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Sat 11/19/16 06:22 AM
I have come across this in a couple of profiles..."
"If you voted for (blank) you need not contact me"
Really?...are we bringing politics into the dating game now?...How mature.tongue2

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Sat 11/19/16 07:45 AM
Welcome to the human race, I've met a lot of people like that in my travels and the sad thing is most of them I've met in the US. Think you're seeing it more on the dating site because the last US election was so polarized.

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Sat 11/19/16 07:57 AM
Well political views and affiliations reflect one's values, so of course it has an impact on relationships. This certainly isn't anything new. laugh

On the plus side, its good to know guys are reading the profiles. :thumbsup:

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Sat 11/19/16 08:14 AM

Well political views and affiliations reflect one's values, so of course it has an impact on relationships. This certainly isn't anything new. laugh

On the plus side, its good to know guys are reading the profiles. :thumbsup:

I just think it is the beginning of an ugly trend...and where do you draw the line?...

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Sat 11/19/16 08:16 AM

Welcome to the human race, I've met a lot of people like that in my travels and the sad thing is most of them I've met in the US. Think you're seeing it more on the dating site because the last US election was so polarized.

Must we like everything our date likes in order to Mingle together?

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Sat 11/19/16 08:37 AM


Well political views and affiliations reflect one's values, so of course it has an impact on relationships. This certainly isn't anything new. laugh

On the plus side, its good to know guys are reading the profiles. :thumbsup:

I just think it is the beginning of an ugly trend...and where do you draw the line?...


That's easy: we draw the line at the trivial. Core values are important in determining compatibility though.

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Sat 11/19/16 09:26 AM



Well political views and affiliations reflect one's values, so of course it has an impact on relationships. This certainly isn't anything new. laugh

On the plus side, its good to know guys are reading the profiles. :thumbsup:

I just think it is the beginning of an ugly trend...and where do you draw the line?...


That's easy: we draw the line at the trivial. Core values are important in determining compatibility though.

I just hope some people aren't considering political preference a core value.

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Sat 11/19/16 09:56 AM
Edited by Annagram on Sat 11/19/16 10:08 AM

I just hope some people aren't considering political preference a core value.


But political preference is based on core values. Otherwise, what is it based on?

I myself have pretty strong political views on some topics. I have close friends and family that have differing views. We can agree to disagree on topics, we can agree to just not talk about other topics. Do I want add people to my social circle (online or otherwise) where we don't have a lot of common ground? Not really. I think it actually makes sense for individuals to filter who they want to talk to based on that which they are passionate about.

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Sat 11/19/16 10:29 AM
This is some more of that silliness that keeps people apart. Political view has nothing to do with core values. It has nothing to do with who and what you are. A political view is just that. It's a view. But who and what you are goes way deeper than politics. I see all kinds of shallowness on dating sites. Let's not add politics to the mix.

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Sat 11/19/16 10:53 AM
Edited by Mike6615 on Sat 11/19/16 10:54 AM


Well political views and affiliations reflect one's values, so of course it has an impact on relationships. This certainly isn't anything new. laugh

On the plus side, its good to know guys are reading the profiles. :thumbsup:

I just think it is the beginning of an ugly trend...and where do you draw the line?...



Where do you draw the line? It's easy--just don't email those people. They're never going to change and you wouldn't be happy with them.

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Sat 11/19/16 11:04 AM


Where do you draw the line? It's easy--just don't email those people. They're never going to change and you wouldn't be happy with them.


Correct. Respect that people have different affiliations, and if their affiliations are what they are passionate about, it's not a "silly" difference and it's certainly not shallow. I find the complete misunderstanding of the importance of this baffling.

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Sat 11/19/16 04:53 PM
Interesting topic. Given this past election and the two great candidates we all had to choose from, I wouldn't necessarily eliminate someone based on voting differently than I did.laugh

And when it comes to choosing friends, I think we all sort of lean towards people that we have most in common with. It's almost like human nature. That being said, I think we all have some friends that we differ with politically, but still appreciate something about them, to the point of calling them "friend."

