would you gauge a circumstance of waiting by knowing it will be all worth it in the end or because you want to give the unforseen a chance because it deserves it? is it more like with a purpose to an end or a means to find happiness. i am sorry if my question would sound very unclear. i am as confused of it myself. i blame it on not enough sleep i guess. answers,reactions, contradictions are all welcomed. thanks mingle friends

Hi skeptical

Are you asking if a person should wait on someone for the sake of fairness, or if you should only wait on them if your intuition strongly tells you that the person will be worth the wait?

yes please rephrase i still can't figure out the question

Hey my little afib friend :
I think I know what you mean so here goes.
By waiting for the unforseen you can miss what's right there in front of you, it's like waiting for something better to come along but it never does.
Where as waiting for something because you feel it's worth waiting for can be a good thing but if you're waiting because the "good thing" is still in a relationship for example can bring you down as the light at the end of the tunnel never comes.
That's a view maybe it makes sense

If Charles Babbage had waited around we wouldn't be seeing your topic now.

Why can't it be all worth it in the beginning, during the middle and the end? Is there a form that has to be filled in to assess the happiness level?


Oh, you mean Life? Love? Happiness? What if the unforeseen exceeds your expectations? How could you know it could if you wait until certain benchmarks are ticked?


Happiness (joy) is an emotional state. When someone is contented with life it is easier to let themselves experience joy when it occurs. Trying to force happiness doesn't always work and that results in stress and sadness.


I dunno about other people but I understand what you are asking.
Its a common question many ask. Hell, I used to ask myself pretty much the same thing.

Many people think that life is judged by how happy they are. Feeling contentment is like settling for a lesser state. So they set benchmarks on their happiness and use that feeling as a gauge to whether their lives have meaning.

Many fail to understand that emotional states and feelings are temporary. Happiness is not supposed to be a constant any more than anger.
I'm sure you have heard the phrase that life is like a roller coaster, with hills and valleys or life is like a box of chocolates. Many times we get so caught up in the hills and valleys that we forget we are an a ride. Many time we get so caught up with the fillings that we forget its all chocolate.

Ok, I've not googled it I've been trying to think and I give up!
Who is Charles Babbage?

The father of computers, apparently

Oh

We learn from our experiences, and we all come here to learn . If this task is what preset to learn for your this life , so to experience it.

hello peggy it is both. im glad i was at least making some sense in my questions

eric im sorry my mind is swimming with words i cannot seem to put together. whatever you seem to understand from me then that would be correct. there is no right or wrong answer.

hey afib...thats goes to show you get me...most of the time lol thanks my friend

So funny I'm facing this very dilemma myself.. one scenario waiting for someone to come around to my way of thinking


Second scenario waiting for someone
Who is unavailable right now
But says they're worth waiting for

All I know is either one requires me spending time by myself... not exactly why I date

To be alone

Lol..

hello Joe i do agree if he waited then the wait wouldve been more interesting. he mightve added more fun stuff for impatient people wanting to move on thanks . what if there were no computers??? omg perish that thought. my kids will freak out

that was a very nice opinion Tom and so beautifully written. thank you . always good to see your posts

i cannot agree more

i do not think you are the type who will be alone or wants to be alone doc. youre a funny guy . an audience is always around the corner waiting for you . good luck to our dilemma

It might be that it isn't so much the waiting as it is the anticipation and impatience that gets us.
That's what love does.
If anyone is unsure if they are in love consider your level of impatience and anticipation on the next time you get to see them.

If its all of a sudden there they are, okay. It may not be love.

If its agony as you wait to see them again and as the time gets closer you get more excited, there's something there that's worth considering as love.

I remember speeding to get home from work to be with my wife most of my marriage. During the final year, not so much.

The trick when dating is to determine if it is impatience from anticipation or a nervous reaction to the unknown.

It truly depends on the reason why you wait. And how long. Personally, I wouldn't wait for a prince who probably exists only in my imagination and may never come. But on the other hand if I've found him and the reasons for waiting would sound reasonable to me, I would wait. F.e. If I don't win a lottery and he is on the other side of the world, to wait until it is possible to meet is logical. But it also depends on the other side. Are they willing to wait? If not, all is in vain.
Just my opinion, but you have to make choice by yourself