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Topic: Doesn't this get repetitive over the years
ome317's photo
Fri 05/05/17 10:37 PM
You guys have been around for five years or more on this site. Why do you stick around? I'm not saying give up but don't you think you should look elsewhere? Unless you enjoy the circles that the threads go in. I mean even if you do love this place are you not tired of your computer.

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 05/05/17 10:43 PM
Not everyone is here looking for someone. Yes some topics get repeated so much it is ridiculous, but there are, also, new topics a lot.

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Fri 05/05/17 10:45 PM
I look for guys that live near me. Not much to choose from.

ome317's photo
Fri 05/05/17 10:53 PM
I'm not saying they are just here to find someone but even soul searching or anything else how is going in a circle going to help with anything. It's not that I don't like this place I just don't understand it. Why keep yourself here for so long? The once in a blue moon different topic seems to get ignored anyways.

ome317's photo
Fri 05/05/17 10:55 PM
I look for guys that live near me. Not much to choose from.

True it seems there are not a lot of people near each other on this sight that are compatible.

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 05/05/17 10:56 PM
Edited by yellowrose10 on Fri 05/05/17 10:57 PM

I'm not saying they are just here to find someone but even soul searching or anything else how is going in a circle going to help with anything. It's not that I don't like this place I just don't understand it. Why keep yourself here for so long? The once in a blue moon different topic seems to get ignored anyways.


Wouldn't that assume the person has nothing else going on in real life in addition to this. People have made friends here. People enjoy debating current events. Several years I was here it was to mod. I have a life outside of this. I enjoy reading the forums and occasionally comment. Plus new people join all the time.

How do you know what the once in a blue moon topics are if you have only been here a month?

I get you don't understand the whys but why worry about it? People have their own reasons

ome317's photo
Fri 05/05/17 10:58 PM
You guys keep records I'm just looking around

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 05/05/17 10:59 PM

You guys keep records I'm just looking around


Huh

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Fri 05/05/17 11:18 PM

You guys have been around for five years or more on this site. Why do you stick around? I'm not saying give up but don't you think you should look elsewhere? Unless you enjoy the circles that the threads go in. I mean even if you do love this place are you not tired of your computer.


Interesting post, I agree, there are circles in the Forum, from time to time interesting ones pop up, let's not forget, smart phones make it easy. Sometimes a post may help someone or being help. Easy to interact with scam. Chat. What bring you here?, that may help you answer your own question.

ome317's photo
Fri 05/05/17 11:39 PM
True I also got to thinking some people might look to this if they have disabilities as a way to socialise but things must hurt when people stop loging on and they have to start over with new people and see it go through another circle. But this is all hypothetical though I don't actually know if this happens. I got on here looking for a partner that will give me some hope in relationships. I know what I'm looking for isn't something that will happen overnight but I don't think I'm going to stick around here for five years to hope it will just happen on here.

ome317's photo
Fri 05/05/17 11:42 PM
No offense to people willing to wait, all good for you, just not my cup of tea.

dreamerana's photo
Sat 05/06/17 12:11 AM

No offense to people willing to wait, all good for you, just not my cup of tea.

If it's not for you you have options of logging off and doing activities you enjoy better in real life.
Nobody forces any of us to be here.

Also,some of us get busy in life or want a brwak from our mingle family and so we take time off.
Others have found different pursuits in life and have been long gone.

yellowrose10's photo
Sat 05/06/17 12:31 AM
Edited by yellowrose10 on Sat 05/06/17 12:32 AM

No offense to people willing to wait, all good for you, just not my cup of tea.


Most of the people that have been here for a long time, stay for the forums. Many are in relationships, not looking or leave for a bit then come back. I think you aren't understanding that most, who have been here for a long time, aren't looking for anything but the forums and maybe make new friends. Most of the ones you are talking about, aren't waiting for anything.

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Sat 05/06/17 01:47 AM
Edited by Unknow on Sat 05/06/17 01:56 AM
Ome317, once again your blatantly obvious frustration is being voiced. There's more to life than what you seek. In fact once you add your objective to the mix, life gets a whole lot more complicated, So maybe you ought to consider pumping your breaks.

