A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship.

You are on a rebound relationship if you’re experiencing more than a few of these signs.

Signs of a rebound relationship

#1 You just want to date someone, anyone - Anyone means anyone!

#2 The sex is great - You feel like a sex machine... Woopee!

#3 You don’t remember how you got over your ex - temporary amnesia?

#4 You often talk about your ex with your new partner - you say you're over your ex constantly to anyone who would listen.

#5 You have mood swings - you're happy that you are in a relationship but feeling depressed specially when you're alone.

#6 You fantasize about your ex getting back to you - you often wonder if your ex is still thinking about you.

#7 Your friends are surprised to hear that you’re dating already... your friends go "good for you" but rolling their eyes.

#8 You keep your eyes open... constantly looking out even though you’re in a new relationship already.

#9 You don’t try to take things slowly... full speed away - let's get married!

#10 You’re going with the flow - whatever!

#11 Old love memories in the open - You still have photos or memorabilia of your ex and you find yourself staring at it now and then.

#12 You still feel weak when your ex says hello. Or you feel sick.

#13 You look for ways to bump into your ex.

#14 You know you’ll go back into their arms if they make an effort to woo you.

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There you go... so my question is...

Have you ever experienced a rebound relationship either as the rebounder or the hapless victim of a rebounder?

Yes

me too, funky, me too :(

Yes, I've been both...the rebounder (unintentionally of course) and the hapless victim. Neither is desirable!

thanks, pisces.

I was the rebounder too. The guy said I ruined his life. I felt so bad and guilty about it that I thought God would punish me for it... and I think God did.

I'd think just about everyone has at some point or another. I believe that on one occasion I've embarked on a relationship whilst on the rebound but have many times dated women that were. I decided a few years ago that I'd avoid those situations in future and I'm so glad I have. Many times I've been approached and turned down offers to then see the same woman dating someone else a week or two later. A few weeks or sometimes months later, they're back on the dating scene. I think too many people are scared of their own company or being alone. I chose to be alone over mere convenience.

I agree with you funky... most people have experienced a rebound relationship. After a failed relationship, lots of people just want to be loved again.

Thank you, funky

The few times in my life I have been alone,
I was VERY aware of not rebound dating, it
takes me a LONG time to get over stuff like
that and I never wanted to diminish anyone
else by carrying that around.

Ergo, I always waited until I knew my mind had
let go of one before another came along.

I tend to keep the good memories and let the
bad ones go..wherever they go.

I have felt this way too rosie and I truly believe that it's not God that punishes us, it's ourselves that do it. My last marriage was a rebound, but over losing my son rather than a boyfriend. It was very painful for me as well as him. I think both suffer to some degree, so it's so important to deal with your past hurts before entering into a relationship with someone new.

thank you, soufie, you are always so wise.

oh (((pisces))) I'm so sorry about losing your son
I could just imagine how it feels losing a child. You are one brave soul.

You are right.. God didn't do all the mistakes, we did it ourselves. And I for one, had learned that rebound love is not the answer to a broken heart.

Thanks rosie

It's tough sometimes when you have to learn things the hard way. Rebound love is definitely not the answer to a broken heart. It just adds more pain and ends up being that much harder to deal with past hurts....and even longer to deal with it because you've buried the pain to begin with.

Thanks rosie for the great post

my pleasure, my dear friend

I have been both in some points of my life. Nothing I can be proud of. Learned my lessons and trying not to repeat my mistakes.

As with everyone else, I have also been in both, and yes, they never did work out. However I was on the rebound once, a long time ago, and I knew that I was on the rebound, and just proceed to date. Had a blast forgetting my ex. Now that I am more mature, at least I think I am, lol, I know that true love will not happen until I deal with myself and the hurt and disappointment. Getting right with one's own life first is the only way I know of to achieve true happiness. Cheers

I don't do the walking wounded thing and just chill until I am past it.

I have zero interest in doing unto others as I have been done into.

And I don't do the stupid screw anything for kicks. I have enough issues without adding an STD. Or getting hurt being careless.

I did get stung by a guy who just. Couldn't/Wouldn't get over an Ex.

Think I "lived an learned" . I do get tired of the walking wounded because they often don't do even realized how hung UP they are.
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Omg yes yes and yes .. I feel pathetic..

thank you sip... see that wasn't too hard, was it

hi Starhawk69, welcome to the forums and thank you for your response.

Yes we've all been there one way or another. And like you, I also knew I was on the rebound but went diving in head first anyway. What we do when we were young eh? Oh wait, you're still young... unless of course the "69" at the end of your username is your age

hi PacificStar, thanks for your response.

Yes we live and learn. And me too, I don't do the stupid screw anything for kicks. Some people huh? :D

Thanks again.