...that is not to say that I don't have a huge caring and protective capacity; am not cognizant that EVERYTHING said, will be held accoutable; am not unaware that they are the most joyous teachers to a soul.

I've changed diapers, applied band-aids, rearranged schedules to make events,felt the pain and bliss, etc...but

I've never experienced the nuances day in and out. To many in my demographic, this (no matter what) is completely uncompatitble.

Thoughts (in general)?

it's a mature and selfless thing to want a compatible partner with which to raise a child before bringing one into the world

if you have not found that partner, I believe you are mature to postpone having children.

I'm not sure I believe it is the lack of the experiences of child rearing is the underlying reason for the "incompatibility." It's more likely someone questioning the reasons for it. Fairly or unfairly, they probably perceive you as a man who lacked the ability to make a commitment to have a long term relationship and thus a family.

What was not an issue at 30 or 35 is now a a major flag to many as you approach 50.

Neither do I! And I prefer to NOT date/have a LTR with someone who does-(not saying I wouldn't, with the right person) That's virtually impossible to find someone that fits that criteria in or near my age group- I do like kids, it's just NOT my thing- I have helped raise my now grown Nieces & Nephews who I have been a great influence on, because I'm so WONDERFUL! Good luck, Beach, in finding the ONE for you!

It's swings and roundabouts as far as I'm concerned. At least with a man who hasn't got kids, you do not have to worry he still has young kids (that IS a dealbreaker to me) nor that you and his kids won't get along which could hinder the relationship.
There's not the issue of him wanting to spend every weekend with his kids (would some want that? LOL) or him having to babysit grandchildren.
So there are many advantages for a new relationship. Granted it sounds selfish maybe, but I'm just being honest here.

The only downside could be that he hasn't got much understanding about what it's like to have kids, raise kids and so on, so certain things you cannot share together.
How big a deal that is depends on how big a part the kids play in the woman's life and how able the man is to be empathetic. Can he support her when she has a problem with them?
If the man is willing to put up with the limitations of her having kids I don't see the problem. If nothing else, it can make it a helluva lot easier to have to deal with only one 'set of kids' instead of two.

Wouldn't be a dealbreaker to me, as long as he can do the above, within reason of course.

I had 4 children and now have 15 grandchildren.
I married in Sept of 1985 and my first son was born in July of 1986.
We decided to marry because we both agreed we wanted to start a family.

I am listed as not wanting children because I am not healthy enough to properly raise a child now. It would not be fair to the child or to me.

I also will not court a woman under 45, I don't even want a "surprise". This is our time...if I ever find the right woman to make it an "our", lol.

These are my own preferences, others have their own preferences. To each their own.

As far as I'm concerned, the world would be a much better place without kids.

I feel the same way about humans. What a mess we have become.

I don't have children and have never wanted children.

Since I turned 23, my marital status has always been "never married, with vasectomy".