But looking for a relationship? My guess is, political views play a part in compatibility. I'm one that looks for someone that I'm compatible with, someone that I have a lot in common with. And if you are on different ends of the spectrum politically, that would probably make it difficult to really form a connection.

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Sat 11/19/16 07:07 PM


Welcome to the human race, I've met a lot of people like that in my travels and the sad thing is most of them I've met in the US. Think you're seeing it more on the dating site because the last US election was so polarized.

Must we like everything our date likes in order to Mingle together?

For some people it's race, others it's religion, I'm guessing that there are those that consider political alignment a deal breaker.

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Sat 11/19/16 07:27 PM

I have come across this in a couple of profiles..."
"If you voted for (blank) you need not contact me"
Really?...are we bringing politics into the dating game now?...How mature.tongue2


Sounds pretty mature to me if some one takes their politics seriously

Just as it would sound mature for someone who didn't take their politics seriously to not be bothered by their mates political view.

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Sun 11/20/16 12:53 AM
I wish to avoid the untrustworthy, the deluded, and the ignorant. I regard a woman's choice of candidate, as well as of news and opinion sources, as a reliable litmus test.

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Sun 11/20/16 02:17 AM

I have come across this in a couple of profiles..."
"If you voted for (blank) you need not contact me"
Really?...are we bringing politics into the dating game now?...How mature.tongue2


"If you voted for (blank) you need not contact me"

This says to me,

Their preference is to find anyone providing they are not of the (blank) political faith?

This implies to me their dislike or intolerance for people of (blank) political faith, bigotry.

I agree with you. It is the way it was said and it is bringing politics in to it in my opinion, since they could have more easily, and clearly, said they are looking for someone of their own political faith, without pointing the finger at anyone else's political faith.


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Sun 11/20/16 02:54 AM

I wish to avoid the untrustworthy, the deluded, and the ignorant. I regard a woman's choice of candidate, as well as of news and opinion sources, as a reliable litmus test.


Sheesh.
Political parties put up candidates,
not the one you might date.

Holding your (potential) date responsible for that...
really?

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Sun 11/20/16 04:58 AM
Bottom line is, we don't know these people...they certainly do not know us. They might as well be Unicorns...mythical beasts in suits/pants suits, blowing sunshine up our arse...promising all of us a better life in the, "soon to be" near future, and often need another 4yrs to really get it done....and I'm supposed to throw away a perfectly good Cougar, because we don't think alike...
I don't think so...that's not me.winking

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Sun 11/20/16 04:34 PM

I take my political views seriously. But not to the point that I would let it get in the way of a perfectly good date. That's crazy to me. Just because they don't see what I see in a presidential candidate isn't reason enough to not want to date them. In some cases, one has to learn to agree to disagree.

On another site, this same topic is being discussed. Some of these people I can't help but laugh at them. Some talk about how hard it is to find a compatible person to date and maybe have a long term relationship with. I can understand the ones who say they have turned down many because they were nutty, weird,crazy,stalker,drunk or dope head or worse. But political view? NO. I don't get it. To me, it's like cutting your nose off to spite your face.

And it proves something that I've been saying about people on dating sites for years. A lot of people screw themselves. Some are their own worst enemy. Too much nit pick and turning down others over trivial things.


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Sun 11/20/16 04:54 PM
It's everyone's prerogative to decide what matters to them in selecting who they date, and it's everyone's prerogative to have an opinion that. No doubt about that.

I guess what is baffling to me is why isn't just understood that there is a big difference in viewpoints between liberals and conservatives? That is the issue as I see it. This is larger than simply an elected official one votes for every four years. It's a difference in one's world view that you use to form those decisions. I am not attracted to people that don't respect my thoughts and opinions, and while it's possible to have connections with those who view the world drastically differently, it's also logical to use your world view as a filter to decide who to date. To me that is a much more meaningful criteria than merely physical appearance, etc.

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