Think about the people in your life. Are you truly alone?

Now, Think about the people that really have nobody. Most of those are older and live alone. Housebound for any number of reasons.

I am alone.
There is no place on this planet where I belong.
There is nobody I can call if I need to talk.
My phone never rings for me.
I have nobody to call.
My friends died or abandoned me.
My family has died or abandoned me.
I exist in your world without any connection.

Sadly, there are more and more people facing this as the baby boomers age up into oblivion.

I see people screaming they are lonely yet they are surrounded by people that truly care about them. Try going it alone, truly alone. It is a sobering realization.

You know people you can visit if you need companionship. Are you really alone or do you just feel alone?

Everyone I see is a stranger. Strangers are not warm and welcoming anymore. Many are on their phones. Too busy to make new friends. Who needs it?

We are few right now but as time progresses we will gain in numbers. You may not be here yet but as things are going, time is your enemy.

I would love children that really came to see me to SEE ME. Not an obligation to satisfy their moral responsibilities. A friend that visits because they are interested in what I offer as a human being.

Next time you are feeling loney and so sorry for yourself just remember that there are many people out there in the void that are truly alone with absolutely nobody in their lives.

I get where you are coming from Tom, and Im sorry you are going through such a trying time

Do you think that we can create our own community of friends and family Tom?

As corny as it sounds , I actually do think of the community on mingle as a type of family , and all of the people in my dance club as well, even though Im not close to most of the members in both groups.

Whether you become a member of a book club or water aerobics group, there is a feeling of "connectedness" to the people who like some of the things I like and want some of the things that I want.

Do you agree?

Think about the people in your life. Are you truly alone?

Now, Think about the people that really have nobody. Most of those are older and live alone. Housebound for any number of reasons.

I am alone.
There is no place on this planet where I belong.
There is nobody I can call if I need to talk.
My phone never rings for me.
I have nobody to call.
My friends died or abandoned me.
My family has died or abandoned me.
I exist in your world without any connection.

Sadly, there are more and more people facing this as the baby boomers age up into oblivion.

I see people screaming they are lonely yet they are surrounded by people that truly care about them. Try going it alone, truly alone. It is a sobering realization.

You know people you can visit if you need companionship. Are you really alone or do you just feel alone?

Everyone I see is a stranger. Strangers are not warm and welcoming anymore. Many are on their phones. Too busy to make new friends. Who needs it?

We are few right now but as time progresses we will gain in numbers. You may not be here yet but as things are going, time is your enemy.

I would love children that really came to see me to SEE ME. Not an obligation to satisfy their moral responsibilities. A friend that visits because they are interested in what I offer as a human being.

Next time you are feeling loney and so sorry for yourself just remember that there are many people out there in the void that are truly alone with absolutely nobody in their lives.

It helps me but it isn't the same as actual people in ones life.

Some will say "Its simple, just go out and make friends"

My personal experience shows me that most people want something.
I'll be your friend if...

What happens when going outside is a painful sickening feeling?
Will they come to you? What must you offer to be graced with their presence?
What must you do that you don't really want to do just to have someone come visit you?

Lets not forget about the human touch.
People need to be touched.
Its been almost a half a year since I have felt a human touch.
Too many people out there have gone much, much longer.

I considered volunteering for anything.
Any interaction would be better than complete isolation.
Problem is, I don't know, day to day, if I can even go outside.
Volunteering requires a commitment that I can't make.
Sometimes it is everything I can do just to sit in front of my computer.

I know I am not alone in this. Too many people are lost in time.
I just want to say to you, I know how it feels to be truly alone in life.
We can only hope that tomorrow brings someone into our lives to make it better.
Until that happens, be content with what you have and what might one day be.

