inspire me and give solution

hahaha...you make me laugh..thanks

Al Green says it better...
But I think he wants you to watch Notting Hill...



I can think of younger days when living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do
I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend a this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again

I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
And misty memories of days gone by
We could never see tomorrow, no one said a word about the sorrow

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again

First off, loose anything you have where there is a connection to the one that broke your heart, and make no further contact with them, if this is possible. Then take up a hobby/sport and in joining Mingle2 you have found many others that have had a broken heart, so join in the forums and make a few new friends, stay positive, it takes time but you will be able to move on.

Welcome to Mingle2.

thanks for this lyric...

oh thank you for this advice..

Concentrate on the positives in your life and let the negatives go.

Know that one day someone special, a handsome Prince, will walk into your life.

jaix i can lend you my extra special needle and thread, mom gave me years ago. while it is not fast, it does work one stitch at a time. like duttoneer and joey said.

and don't forget to go out and keep living life instead of dwelling on the mending

well i don't have the proper medical training but i think i can do it with a sewing needle and horse hair

not my job.

suck it up buttercup.
this one's on you.

Its YOUR life.
There is nobody on this planet more qualified at running your life than you.
You determine your own level of contentment.
You determine your own degree of emotional balance.
You are the one that sets your self-esteem.

It is only you that allows or prohibits others from pushing those terrible buttons.
You can live in a negative or positive outlook of life but it is only you that sets those levels.

Try saying out loud "That's a good thing" when something good happens in your life. It might amaze you to realize just how many good things happen that we ignore just so we can focus on the bad things.

Try actively choosing how you feel about things based on the reality of the situation and not on fantasized anticipation. Many times, we make things out to be monstrous when they really aren't.

Try meeting yourself again. Look at the person you are and list all the best things about yourself. Then honestly look at those bad things and make the changes that you know you can.

Try to determine if your actions are deliberate or a compulsion.
Examine why and make the changes you want, to be the person you want to be. Above all, be true to yourself first and foremost.

Distractions.

Don't even try to, you will get more satisfaction by spreading some rumors about him. (penal dysfunction, you caught him wearing your underwear, he has a terrible habit of picking his nose)... you know, stuff like that.

Come to me, and my first and most important question will be, do you actually WANT to "mend your broken heart"? I've found that a lot of people, including the ones who are spending the most time gazing at the moon and making wishes on stars, actually want to stay broken hearted.

Not because it's a wonderful feeling, or because they like being alone, but because their broken heart acts to prove that the love they felt, was truly of value. And they are afraid that if they feel better, that that will prove that their lost love wasn't all that great after all. And of course, some people just enjoy that tangy feeling they get from being depressed.

If we get past that, and you really do want to get better, then there are difficult, but effective things you can do. Nothing magic and fun, sorry. But effective.

Most important and direct: inspect your wounds more closely. Instead of standing back from yourself and feeling the agony and the pain, look closely at each small part of it.

The part that comes from the loss of time with the other person, is often the easiest to get rid of. That depends on your belief that they love you, which you can clearly know is now false (regardless of why you are heartbroken). They are GONE. So of COURSE they don't love you NOW. Therefore do you really, right now, want more time with the person who doesn't love you? I didn't think so. throw that piece of the pain in the trash, and look for the next piece.

Sort through your "plans for the future together" bin in your soul, and take each fantasy out one at a time, and look at it closely. Again, realize that it's attached directly to a picture of that person who left you. Replace each of those fantasy tomorrows, with something better.

The hardest part comes, when you begin to address and face your own sense of personal failure to hang on with the person who's gone. Going over everything in detail, you can realize in retrospect, where you DID actually screw up, and where you did everything right, but it turned out that you were incompatible, so what was right for you, MADE things wrong with them, and vice versa. It hurts the most to do this work, but every part of the mess that you DO identify and sort through, will start to heal as you sort it out, and will act to reduce your fear that you will mess up again with the next person.

That's about it. I can't heal you, I can't help you heal yourself. I can only say that this kind of thing can help and can work.

The best part of it is, you don't have to wait for someone else to happen along, before you can start making progress with it all. You do it all yourself.

ohh thank you for that nice insights and adviceMr. Igor Frankenstein, many really lesson learned...thumbs up...flowers for you

oh yeah I really need that needle and thread let me borrow it.. thanks...

oh..I didn't say its your job...by the way thank you for your comment.