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Wed 04/19/17 04:52 AM
please give examples of when to say that a person is just stringing you along and what do you do about it. thanks

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Wed 04/19/17 04:53 AM
ladies can react to this one tooshades

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Wed 04/19/17 05:01 AM
Edited by IgorFrankensteen on Wed 04/19/17 05:01 AM

please give examples of when to say that a person is just stringing you along and what do you do about it. thanks


Okay, I'm not entirely clear why you are asking. Do you not know that this happens?

"Stringing someone along" means that you lead them to believe something that isn't true, usually through hints and implied promises which you don't intend to follow through on.

Something that is often MISIDENTIFIED as intentionally stringing someone along, is basic politeness. Answering questions from someone which you have no interest, can lead that person to think they are making headway by talking to and getting to know you, when all you are doing is politely responding.

Actually stringing someone along, is when you do something such as telling them that if they keep making new offers, that you might just change your mind and say yes, even though you KNOW that you never will.

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Wed 04/19/17 05:21 AM


please give examples of when to say that a person is just stringing you along and what do you do about it. thanks


Okay, I'm not entirely clear why you are asking. Do you not know that this happens?

"Stringing someone along" means that you lead them to believe something that isn't true, usually through hints and implied promises which you don't intend to follow through on.

Something that is often MISIDENTIFIED as intentionally stringing someone along, is basic politeness. Answering questions from someone which you have no interest, can lead that person to think they are making headway by talking to and getting to know you, when all you are doing is politely responding.

Actually stringing someone along, is when you do something such as telling them that if they keep making new offers, that you might just change your mind and say yes, even though you KNOW that you never will.

so igor ... have you experienced this? what did you do? :thumbsup: i think there would be a lot of assuming thats why one will feel lead on in the end when the opposite happens right? slaphead

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Wed 04/19/17 05:34 AM

please give examples of when to say that a person is just stringing you along and what do you do about it. thanks
..well.a good example is if you're in a relationship with somebody and it's early on.. and you might not be sure if you want to really be with them.. but you stay with them..
Without telling them how you really feel... or maybe you do tell them that you're sitting on the fence.... either way that is stringing them along..

What to do about it..well.. if you're the one stringing them along you need to figure out what you really want and quickly and then tell them about it.. commit and stay or Break It Off...

If they are stringing you along..
Then you need to give them a clear ultimatum.. if you want me figure it out and get back to me or don't..ok.

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Wed 04/19/17 05:47 AM


please give examples of when to say that a person is just stringing you along and what do you do about it. thanks
..well.a good example is if you're in a relationship with somebody and it's early on.. and you might not be sure if you want to really be with them.. but you stay with them..
Without telling them how you really feel... or maybe you do tell them that you're sitting on the fence.... either way that is stringing them along..

What to do about it..well.. if you're the one stringing them along you need to figure out what you really want and quickly and then tell them about it.. commit and stay or Break It Off...

If they are stringing you along..
Then you need to give them a clear ultimatum.. if you want me figure it out and get back to me or don't..ok.


I agree with this, and then there are the ones who like to return to the fence. You give them a clear ultimatum and they commit, but after things appear to be fine, they want to go back to the fence....and round and round you go, until you knock them off the fence...to the other side.

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Wed 04/19/17 05:52 AM

please give examples of when to say that a person is just stringing you along and what do you do about it. thanks

Catch me tomorrow, and I'll tell you.tongue2

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Wed 04/19/17 06:08 AM
Even when 2 people have expressed to wanting the same things, the time frames to which each is comfortable working to may differ It's clear that you feel you're being strung along. You should vocalise this to the other party, perhaps some common ground can be found. Perhaps you might discover it's best to call it a day.

