Topic: Single Mum and Online Dating
Novice's photo
Mon 10/09/17 04:39 AM
Hello,

Has any single mums in this forum who've found success in online dating? Are there genuine men here? How does one know the appropriate time to introduce the child to a potential partner found online without fear?
Are there men capable of loving our children like his own without ill intentions?

For the Africans here, is there prejudice because of skin color?


Moonchild_hemp's photo
Sat 04/14/18 06:53 PM
You know, that's my question, too. Men here are too quick to flirt with you, ask for your whatsapp, ask for video call, without even asking where you're from. >.<

ClaudiaDu's photo
Thu 04/19/18 02:13 AM
Hi!
I have exactly the same concerns. I think that one can tell if a man is capable to love a child that isn’t his. It’s clear that I won’t engage in a relationship with a man who’s not capable to embrace my child and I.
I’m a single mother too, I haven’t been on the dating scene for a long time but the only advice I can give you is to take your child to the very first date. If it’s not meant to be, well, then it’s not the end of the world. Children come first always.
I wish you to meet a gentle man, you only need to be confident in yourself!

marie930's photo
Wed 04/25/18 07:23 PM
ahmm been here for a over decade now (march 01 2007)..and i am still single.. and i hope i can help you decide laugh :wink: :wink: :wink:

Serchin4MyRedWine's photo
Wed 04/25/18 10:57 PM

You know, that's my question, too. Men here are too quick to flirt with you, ask for your whatsapp, ask for video call, without even asking where you're from. >.<


That is because they don't care where you are from, they are scammers and just want your email info etc.

Serchin4MyRedWine's photo
Wed 04/25/18 11:02 PM
Edited by Serchin4MyRedWine on Wed 04/25/18 11:03 PM

Hi!
I have exactly the same concerns. I think that one can tell if a man is capable to love a child that isn’t his. It’s clear that I won’t engage in a relationship with a man who’s not capable to embrace my child and I.
I’m a single mother too, I haven’t been on the dating scene for a long time but the only advice I can give you is to take your child to the very first date. If it’s not meant to be, well, then it’s not the end of the world. Children come first always.
I wish you to meet a gentle man, you only need to be confident in yourself!


I don't know if bringing your child on the first date is wise. It should be made clear your child comes first, but a first date should be to get to know each other a little better without the distraction of a child.If there is mutual interest and feelings, then introduce your child on the second date. JMO

Up2youandme's photo
Mon 04/30/18 09:04 PM

Hi!
I have exactly the same concerns. I think that one can tell if a man is capable to love a child that isn’t his. It’s clear that I won’t engage in a relationship with a man who’s not capable to embrace my child and I.
I’m a single mother too, I haven’t been on the dating scene for a long time but the only advice I can give you is to take your child to the very first date. If it’s not meant to be, well, then it’s not the end of the world. Children come first always.
I wish you to meet a gentle man, you only need to be confident in yourself!


That's the worst advice ever. You're saying it's okay for your child to see how choosing a mate should be done? So if you had to go thru 20 prospects and strike out on all of them. What do you think the will learn from that? I'll give you a hint . .... oh so that's how to pick mates haha that's so easy it's like buying toys then , just toss them if you don't like them.