Oddly enough, I hardly spot any of them on the street soufie. Its mainly in chatrooms. Maybe those same guys play it very cool in public :)

Good advise Peggy i prefer silent rejection too. I wouldn't call it rejection as some people here are really only here for the forum and they are very selective with which message to reply. People have preferences , some wouldn't like answering hi hello messages but only substantial and interesting message but still depends on the mood or gut feeling. If someone don't reply don't take it personally , it's their preferences and we all have the right to choose who we want to talk to. As for rejecting , I find it hard to tell someone the reason why because somehow I know I could hurt someone's feelings. And I don't have that much time to really reply all the messages here just to reject someone? I hope people will not think of it as rejection, don't take it too hard on yourself....I know and understand how it feels but if we always think negatively then we will get hurt, lose confidence somehow or get depressed. We should always have an open mind to accept rejection, online and in reality it's the same , we meet people and some would like us and others wouldn't, some would talk back and others wouldn't.

Don't ever think that you are the only one who doesn't feel good with the rejection. Have you ever thought that the one rejecting also feels guilty or hurt. We all have feelings and we feel for other people too , sometimes just have to do things our own way and we have to accept and respect that. DON'T FEEL BAD. Just continue to search , there will always be one who will answer you and you even can't be too sure also if you will like her or not , coz if not, you will just stop sending messages, right? Have you ever thought of how these people think also why you just suddenly stop messaging with no explanation or even when you explain .....see, you may not be aware of it but you yourself is rejecting other people too. It's called preferences, learn to accept that.

Less and less lately, Peggy.

My bad days are now mainly health related.

I obviously get rejected constantly or I wouldn't still be looking.
I've had quite a few that I would have loved to meet in person but they were not interested in me. While I was disappointed, I realize that the rejection was a personal decision on their part. I let the disappointment fade away. Didn't hang on to it and ask why. They either want me or they don't. It would be unfair to me to get all frustrated about it.

I've worked very hard to change my thinking to have a better self-esteem. My ego is not narcissistic. I don't prop my self-worth up at other peoples expense if I can help it. I try to allow others to be themselves even if it is not in my favor.

There is nothing stopping anyone from having a health self-esteem. Its a personal discipline that is learned by trial and error and a lot of moral and emotional maturity. You first have to understand why you think and do the things you think and do, honestly. After you figure yourself out, understanding others and allowing them to be them comes easier, but it takes discipline and perseverance.

I'm at peace with the possibility that I may die alone. I don't want to but I can understand it. I have already surpassed my expected expiration date so I live in borrowed time now. My biggest hurdle is pain and illness. It changes one's perspectives.

I sometimes wonder if I were to be healthy again if I would maintain my contentment and understanding or would I revert back to the man I was when I wasn't broken? I believe the wisdom that I have gained from this period in my life are set in place, well, I hope so.

I am the culmination of my unique life experiences. I just happen to have plenty of time to review them and make changes. I understand that others don't have such time. Finding your "Zen" and then applying it to how you interact with others take a lot of meditation. It requires 'looking' in those spots you don't want to look and embracing the complete you.

Peggy, I believe you have the honesty and integrity to reach your Zen state. You will only need to find the time to set it in motion. But, I believe you can do it. I believe anyone can do it if they try.

Hi sis Peggy, thanks for the warm welcome, I'm just on and offsite due to recent surgery but hope to recover fast and regain back my motor functions again. I visit you guys here in the forums when I can have the time after work hours, and participate as well when I can.

We just go to people who would welcome us....and stay away from those who rejects us so we all live peacefully

Or..
they can be honest in here with complete strangers.

Or..
they can be honest in here with complete strangers.