I believe we are all on here to make a connection.
So I don't understand why people send a one or two words message.
Ex: Hi beautiful, or how is your day etc...
These are pleasant but I do not feel they lead to forming a connection.
Ask questions of substance. If you read my profile you should have at least a few questions or thoughts.
What do others think???? As a woman I would like to know what response are men looking for???
Peace and smiles

Annoying yes, some ladies do it too.
Possible it's just an ice breaker, if they appeal to you then you reply. saves someone writing a load of stuff, just my opinion

Good point, thanks.

I respect that you might not want to write a great deal in case the other person winds up not being interested but writing an first email that indicates you carefully read my profile increases the possibility that we would at least exchange a few meaningful emails.
The one word first contact pretty much tells me that guy is not the guy.
IMHO, Dani

Wtf

That's my point, if a person seeks a connection than simply attempt to connect

Seriously???

This is getting a bit serious! ! It's happened to my little animal post
Don't know if I can take any more

Lol,

The simple few word response is ineffectual and lacks any genuine interest or demonstrate any imagination on the sender nor a genuine acknowledgement which is preferably personalized and invites a response due to its sincerity and content...

Some folks also lack any social skills and are comfortable . Also some people send an acknowledgment but do not want to meet just let the person know they were read which is unnecessary and redundant as no response is the correct one if not interested...

Yes, exactly.

Hi wie geht es dir gut

I agree, it is said that you shouldn't judge a book by its cover but first and foremost and at a browsing glance, if you're not attracted to the picture then it's unlikely you'll go any further.

I think we could sit here for years contemplating utopian ideologies regarding how others "should" contact us, how first contacts "should" go, analyzing what everything "really" means, but it's only going to lead to greater frustration if you ever decide to actually interact with the "real" world.


Aren't you expecting too much from a first contact message?
Anymore a lot of people are using their phones and an app to contact people via dating sites.
So emailing is little different than a text message, the app being used treats it like a text message.
IMO/IME a lot of people that are using their phones tend to assume others are doing so as well, contacting app to app, rather than app to website.
IMO/IME most people do not like lengthy text messages.

Not to mention, you do not make a real connection online.
All you get is text. Any connection is in your own head, your own bias, your own interpretation of text.
"Connection" is based on healthy communication.
Communication is based very little on the words that exit your mouth.
Online, that's all you get. Words that would come out of your mouth coming through your fingers.
"Connections" online are like celebrity crushes.
Do you truly believe people have a "real" connection with Stephen King after reading IT?

By saying you are looking to make a connection online all you are saying is "I am looking for the person that can blow the best smoke up my butt through storytelling."


Yeah! Put you on the spot like a job interview! Duh. Can't people figure out others love to be emotionally probed by random strangers?


Yeah! Get engrossed in your profile! Build up this great interest in who you are...then contact you and most likely get no answer.
That feels great, building up a great curiosity and interest and then just being ignored.


Me personally, I like the response "damn, you're sexy. I'd love to get together and see if that's really you. I'm going to Chili's tomorrow for lunch at 12, care to meet me there? I'm looking to date, not hide like a rabbit online and be fed self edited biased pablum. I'd rather see you blush when I make you guess what color panties I'm wearing."

My guess...The one or two word messages are from scammers.

I think what creates attraction is slightly personal but also a combination of things.
For me, the message is very important. The style of writing, the phrasing, the message itself can tell so much about a person! Stuff like intelligence, personality, their sense of humour, and if they are positive or not.
It's what first attracted me to him.

As for the ones who only say "Hi" or "Hi dear, I like your smile"... I don't even bother reacting.
Same for the idiots that send messages saying "I like your profile, I'd really like to get to know you." because I clearly state I have met someone and am more than happy. Meaning many don't bother reading, just send out the same message to a gazillion women, hoping someone is stupid enough to fall for it and reply.

My advice...
-the meaningless "Hi" stuff, ignore it.
-THe other too-good-to-be-true messages (you look great, I love your this and that and bladiblar)... ignore it --> if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, it is a duck.

Only reply to the ones that truly feel and sound genuine, if at all possible mention something personal from your profile.

Hi beautiful

Scoob you and I are pretty much on the same wave length here.