You have an objective and your lack of instant success is getting you down. Patience is a trait not as common in the youth of today as it used to be. If you're young then maybe you should invest less time staring at a screen and devote more time to real face to face interactions in the physical world as opposed to online. Even someone who is here looking to find companionship, love, sex etc. would be foolish to place all there hopes here unless their location or some other factor made it their most viable option. I think you'd find that most of us do have jobs, hobbies, friends, interests as well as enjoying what M2 offers us. Many of us also take time out every so often. I usually spend less time online during the summer because there's more fun to be had doing things outdoors in the good weather.

Were you expecting this to be like shopping on EBay or Amazon, view, make a selection and unwrap 48 hrs later?

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Sat 05/06/17 03:00 AM

You guys have been around for five years or more on this site. Why do you stick around? I'm not saying give up but don't you think you should look elsewhere? Unless you enjoy the circles that the threads go in. I mean even if you do love this place are you not tired of your computer.


Ome, I think what most are saying, especially yellowrose, is that relationships have been made here...decent friendships.

They most likely stay because they value that friendship and wish to continue it. Continued friendships strengthen our ability to have lasting relationships with others and helps us grow.

When you meet someone in your face to face world, do you dump that person because it may "get old" talking to them, or do you want to remain in that friendship because you appreciate and value that friendship?

ome317's photo
Sat 05/06/17 04:40 AM

You guys have been around for five years or more on this site. Why do you stick around? I'm not saying give up but don't you think you should look elsewhere? Unless you enjoy the circles that the threads go in. I mean even if you do love this place are you not tired of your computer.


Ome, I think what most are saying, especially yellowrose, is that relationships have been made here...decent friendships.

They most likely stay because they value that friendship and wish to continue it. Continued friendships strengthen our ability to have lasting relationships with others and helps us grow.

When you meet someone in your face to face world, do you dump that person because it may "get old" talking to them, or do you want to remain in that friendship because you appreciate and value that friendship?

Can't really say I've always ended up leaving my friends for many reasons not of my own choice except for this last time. But more seem to come and more seem to go. I'll always have the nice memories of those friendships but trying to keep them around just does us more harm than good. Also Funkyjunkie it sounds like I'm not the only frustrated one. :thumbsup:

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Sat 05/06/17 05:46 AM
ome317:
Doesn't this get repetitive over the years


Your kind of post? Yes they have become very repetitive.

Every few months, someone relatively new to the idea of online interactions, pops in and criticizes all the people who they know nothing about, but have leaped to negative, self-serving critical opinions about anyway, and they always say exactly what you have said about the rest of us.


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Sat 05/06/17 06:43 AM
Edited by Cheeriosoo on Sat 05/06/17 06:44 AM
Ome, I believe you ruffle some feathers. Keep it up, you are doing great. :thinking: :rolling_eyes: frustrated

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Sat 05/06/17 06:52 AM

Ome, I believe you ruffle some feathers. Keep it up, you are doing great. :thinking: :rolling_eyes: frustrated


whoa

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Sat 05/06/17 07:36 AM
Edited by msharmony on Sat 05/06/17 07:46 AM

You guys have been around for five years or more on this site. Why do you stick around? I'm not saying give up but don't you think you should look elsewhere? Unless you enjoy the circles that the threads go in. I mean even if you do love this place are you not tired of your computer.


no more than life anywhere else



these thread, by nature of them being topic specific, will inevitably be 'repetitive' within the limits of whatever that topic is

Christian thread will inevitably have numerous discussions of why its dumb to believe/not believe

Politics threat will inevitably have numerous discussions about liberals vs conservatives, or republicans vs democrats, or bashing vs praising the current POTUS or some social demographic,,,,


when you know people in 'real time' their stories and concerns and moods, also become 'repetitive', yet it is socialization that keeps people feeling connected to something bigger than themselves


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