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I started talking to a guy and we made a few calls and texts a few times then he blocks me on mingle. I text and say, you blocked me on mingle, why? He says oh we can communicate by phone or text, honey. I said "fine, I won't bother you again". " He says you broke up with me! ". I wasn't aware we were going steady first of all so I say, "where did you get that?" He goes silent - I get nothing. Am I crazy ? Of did I just lose a narcissistic guy who want to make me pay for a sin?
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How would you know you were blocked here? There isn't a way to know. Blocked people just think they are being ignored
Sounds like he is playing games though |
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He did block me. If you write someone e a message on mingle and they blocked you, it tells you. Yep, a game player for sure.
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I get blocked all the time...
I think it's my aftershave. 
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WHere did he get that?
From you ... You said "Fine, I won't bother you again." Which means "I'm breaking up with you." You may have sent that cos you were hurt, but even when hurt you got to think about what you tell a guy. You may have hurt him just the same with your reaction. You cut off communication with your own reaction, instead you could've asked or said that you liked talking to him on Mingle too. That way you could've found out more about his reasons for blocking you. Now you know nothing, you just think he was a w@nker, and maybe he wasn't at all. Also, you barely knew the guy, yet you were trying to make him do what you want: Not block you, and if he does and gives you his reasons for doing so, you get PO and tell him it's over. No man likes that kind of manipulative behaviour in a woman, so logical he isn't saying anything anymore. Not saying he wasn't a bad guy, but he could have been an okay man. Just think about your own reactions so you don't push guys away. 
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I started talking to a guy and we made a few calls and texts a few times then he blocks me on mingle. I text and say, you blocked me on mingle, why? He says oh we can communicate by phone or text, honey. I said "fine, I won't bother you again". " He says you broke up with me! ". I wasn't aware we were going steady first of all so I say, "where did you get that?" He goes silent - I get nothing. Am I crazy ? Of did I just lose a narcissistic guy who want to make me pay for a sin? You didn't lose a narcissistic guy wants to make you pay for a sin... |
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move on
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Am I crazy ? Based solely on my experience with online dating and what is written in the OP, without any professional licenses allowing me the power or authority to diagnose you as such, I would say you fulfill my definition of "routine online crazy," but not like "legally crazy." |
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Well, I guess you all could be right but what's done is done so guess I'll just move on.
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You could be right. Wasn't that upset about his blocking me on mingle - more that he didn't say before he did it. I just meant I would not bother him on mingle not to say goodbye forever. It's all good - moving on now.
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Yes I will
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I like to talk (voice calls) with friends I made on Mingle, this does not stop us from messaging on Mingle, which is a good fallback in case my friends or my phone is playing up...
So really it is better you were blocked sooner than later, at least you have not invested valuable time only to find out the same thing later on... Good Luck |
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My first guess is, he wanted to keep looking on Mingle and didn't want you to be able to see he was still on here.
I think it's a big red flag and moving on is a great idea. Also agree, always better to find out sooner, rather than later. Online dating is FULL of disappointments... |
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Online dating is FULL of disappointments... You can say that again. |
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WHere did he get that? From you ... You said "Fine, I won't bother you again." Which means "I'm breaking up with you." You may have sent that cos you were hurt, but even when hurt you got to think about what you tell a guy. You may have hurt him just the same with your reaction. You cut off communication with your own reaction, instead you could've asked or said that you liked talking to him on Mingle too. That way you could've found out more about his reasons for blocking you. Now you know nothing, you just think he was a w@nker, and maybe he wasn't at all. Also, you barely knew the guy, yet you were trying to make him do what you want: Not block you, and if he does and gives you his reasons for doing so, you get PO and tell him it's over. No man likes that kind of manipulative behaviour in a woman, so logical he isn't saying anything anymore. Not saying he wasn't a bad guy, but he could have been an okay man. Just think about your own reactions so you don't push guys away. I agree, Crystal. Second this. |
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WHere did he get that? From you ... You said "Fine, I won't bother you again." Which means "I'm breaking up with you." You may have sent that cos you were hurt, but even when hurt you got to think about what you tell a guy. You may have hurt him just the same with your reaction. You cut off communication with your own reaction, instead you could've asked or said that you liked talking to him on Mingle too. That way you could've found out more about his reasons for blocking you. Now you know nothing, you just think he was a w@nker, and maybe he wasn't at all. Also, you barely knew the guy, yet you were trying to make him do what you want: Not block you, and if he does and gives you his reasons for doing so, you get PO and tell him it's over. No man likes that kind of manipulative behaviour in a woman, so logical he isn't saying anything anymore. Not saying he wasn't a bad guy, but he could have been an okay man. Just think about your own reactions so you don't push guys away. I agree, Crystal. Second this. |
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WHere did he get that? From you ... You said "Fine, I won't bother you again." Which means "I'm breaking up with you." You may have sent that cos you were hurt, but even when hurt you got to think about what you tell a guy. You may have hurt him just the same with your reaction. You cut off communication with your own reaction, instead you could've asked or said that you liked talking to him on Mingle too. That way you could've found out more about his reasons for blocking you. Now you know nothing, you just think he was a w@nker, and maybe he wasn't at all. Also, you barely knew the guy, yet you were trying to make him do what you want: Not block you, and if he does and gives you his reasons for doing so, you get PO and tell him it's over. No man likes that kind of manipulative behaviour in a woman, so logical he isn't saying anything anymore. Not saying he wasn't a bad guy, but he could have been an okay man. Just think about your own reactions so you don't push guys away. I agree with this completely 
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I'm really sorry for your experience. It would be nice, if after all the communications back and forth that he felt comfortable to be honest with you. Don't lose hope.
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hey der
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You had a. Moment?
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