Topic: What is your Inspiration?
Tom4Uhere's photo
Tue 03/14/17 08:12 PM
Edited by Tom4Uhere on Tue 03/14/17 08:27 PM
Where or what gives you inspiration to continue using online dating sites?

Do you have a firm belief that your special person is going to be found?

Is there something in online dating that you don't get in the real world that gives you hope for a future partner?

Is it dedication to a goal or just making yourself available for the finding?

Edit to add: Or Something Else?


msharmony's photo
Tue 03/14/17 08:57 PM
Edited by msharmony on Tue 03/14/17 08:58 PM
Its something to do.

I do not have any firm belief in a 'special person'.

I get to talk on the same level as other adults unlike real time where there is always a hierarchy. It doesn't give me hope for a future partner though. I realize my standards and interests are very hard to match.

There is no goal involved, but it does open me up to availability I suppose.


Tom4Uhere's photo
Tue 03/14/17 09:07 PM
Edited by Tom4Uhere on Tue 03/14/17 09:08 PM

Its something to do.

I do not have any firm belief in a 'special person'.

I get to talk on the same level as other adults unlike real time where there is always a hierarchy. It doesn't give me hope for a future partner though. I realize my standards and interests are very hard to match.

There is no goal involved, but it does open me up to availability I suppose.


Thanx for the comment.

I think I get my inspiration from the hope that someone might see me and say "Hey, I have got to meet this guy".

I continue to use online dating because it is the easiest way to get my personality out to the greatest number of potential matches. In person, the potential is diluted with unavailables.

I do believe somebody is looking for someone just like me. My reservations come with the knowledge that not many are willing to take a chance that I may be lying.

My dedication is to a goal. The goal is to find someone that thinks I am all that. I do believe it can be done but it will take some time and a lot of commitment. I believe being consistent is very important. My goal is to be consistent in honesty of my personality to allow my perspectives a chance to see me for me.

Edit for spelling

dreamerana's photo
Tue 03/14/17 10:40 PM


Its something to do.

I do not have any firm belief in a 'special person'.

I get to talk on the same level as other adults unlike real time where there is always a hierarchy. It doesn't give me hope for a future partner though. I realize my standards and interests are very hard to match.

There is no goal involved, but it does open me up to availability I suppose.


Thanx for the comment.

I think I get my inspiration from the hope that someone might see me and say "Hey, I have got to meet this guy".

I continue to use online dating because it is the easiest way to get my personality out to the greatest number of potential matches. In person, the potential is diluted with unavailables.

I do believe somebody is looking for someone just like me. My reservations come with the knowledge that not many are willing to take a chance that I may be lying.

My dedication is to a goal. The goal is to find someone that thinks I am all that. I do believe it can be done but it will take some time and a lot of commitment. I believe being consistent is very important. My goal is to be consistent in honesty of my personality to allow my perspectives a chance to see me for me.

Edit for spelling


If you don't mind my saying so, i think you present very well thatbyou are a genuine person. I've followed some of your posts or replies and you do give a srnse of who you are. I sincerely hope you find whatvyou seek.

As for what brought me here to minlgle land. At first it was curiosity and hope.
I have since learned a lot if interesting lessons due to people behaving without filters because of the relative anonymity of being online.
What kerps me here and brings me back are that there are people i genuinely appreciate. Also, many of the topics are interesting. The games offer something to do on insomnia nights.
I do believe in a special person. I'm not sure if that chance came and went (though nit with anyone here).
I ask myself sometimes if we are sometimes blind to what's in front of us.
I think I'm rambling so I'll come to an end for now

no1phD's photo
Tue 03/14/17 10:47 PM
Ohhh... Mon Cheri... what keeps you coming back like a beat down dog..
Time After Time.... always looking in the dog dish for some little scrumptious tidbit.. but heartbreakingly there is nothing in the dish...yes..hmmmm.... I have a strong belief that that person that one person.. will look at my profile and say hi... and then pray to the Gods I can find the words Reach her.. deeply to her soul.. hope that at that moment I am not distracted by my offline..world. . Hope that my temperament Or my tone in my texts do not come off too eager.. or I play it too cool and distant... all the things that have to line up in the universe to make that Spark that connection...
Turn into something long lasting. ..

But in between the waiting and the hoping... I get to come in here and hang out with you great people...
Lol

barbadogirl's photo
Tue 03/14/17 11:24 PM
I just started online dating. For me it's five years after divorce.
I don't get out much to meet people. I don't do the bars or clubs.
I put myself out there in hopes I might meet someone that I find
funny intelligent kind person that I feel a connection with. Until
that happens you guys keep me on the floors laughing.

Maybe make a few friends, offer moral to support to someone in the
same place as me. Slim pickens where I live dead or taken LOL!
I am inspired everyday. Sometimes it's as plain as the nose on your
face. Sometimes it is a wait. I am up for the challenge.