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Wed 04/19/17 06:08 AM


please give examples of when to say that a person is just stringing you along and what do you do about it. thanks

Catch me tomorrow, and I'll tell you.tongue2

the early bird catches the worm :bug: whatever that means slaphead

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Wed 04/19/17 06:11 AM
how i see it is when men chat with women and women reply they already assume shes interested therefore in the long run when things arent good they can say they have been lead on right? think

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Wed 04/19/17 06:23 AM

how i see it is when men chat with women and women reply they already assume shes interested therefore in the long run when things arent good they can say they have been lead on right? think


Sorry, you can't have it both ways, it's a 50/50 situationgrumble

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Wed 04/19/17 06:25 AM


how i see it is when men chat with women and women reply they already assume shes interested therefore in the long run when things arent good they can say they have been lead on right? think


Sorry, you can't have it both ways, it's a 50/50 situationgrumble

would you mind elaborating please? shocked

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Wed 04/19/17 06:35 AM



how i see it is when men chat with women and women reply they already assume shes interested therefore in the long run when things arent good they can say they have been lead on right? think


Sorry, you can't have it both ways, it's a 50/50 situationgrumble

would you mind elaborating please? shocked


Well, on the one hand,you say you are not sure if someone is stringing along, and on the other, you feel that it is wrong if someone feels as if they have been led onslaphead

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Wed 04/19/17 06:37 AM




how i see it is when men chat with women and women reply they already assume shes interested therefore in the long run when things arent good they can say they have been lead on right? think


Sorry, you can't have it both ways, it's a 50/50 situationgrumble

would you mind elaborating please? shocked


Well, on the one hand,you say you are not sure if someone is stringing along, and on the other, you feel that it is wrong if someone feels as if they have been led onslaphead

and the plot thickens lol . i apologize i dont think my thoughts are in order there

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Wed 04/19/17 06:54 AM

how i see it is when men chat with women and women reply they already assume shes interested therefore in the long run when things arent good they can say they have been lead on right? think


I think it can work both ways. And isn't there an assumption with both as far as being interested. They wouldn't write if they weren't interested and you wouldn't respond if you weren't interested. I think where the problem lies is in communication. You could be interested in only friendship and they could want more, or vise versa, and it's not being made clear. So in that situation, the one who wants more could feel "lead on".

If it is being made clear, and they still feel like you are leading them on due to their assuming no means yes, just because you are still writing to them, then you may need to stop writing. And it could just be a guilt statement they are making in order to get you to continue to write.

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Wed 04/19/17 07:11 AM


how i see it is when men chat with women and women reply they already assume shes interested therefore in the long run when things arent good they can say they have been lead on right? think


I think it can work both ways. And isn't there an assumption with both as far as being interested. They wouldn't write if they weren't interested and you wouldn't respond if you weren't interested. I think where the problem lies is in communication. You could be interested in only friendship and they could want more, or vise versa, and it's not being made clear. So in that situation, the one who wants more could feel "lead on".

If it is being made clear, and they still feel like you are leading them on due to their assuming no means yes, just because you are still writing to them, then you may need to stop writing. And it could just be a guilt statement they are making in order to get you to continue to write.

so agree with you dear waving

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Wed 04/19/17 07:13 AM
Meaning of being lead on, Verb. 1. lead on - entice or induce especially when unwise or mistaken. entice, lure, tempt - provoke someone to do something through (often false or exaggerated) promises or persuasion.

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Wed 04/19/17 07:17 AM
This can be an example of being lead on, "If you are "leading someone on," then you are letting them believe that you have sincere, romantic feelings toward him or her and that you are interested in pursuing a relationship that is more than simply physical when, in reality, you are only interested in the other person ..."

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Wed 04/19/17 07:22 AM

please give examples of when to say that a person is just stringing you along and what do you do about it. thanks


Ask him point blank if he has a interest in you other then casual talking.

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Wed 04/19/17 07:23 AM


how i see it is when men chat with women and women reply they already assume shes interested therefore in the long run when things arent good they can say they have been lead on right? think


I think it can work both ways. And isn't there an assumption with both as far as being interested. They wouldn't write if they weren't interested and you wouldn't respond if you weren't interested. I think where the problem lies is in communication. You could be interested in only friendship and they could want more, or vise versa, and it's not being made clear. So in that situation, the one who wants more could feel "lead on".

If it is being made clear, and they still feel like you are leading them on due to their assuming no means yes, just because you are still writing to them, then you may need to stop writing. And it could just be a guilt statement they are making in order to get you to continue to write.


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I agree, it's just a question of both being upfront with each other from the start, then no one is being led on.

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