@ Pisces and Skeptical, you're welcome! And go for it girls, have fun!
I know I did, grin. I ended up in the garage at some point, two mechanics around 26-28 yrs old, and one started to flirt with me out of the blue. I was 46 at the time, and felt overwhelmed, yet I went along with it. Because I decided, what the heck, I was freshly single, why not have some innocent fun! The other one joined in, so there I was, 46 flirting with these two young blokes, haha.
Of course it won't go anywhere cos of the age difference, nor would I have wanted either of them, but it was FUN!
The guy had me blushing like a schoolgirl, which was a tad awkward for me, but the guys loved it! Which helped me to ignore it and just be adorably shy, still flirting with them though.
What I learnt from that was that even though you get shy, blush and want to hide, don't! Just keep flirty and playful. Men love it to see you all girly but still ballsy enough to stand your ground, and be playful with them.
Learn to love your own shyness and to think of it as adorable, cos men sure as heck do!
Look at yourself when you're blushing: you look healthier, warmer, prettier. Why try to hide that? We put blusher on our face every day to get that look. When it happens naturally it makes us feel shy? Kinda silly.

Just really have fun with it, even with men who will never be your date.
That event with those 2 young guys helped me to do the same with men my age, men I DID want to date. So practicing when it's less awkward does help! And dang did it make me feel good that these two young guys found me attractive enough to seriously flirt with! Real good for your self-esteem :p Made my day, for about 5 days, haha.

crystal the way you write just oozes sexiness no matter what your age is . your man is one lucky guy there

When the music starts, make a move....

towards the door

You don't dance???

If a woman does not make the first move, she is in the minority! This is the 20 th century!

If a woman does not make the first move, she is in the minority! This is the 20 th century!

now that could be a major problem for me

Thank you, hihi. And no, for this kind of innocent fun age doesn't matter at all. I had a similar thing regularly with a young guy who works in my local supermarket. I think he was barely 17. Somehow the kid really liked me and had the baws to actually be flirting with me too.
Believe it or not, but he has had me blushing on a number of occasions as well at the cash register, lol. A 17 yr old, haha. I couldn't believe it myself, a 17 yr old guy able to get me off-kilter like that. I think that kid is going places when a bit older, grin.
But... it was still fun and still made me feel great, attractive and feminine.

No you're not... Can be the 21st century, but you gotta realize most woman are caught up in masculine energy because of society.
You know, the best answer to your question: now if the girl always makes the first move coz she feels the man wouldn't start anything would we consider calling her desperate therefore turning off the guy? would guys like being chased by women they actually like?
is: What is it that makes YOU feel good. Are you happy with a man who never takes initiative?
Thing is, guy should be at his best when you're dating or going through early stages of relationship. Meaning it will not get better, as what you see during those stages ARE his best behaviour. So it won't improve, it'll get worse when he slips back into 'normal'.
Can you live with a man who never makes the first move, never takes initiative or do you prefer a man who's more proactive?
Maybe now you're only thinking about making first move to get to know each other, but if he's lazy or shy, this will likely spill over in a relationship. Never coming up with ideas of things you two can do. Never taking initiative to be intimate (yes, men like that exist) and so on.

Occasionally a woman can take initiative, but there has to be a balance, and I believe the man should still do most of the work in that sense, as taking initiative is masculine.

The problem is many men aren't balanced in their masculinity, but the more balanced you are in your femininity the more he will be. And the more balanced males you will begin to attract.
Same happens when a woman keeps doing 'the masculine' thing (thus exuding masculine energy). She will attract not-balanced men or more feminine energy men.

So in short, it is about what you want, what makes you happy, and what you yourself exude (you can work on that).
It's not about trying to please the other gender in order to attract. You're initial goal is not to make someone happy, but to find happiness yourself. Otherwise you're just a pleaser, a giver. That will make you miserable real fast. Start thinking about yourself more. "What do I need? What will make me happy?"