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i experienced that one u state what u do in life some people tend to not talk to u anymore . i believe a job is a job and people should not judge u for the type of work u do
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People have to judge you based on what you tell them and what you show them. How else can they judge you?
Or, are they supposed to date everyone and get to know them before deciding if it's a go or no go? |
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i understand your point but what im trying to say it seems people look down on certain types of jobs and careers
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i experienced that one u state what u do in life some people tend to not talk to u anymore . i believe a job is a job and people should not judge u for the type of work u do You cannot avoid people making judgements about you. We are all entitled to find someone who we think is right for us. Don't feel bad, just be yourself for in time someone will come along who will accept you as you are with no judgement but only to love you completely and accept you for what and who you are. In finding the right partner, your financial status will not matter anymore for its how you both work it out together to live a better life, in love for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health    
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people will always find something to judge your opinion the clothes you wear etc - its the type of world we live in
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people will always find something to judge your opinion the clothes you wear etc - its the type of world we live in As I have said you cannot avoid that. People are people you cannot change that. But if you believe in your heart and in your mind that all people are like that, then you will never have a chance to find someone who could love you as you are for you have already made up your mind. Open your heart to all the possibilities in life and in love. Be confident and have faith. |
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thanks for the advise dolphin -
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thanks for the advise dolphin - goodluck in your search
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i understand your point but what im trying to say it seems people look down on certain types of jobs and careers |
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Dear OP:
Sometimes "socio-economic" factors do matter in dating. If someone has a job that pays a lot of money then they usually (if not in crazy debt due to $ mismanagement or gambling/drug/alcohol problems) have a lifestyle that matches that income. That lifestyle can cover things from where they live to where & how they vacation to the places they go when they date. A janitor has as much chance as a doctor in finding a date BUT: the janitor is going to live a different lifestyle than the doctor. The doctor can simply afford more than the janitor (at least if the janitor doesn't have a union job w/the city & has been working there 20 years & makes OT every week - then the janitor makes more $$ than the doctor LOL). The lower income guy/girl is simply not going to be able to date someone who makes way more than them b/c they simply can't keep up financially: renter vs. home owner/island vacation vs. day trip to a local beach/dinner out every Saturday at upscale restaurants vs. home cooking or an occasional dinner at the local diner. Compatibility is not just about personality, but also about "does this person do the same things I like to do?". A large income gap means the answer is no simply b/c they can't afford to. Everyone has friends at different levels of economic success & it's not an issue. Dating is a different matter, especially if the intent is to find someone for the long term. Economic balance should be achieved between the couple & that usually means similar paying careers for both parties. The things couples fight about the most is sex & money, so why start off with the potential pitfall of mismatched finances? I'm not endorsing gold-digging by either gender, just a little bit of common sense about the way human nature works. Think about it, if you started dating someone who made way less than you & were considering them for the long term: would you REALLY be ok w/the burden of paying for more than 75% of everything always? At what point would resentment kick in & then contempt & that's the end of everything. |
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i understand your point but what im trying to say it seems people look down on certain types of jobs and careers Amen to that brother. 
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i experienced that one u state what u do in life some people tend to not talk to u anymore . i believe a job is a job and people should not judge u for the type of work u do I can understand what you're trying to say but not all people think that way. There will be a time, someone will walk into your life , regardless of who and what you are. . . 
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i understand your point but what im trying to say it seems people look down on certain types of jobs and careers I must say I have to agree with this.. The main thing is you have a job....  Guess some don't realize it but trash men make a good living and they have a very dirty job... But as long as they work and can support themselves that is what counts.. |
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Edited by
RebelArcher
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Fri 08/26/16 06:15 AM
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Guess some don't realize it but trash men make a good living and they have a very dirty job... Buddy of mine has a cousin whos the Port-A-Potti guy. Hauls em to where people want em, services them daily, etc...makes a killing. Some snicker....but not his bank
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Guess some don't realize it but trash men make a good living and they have a very dirty job... Buddy of mine has a cousin whos the Port-A-Potti guy. Hauls em to where people want em, services them daily, etc...makes a killing. Some snicker....but not his bank So true hell to me as long as they have a job and pay their own bills ect that is what counts.. Shhss not everyone is a CEO~~~ But then if they complain about a person working they are not worth even being with when that person works and makes a living.. If they don't like it tell them to get a better paying job.. and pay their own way and pick up the tab when you go out lol 
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people will always find something to judge your opinion the clothes you wear etc - its the type of world we live in You should be thankful I guess coz it means they don't deserve you, go look for somebody who deserves you and accepts you for what you are and who you are.... |
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Dear OP: Sometimes "socio-economic" factors do matter in dating. If someone has a job that pays a lot of money then they usually (if not in crazy debt due to $ mismanagement or gambling/drug/alcohol problems) have a lifestyle that matches that income. That lifestyle can cover things from where they live to where & how they vacation to the places they go when they date. A janitor has as much chance as a doctor in finding a date BUT: the janitor is going to live a different lifestyle than the doctor. The doctor can simply afford more than the janitor (at least if the janitor doesn't have a union job w/the city & has been working there 20 years & makes OT every week - then the janitor makes more $$ than the doctor LOL). The lower income guy/girl is simply not going to be able to date someone who makes way more than them b/c they simply can't keep up financially: renter vs. home owner/island vacation vs. day trip to a local beach/dinner out every Saturday at upscale restaurants vs. home cooking or an occasional dinner at the local diner. Compatibility is not just about personality, but also about "does this person do the same things I like to do?". A large income gap means the answer is no simply b/c they can't afford to. Everyone has friends at different levels of economic success & it's not an issue. Dating is a different matter, especially if the intent is to find someone for the long term. Economic balance should be achieved between the couple & that usually means similar paying careers for both parties. The things couples fight about the most is sex & money, so why start off with the potential pitfall of mismatched finances? I'm not endorsing gold-digging by either gender, just a little bit of common sense about the way human nature works. Think about it, if you started dating someone who made way less than you & were considering them for the long term: would you REALLY be ok w/the burden of paying for more than 75% of everything always? At what point would resentment kick in & then contempt & that's the end of everything. Reality based....What is stated here are all true...BUT It will all depend on how far will you be willing to sacrifice for your partner, there are some people who can forego sex because of their great love for their partner (if the situation calls for it) and carry the financial burden too when needful, but these kind of people are scarce nowadays...but if you find one, sure do you're One Lucky Man or Woman.... |
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I think it depends on how shallow you are. It will matter to those who are shallow and value money more than love. Those that value love more than they worship money will follow their hearts. The socioeconomic viewpoint IMO is another form of prejudice. I choose to follow my heart and my intuition.
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Well.. people tend to date within your own Financial bracket ... why would somebody that's pulling in six figures want to date someone that's only making 30.000 a year... financially that doesn't make sense.... and people love does not conquer all... if you're pulling in large cheddar.. you are certainly going to be looking at a potential mates.. earning potential.... now if you're talking strictly... the perception of a job title... some people look down at plumbers but they pull in large cheddar.... now if you don't mind having a partner whose hands smell of poop.. well then you just hit the jackpot ..lol
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.. and yes plumbers wear gloves..lol
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