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a conversation is a two-way street knowwatimsayin
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Why do guys message you tell you how much they want to get to know you, how nice you seem etc then just talk about themselves? This has happened to me several times now .. they all can't be insensitive jerks - or am I just too good a listener? You post some misery on here, seriously. Almost all your posts point the finger at someone else, usually men. I wouldn't last 5 minutes with you, I'd be in tears. You might want to look at yourself and ask if it's you. You're welcome. |
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yes WHY? it seems you are not alone  Thanks. |
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Why do guys message you tell you how much they want to get to know you, how nice you seem etc then just talk about themselves? This has happened to me several times now .. they all can't be insensitive jerks - or am I just too good a listener? My apologies to the men who were offended by my "rant". Didn't think I would offend anyone - ask a simple question.... |
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It's male ego. I think it goes back to the caveman era. It's in our genes and it's tough for us to keep it in check.
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I wasn't offended.
But considering when on Mingle2, as opposed to on the phone or a video chat. Wouldn't a person be reading and then typing a response, as to listening. Just a thought.  Of course now I'll probably just be considered an @$$ for my thought. 
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Why do guys message you tell you how much they want to get to know you, how nice you seem etc then just talk about themselves? This has happened to me several times now .. they all can't be insensitive jerks - or am I just too good a listener? You're a nice lady and a good listener, no doubt. However, if a guy wants to get to know you better then where from should he start? You may not like if the guy starts from a proper questioning. Asking about your personal stuff and everything. Talking about your life and work for starters might give the subject for a mutual discussion. I've noticed that girls pretty often expect the guys to take initiative, but if they do, girls are never satisfied .. lol |
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Why do guys message you tell you how much they want to get to know you, how nice you seem etc then just talk about themselves? This has happened to me several times now .. they all can't be insensitive jerks - or am I just too good a listener? You're a nice lady and a good listener, no doubt. However, if a guy wants to get to know you better then where from should he start? You may not like if the guy starts from a proper questioning. Asking about your personal stuff and everything. Talking about your life and work for starters might give the subject for a mutual discussion. I've noticed that girls pretty often expect the guys to take initiative, but if they do, girls are never satisfied .. lol I guess I wasn't clear on my post. Recently I had a guy tell me how much he wanted to get to know me, how nice I was etc. We talked back & forth & he gave me his regular email address to contact him. I din't feel like going into how I don't give out my personal email address to people I don't know (my last name is on my email address) I listened to his story he seemed really genuine - he told me a sad story about how his fiance had died. I was really supportive & then he "thanked me for my kind words", said he wanted to know more about me and told me to write him at his Gmail account or contact him at google hang out. I told him of course that I don't give out my personal email address to people I don't know and that I don't know what google hangout is. Why would someone do someone like that? I might be naive but I really don't think he was scamming me. Other guys have asked me for my personal email address right up front so I figured they were scammers. Why would someone be reluctant to talk awhile on this site first. Who knows right? welcome to the world of internet dating.. Thanks for listening. |
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Why do guys message you tell you how much they want to get to know you, how nice you seem etc then just talk about themselves? This has happened to me several times now .. they all can't be insensitive jerks - or am I just too good a listener? You're a nice lady and a good listener, no doubt. However, if a guy wants to get to know you better then where from should he start? You may not like if the guy starts from a proper questioning. Asking about your personal stuff and everything. Talking about your life and work for starters might give the subject for a mutual discussion. I've noticed that girls pretty often expect the guys to take initiative, but if they do, girls are never satisfied .. lol I guess I wasn't clear on my post. Recently I had a guy tell me how much he wanted to get to know me, how nice I was etc. We talked back & forth & he gave me his regular email address to contact him. I din't feel like going into how I don't give out my personal email address to people I don't know (my last name is on my email address) I listened to his story he seemed really genuine - he told me a sad story about how his fiance had died. I was really supportive & then he "thanked me for my kind words", said he wanted to know more about me and told me to write him at his Gmail account or contact him at google hang out. I told him of course that I don't give out my personal email address to people I don't know and that I don't know what google hangout is. Why would someone do someone like that? I might be naive but I really don't think he was scamming me. Other guys have asked me for my personal email address right up front so I figured they were scammers. Why would someone be reluctant to talk awhile on this site first. Who knows right? welcome to the world of internet dating.. Thanks for listening. Seesh people need to grow a thicker skin these days.  well hangouts is a google chat type app tied to Gmail usually. As for the email address. You can search one and find out the name of the person who owns it. Not to mention they sometimes will just spam your inbox with a lot of crap you don't want to look at. like porn and viagra links. Rant on you're doing just fine. 