I have a full life with farm work teen. But hopefully I will meet the
person, who I can slow down and smell the roses with......flowerforyou

no photo
Fri 03/24/17 05:42 PM

Where or what gives you inspiration to continue using online dating sites?
Just decided to give it a shot. Wasn't expecting anything. Though...

Do you have a firm belief that your special person is going to be found?
Some find, some not. But we must have faith.

Is there something in online dating that you don't get in the real world that gives you hope for a future partner?
Online dating expands the possibilities.

Is it dedication to a goal or just making yourself available for the finding?
I'm not dedicated to searching. Actually wasn't looking for anyone. Things just happen if they are meant to happen.

Edit to add: Or Something Else?
Life is full of surprises. You never know... Just be opened to all possibilities.


Tom4Uhere's photo
Fri 03/24/17 05:56 PM


Where or what gives you inspiration to continue using online dating sites?
Just decided to give it a shot. Wasn't expecting anything. Though...

Do you have a firm belief that your special person is going to be found?
Some find, some not. But we must have faith.

Is there something in online dating that you don't get in the real world that gives you hope for a future partner?
Online dating expands the possibilities.

Is it dedication to a goal or just making yourself available for the finding?
I'm not dedicated to searching. Actually wasn't looking for anyone. Things just happen if they are meant to happen.

Edit to add: Or Something Else?
Life is full of surprises. You never know... Just be opened to all possibilities.



Only one question, perhaps I misunderstood your answer?
Do you have a firm belief that your special person is going to be found?
Some find, some not. But we must have faith.


Um, that wasn't really an answer? The question isn't even implying online dating. Its just a general question to determine/focus on the quest at hand.

I see a great many people, too many really, that believe they will never find that special someone. To me, that negative thinking can shoot yourself in the foot. A lot of people give up on important things because of set-backs. The message is to help us all realize that some things are worth the effort.

no photo
Fri 03/24/17 06:01 PM
my reactor is.. the mind.. always learning.who is she?..I mean.. really ..who is she

Tom4Uhere's photo
Fri 03/24/17 06:15 PM

my reactor is.. the mind.. always learning.who is she?..I mean.. really ..who is she


Just try to realize only you will be able to define it.

no photo
Fri 03/24/17 06:23 PM
Edited by SipSik on Fri 03/24/17 06:25 PM


Only one question, perhaps I misunderstood your answer?
Do you have a firm belief that your special person is going to be found?
Some find, some not. But we must have faith.


Um, that wasn't really an answer? The question isn't even implying online dating. Its just a general question to determine/focus on the quest at hand.



OK, I will answer more precisely. And the answer is yes.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Fri 03/24/17 06:39 PM



Only one question, perhaps I misunderstood your answer?
Do you have a firm belief that your special person is going to be found?
Some find, some not. But we must have faith.


Um, that wasn't really an answer? The question isn't even implying online dating. Its just a general question to determine/focus on the quest at hand.



OK, I will answer more precisely. And the answer is yes.


Thanx, the answer you gave is great acknowledgement and inspiring but I was using these questions as a self-assessment tool to perhaps inspire others to focus on knowing themselves and their reasons for doing what they do.
You were never required to answer any of them. Just a tool to self-realization and self-reflection I was sharing and looking for feedback on.

So many people on the dating sites have no idea what they want or who is the right one. They only know they need something. This topic is about focus.

no photo
Fri 03/24/17 06:53 PM


my reactor is.. the mind.. always learning.who is she?..I mean.. really ..who is she


Just try to realize only you will be able to define it.


I am the master of my mind :)

Tom4Uhere's photo
Fri 03/24/17 06:55 PM



my reactor is.. the mind.. always learning.who is she?..I mean.. really ..who is she


Just try to realize only you will be able to define it.


I am the master of my mind :)


Mastering ones mind helps one master all aspects of their lives.

Twintidbits24's photo
Sat 03/25/17 01:12 AM
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Where or what gives you inspiration to continue using online dating sites?
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This is the only dating site I registered in and I keep coming back due to the forums. Scammers are everywhere, just be watchful though, (was still a newbie and naive when I got hit), now I learned so much when I clicked on the forums. There are many intelligent people here in M2 forums. I liked the sense of humors and their insights are well founded.

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Do you have a firm belief that your special person is going to be found?
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I do believe but again "Commitment and loyalty" plays a big factor in every relationship.

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Is there something in online dating that you don't get in the real world that gives you hope for a future partner?
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In the real world, sometimes people feels awkward to approach for fear of rejection and so they tend to do it online and get assurance first that they will not be snubbed. Though I haven't rejected anybody who approaches politely. There are people who found their partners through online dating sites so yes one could just hope that one day that person will show up, it will happen if there will be mutual understanding for both parties to "make it happen".


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Is it dedication to a goal or just making yourself available for the finding?
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Some maybe just sit back and wait and some go the extra mile, but it's okay. Goal is not to rush in, making oneself available for the finding? well I guess yes, that's the purpose of preferences written in ones's profile; which gives an insight to the reader.


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Edit to add: Or Something Else?
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I'll ponder on it, need to buy some peanuts first smile2