Now isn't that odd Tom, I understand exactly where you are coming from, yet I do find that as time has gone by, I actually find it Quite liberating that I am alone, sure-I know lot's of people, some closer than others, but I take the attitude that they have their own lives to lead, and I am very contented to plod along as an aged Baby Boomer,try not to let it get you down Tom, you have the freedom to do exactly what you want, when you want, and at your own pace, and as mikey says the internet does help, Tom if you were closer, I would give you a call to see if you fancied going out for a pint,and you know what Tom-you would have the freedom to say, not tonight mate.

you do realize or perhaps you don't that you are in a self fullfilling prophecy..that your mindset has already predetermined your outcome

if you have already decided that people are no good, not worth getting to know, too busy or just want something out of you

then you will find evidence to back up this belief


if you on the other hand
you believe that there are still good people out there
get involved in something that interests you and allow yourself to be open to possibiities
you might find evidence that backs up this belief

Thanks Tom...needed this~ sry for ignoring most of your msgs(lol) coz they're pretty big...and I'm not a good reader unless it's fantasy novels.... reading this was worth it~

I don't think that people are no good? I just believe that I am not important. People are living in their own lives, do I insert myself like a shoehorn? I won't do that.

It is a self-fulfilling prophecy in a way tho. When I was laying in the hospital clinging to my life I realized that I will die in pain and alone.
Then slowly I watched everyone in my life disappear. Replaced by nobody.

I have dreams. I have things I really would love to do with someone. I won't lead with that tho. I want someone that is interested in getting to know me without promises. Someone that just likes being around me. Animals love me. People just seem to not have time for me.

When people talk with me at the stores or library they have interest. I respect them. I expect nothing from them. They sense my calm demeanor. It just seems I can't get what I give? I don't even want them to be first, just return the same.
Too much stress
Too much mistrust
Too much fear of honesty
Too many games.

It's like Peggy and I were saying in another thread.
Many people have 'online 'friends, ie, they may be disappointed by not having enough 'friends 'on Facebook for example.
Online friends could never replace face to face friends but it's increasingly going that way.
We were having a bit of Back and forth on the trump thread, you have strong opinions as you are on the receiving end. I just see it from the outside and how it is in the UK. but it's interesting.
Maybe Peggy should organise a boot camp for us crinkly people on M2!

My physical condition has created a massive amount of 'online' friends in many different online forums and social groups. I even have video chat groups that watch movies, listen to music and read books with me live. While it does help, its just not the same.

I have common acquaintances in real life too. I can have conversations on the porch with my neighbors, talk with people I have met at the library or meet people at the beach or at parks. That's not the same either.

I know many of the employees at the stores I go to. I could drive 12 hours and see my children and grandchildren at anytime. I have the truck and the money to do it. I have plenty of time. BUT, its not the same.
In the 5 years I have lived down here, I have been visited once by my children and their families and not as a determined will to see me but as a side-stop while they were going someplace else. That told me a lot. No phone calls or emails either. I removed EVERYONE from my facebook and nobody noticed. LOL, I see it for what it is.

With all the rejection and abandonment I have faced I am still not cold or rude. I hold no resentment except to my fate which was my fault anyway. I thought that if I worked hard and pushed myself it would pay off in the end. What a lie. I can only blame myself for my own delusions.

"Hi, I find you interesting and I would like to get to know you better".

^^^^ see this? what atmosphere could you put yourself in that would increase your chances of this happening?

what hobbies, interests do you have that others may also have?

do your homework...find something in your community and go do it



because if you continue to do what you have been doing
then do not expect different results


if you come up with a million and one excuses as to why you cannot do this
then I would argue that you are content in your current circumstances
and have no real goal to change

Tom, the show is enough, the ironic thing in all this,that on that 50 miles of beach, there will be people of all ages,race and religion, in almost the same mindset as yourself, you may never meet, but then again you may, you probably pass them every day,and if that's the case,they are likewise passing you, it doesn't mean anything, of course the chance meeting with someone who understands you, is always 50/50,but the same will apply to them,Tom if you spun a coin 10 times,and every time it landed it was Heads up, on the eleventh spin it is still going to be 50/50.

I used to be like that with some family and some friends, I took notice of this old guy I knew. His advice was
F**K EM!