelings for her.

“We’d been spending so much time together it was like we were boyfriend and girlfriend and going on dates.

“We went back to Rose’s and we were having a cigarette in the garden when I just blurted it out.”

Bestall, 35, says the confession left her with a “massive dilemma.”

“I knew Shane’s feelings were completely inappropriate but I had searched for him for so long and I didn’t want to push him away again.

“I told him I loved him unconditionally as his mum but our relationship could never be anything else.

“Thankfully he understood and we’re working on a normal relationship,” she told the Mirror.

GSA can happen to parents and children, siblings and half siblings, usually when one has been abandoned, adopted or raised apart due to divorce or separation.

In the UK, sex with a relative is defined as incest and is illegal under the Sexual Offences Act 2003. People who commit such crimes can face a maximum of two years in prison.

http://www.rt.com/uk/346516-son-incest-mother-sexual/

three words


'consentual adult relations'


whose business is it ,, right?

Well, it is the UK... if it weren't for GSA, we wouldn't have the Queen and her merry band of lizards! Or populations in West Virginia!

lol,,now that's funny

smh


you know its not really a race thing ,,,,I know you like to stir stuff up

This looks to be another of those not-that-well-known-outside-professional-circles things, which could, if we ponder and try to understand it thoroughly, really help to understand more of what romantic attachments really are about.

Two people, not THAT far apart in age, who have both been through a hugely wrenching life experience (ironically over each other) have to deal with some very complicated emotional difficulties because of it.

Obviously, the vast majority of us who were NOT given up as small children by a very young mother who we've never seen, and who we never knew at the time, can't feel much of anything but "Ewww!" at the thought of romance between mom and child.

But maybe, for the people in this situation, the emotional results can be rather different.

I thought we all love our mothers

smh


well, in the modern era where sex is apparently the equivalent of love,,,


perhaps there is a point to be made

Why wouldn't he.
For the most part when people are presented with the unfamiliar they use their experience to interpret it into the known (or attack it and kill it).

IMO little different than the natural blind spot.
Can't see a spot out of one eye, your brain interpolates information and puts an image there that you don't really see
Dealing with the unknown and unfamiliar is scary.
Scary is stressful.
Best thing to do is stick it into a box of the known and start reacting in the familiar.

IMO also little different than many of the "games" people play when communication sucks while dating.
Start acting in ways guaranteed to generate an extreme response that provides meaningful feedback. e.g. feel less than secure in the relationship, start flirting with someone else to get a response from the other to tell you where you stand.

New emotions, unfamiliar emotions, unclear boundaries or expectations in a relationship? Generate known and understood feelings in yourself to foster behavior that is guaranteed to elicit a known reaction from them that clarifies boundaries and expectations.


At least he seemed to have tried to address it directly.
Based on every British television show or movie ever made this would have been hidden for several years while he occasionally attempted to stutter out the truth, but something would always interrupt.


Good for them.

This is how baby liberals are conceived.

Nah, just the Bushes, and the Clinton's aand the Trumps.... as long as we can keep him away from his daughter.... :^p