So a friend of mine just got dumped by her boyfriend for another girl.

on top of that, she just found out she's pregnant with his kid. now she's looking to me for help and i have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA what to tell her.

any suggestions?

Just be there for her. She needs you, even if you're just there to listen to her.

be there for her :) hold her hand, be a shoulder for her to cry on, just help her out...

thats all you can really do :/

i agree with totage just be there for her and help her with whatever you can because i am sure she can use a good friend at this point in her life

that's what i'm tryin to do, but she's kinda in the denial stage. sortof the "if i ignore it, maybe it'll go away" mentality. but she's lookin to me to solve her problems. no clue what to say

First of all, tell her to just breathe.

Life happens and sometimes its out of our control. It sucks that she had such a pill of a boyfriend, but at least she has a friend like you who cares enough to try to help her. Just listen to her and let her cry to you if and when she needs to. Thats probably the best thing you can do.

thanks for all your advice guys. i really appreciate it.

what the other two said, just be there for her, let her cry on your shoulder, but dont let it go for too long! depression is not good when youre pregnant. be supportive, and don't let her get back with this guy!!! he left her once for another girl, he would probably do it again, regardless of a child. dont let her hate the baby either, the father needs to know its his, but she shouldnt hate the child. this happened to her for a reason, and she is going to have to wait it out to find out why.shes probably asking why her, and as much as it may suck, tell her that you cant answer that, that it happened to her, and you cant go back in time to change it, so you have to accept it, and make the best out of the situation, no matter how much it sucks.

Just be there for her

the day before i went in front of the judge to get my divorce, i found out i was pregnant! it was the worst timing ever! as if the whole thing wasnt bad enough, it just threw me for a loop! i was already packed to move and then this!!! OMG!

thank God i had a good friend (and yes, he was a guy (not gay)) to lean on and talk to. things happen for a reason. be there for her, let her know that the problem will not go away and sooner or later she will have to deal with the problem. with or without him!!

she just found out huh? well, there are two options...keep it or dont. if she isnt into abortions, adoption is always a choice! but make sure to tell her that because she is pregnant, that doesnt mean he is going to come back!

my son's father did that. after i told him, he left. havnt heard from him in 3 years! he has never had contact with my son, and i like it that way!

did he break up with her after she told him?

sorry if i sound....uncaring...but this topic really makes me mad because it hits real close to home!

DO NOT take advantage of the situation... right now she needs all the "friend" support she can get....

don't add Jerk #2 to her list.....

i agree with ^