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Edited by
Duttoneer
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Fri 01/27/17 08:00 AM
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Why do guys do what they do... For as long as some women are happy to give men they have never met large sums of money for chatting to them online, there will always be men more than happy to oblige them, you are right to be careful regarding whom you become friends with. You are right to stay on the site to exchange emails, if they are genuinely interested they should have no objection. Here in the UK alone, According to the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau, there were 3,889 victims of so-called romance fraud last year, who handed over a record £39m. Action Fraud, the UK's cyber-crime reporting centre, says it receives more than 350 reports of such scams a month. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-38678089 |
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Why do guys do what they do... For as long as some women are happy to give men they have never met large sums of money for chatting to them online, there will always be men more than happy to oblige them, you are right to be careful regarding whom you become friends with. You are right to stay on the site to exchange emails, if they are genuinely interested they should have no objection. Here in the UK alone, According to the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau, there were 3,889 victims of so-called romance fraud last year, who handed over a record £39m. Action Fraud, the UK's cyber-crime reporting centre, says it receives more than 350 reports of such scams a month. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-38678089 |
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Why do guys do what they do... For as long as some women are happy to give men they have never met large sums of money for chatting to them online, there will always be men more than happy to oblige them, you are right to be careful regarding whom you become friends with. You are right to stay on the site to exchange emails, if they are genuinely interested they should have no objection. Here in the UK alone, According to the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau, there were 3,889 victims of so-called romance fraud last year, who handed over a record £39m. Action Fraud, the UK's cyber-crime reporting centre, says it receives more than 350 reports of such scams a month. Thanks that's validating. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-38678089 |
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In my experience, it's especially clear when they type "I will like to know you more better" --- always end up being scammers.
I got to the place where I would immediately delete and block emails like that - even if it was someone sincere, and English was their second language. As for people - and I agree it's NOT gender specific - there are some who do all the talking. You can point it out, at some point, and hope they simply didn't realize they were not letting you get a word in edgewise. My ex boyfriend was like that when I met him, and I told him - and it helped. Then you have people out there that really only care about themselves, and it's doubtful you'll ever change that - just say next, and move on. |
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I don't know, when I message a woman, I just talk about her boobs
and then I never hear from her again 
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I don't know, when I message a woman, I just talk about her boobs and then I never hear from her again Try calling them breasts. It shows that you are a classy guy 
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Here in the UK alone, According to the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau, there were 3,889 victims of so-called romance fraud last year, who handed over a record £39m. Action Fraud, the UK's cyber-crime reporting centre, says it receives more than 350 reports of such scams a month. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-38678089     
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I think that questions are overrated. The first aspect is that there is no body language in all of this. Questions tend to be the most misunderstood without body language.
I prefer to just talk and share at first. In that you can say a lot about yourself realizing that people have general interests and you can cover them. Resist your curiosity... Just express yourself and let them know you that way. I think questions are really kind of rude and to some extent selfish in the sense of "I'm entitled to an answer." I suppose my rant would be all the questions a guy gets. nuff said... |
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I don't know, when I message a woman, I just talk about her boobs and then I never hear from her again Try calling them breasts. It shows that you are a classy guy it takes too long to spell out breasts. I like to abbreviate 
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In the end guys are pigs and only looking for one thing.
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