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Edited by
babykris6c
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Sun 09/04/16 11:41 AM
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Topic: Are you actually ready to be loved by someone? 
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There are many people on here but who's actually ready to be loved by someone else. Unless someone is already in a loving relationship and looking at it from hindsight I'm not sure anyone can accurately answer this. I mean love is an emotion. Emotions influence and drive behavior, which is also influenced by social training and experience. Behavior is communication. So people will communicate their love differently just as they have different styles of communication. The question then becomes "are you ready to understand, accept, and appreciate for what it is, a persons particular brand of communicating their feelings for you, while at this moment knowing absolutely nothing about how they actually communicate?" Another way to ask this could be "are you so open minded that you are completely willing to accept any type of behavior without any immediate negative association no matter what they do?" Otherwise you are asking "are you open to people behaving exactly how you want them to, according to your own bias and expectations, that communicate exactly what you want from them, automatically assuming communication is easy and transparent?" And who wouldn't be ready for that? wow ciretom ...you are always so articulate with your answers... ok pretty deep ...one could say ... your nick should be... make you think ... which seems your posts have that effect on me at least ... Otherwise you are asking "are you open to people behaving exactly how you want them to, according to your own bias and expectations, that communicate exactly what you want from them, automatically assuming communication is easy and transparent?" And who wouldn't be ready for that? OP ...that is why I say ...the right person for me ... becouse we all feel differently about love ... |
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If you love yourself, then the answer is yes. If you don't love yourself then the answer is no.
My two cents. |
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If you love yourself, then the answer is yes. If you don't love yourself then the answer is no. My two cents. 
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Too soon....
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I have actually wondered this myself lately. Am I really ready? It's not an easy question to answer. I like my life the way it is and if I have a man in my life things will change. However, if he is the right man, the changes and compromises I may have to make may not be as difficult as I may fear now. Love always finds a way. I think it will depend on the relationship. If it's good, it will be worth putting aside the fears and insecurities I may have about loving him and taking that leap of faith.
 
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I was ready .. she wasn't .. that's the life
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I have actually wondered this myself lately. Am I really ready? It's not an easy question to answer. I like my life the way it is and if I have a man in my life things will change. However, if he is the right man, the changes and compromises I may have to make may not be as difficult as I may fear now. Love always finds a way. I think it will depend on the relationship. If it's good, it will be worth putting aside the fears and insecurities I may have about loving him and taking that leap of faith. I feel pretty much the same if substituting man for woman in your above scenario. I have felt that "special" connection to a few women in the past few years. I knew they wanted to move forward with me. But, I quickly remembered all the previous angst and effort of past relationships. Then I thought about all the changes I would have to make if things did work out. So, I walked away. Later on, I wondered if I should have made the effort or not. My logic said hell to the no. Things are good the way they are. But, my feelings said I made another mistake. |
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I can easily say yes to love with that special person, if we mutually find each other. I think saying yes to love is easy becuse it's often feeling-based and most people have great feelings when they first fall in love, but love involves way more than that initial feeling. It requires mutual acceptance of some flaws in each other, and sacrifiice and compromise and working through conflict etc.
I dont think you truly know that you are ready for all of THAT , until you are confronted with all the challenges that love and relationships bring. |
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I wandered, as lonely as a cloud
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I do wonder how many people genuinely want that... an awful lot of men seem to want to be treated badly; in other words, they seem to prefer women who are cold and aloof - women who illustrate the saying "treat em mean and keep em keen." I refuse to be like that; I'm not going to play games, and if I perceive that a man has the above-mentioned tendencies, I run a mile!
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I do wonder how many people genuinely want that... an awful lot of men seem to want to be treated badly; in other words, they seem to prefer women who are cold and aloof - women who illustrate the saying "treat em mean and keep em keen." I refuse to be like that; I'm not going to play games, and if I perceive that a man has the above-mentioned tendencies, I run a mile! You just pigeon holed an alwful lot of men. I could say the same about some women, but I think that would be wrong, maybe a few would be a better term. |
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Nope, a kiss is a kiss, and a hug is a hug, it can be between friends. I guess it depends on the situation, but no one has made me want to just leave drop everything I am trying to achieve for a possibility of a relationship or love. Not yet anyways.
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By all means my answer is yes.
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yes msg me
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yes i'm readdy
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Edited by
unknown_romeo
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Mon 09/05/16 05:55 AM
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Are you actually ready to be loved by someone? You mean am i ready to be emotionally tortured , played around with my true feelings, taken for granted & unappreciated, backbitten, given false hope & just mess up my mind? No i'm not, but thanks for asking  |
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You mean am i ready to be emotionally tortured , played around with my true feelings, taken for granted & unappreciated, backbitten, given false hope & just mess up my mind? Unfortunately you can NOT control what others do or say to you. However, you can CHOOSE how you let it effect you. Don't allow someone else to control your emotions or feelings. Take control of yourself. |
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Wow after reading all this all I can say is wow. I need some sleep.
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