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It was the advice given to me by my elders growing up, and which life experience has proven as true.
When people are combative, rude, or downright confrontational, there may be no 'excuse' but there is usually a reason. You never know who you are talking to, what their experiences or their day has been like, or who they might care about in their life, so its best to start from a place of respect and patience with others, as much as is possible. Do you care that individuals experience different things that shape their opinions and world views, or is all that matters what your world view is? Do you try to understand or inquire as to why people may act of communicate the way they do? I have found 'reading between the lines' even here on mingle, over a period of time, it becomes easier to understand the situations that have molded people, and possibly easier to know how to react, or not. Anyone else find this to be true? |
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We must be cousins. Your elders sound just like mine. Lol!
I agree wholeheartedly! 
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People are different and I accept that. I would always try to think there is good in a person and not judge, but as I have grown and learned from experiences , I wouldn’t analyze anymore unless the person matters to me and I need to help out. So like in a line when someone steps in and is rude I just take a deep breath and ignore. I refuse to get upset just because the other person is lol
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We must be cousins. Your elders sound just like mine. Lol! I agree wholeheartedly! I love this one.
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My old aunt used to say, "ya gotta use the people up the way they are".
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It was the advice given to me by my elders growing up, and which life experience has proven as true. When people are combative, rude, or downright confrontational, there may be no 'excuse' but there is usually a reason. You never know who you are talking to, what their experiences or their day has been like, or who they might care about in their life, so its best to start from a place of respect and patience with others, as much as is possible. Do you care that individuals experience different things that shape their opinions and world views, or is all that matters what your world view is? Do you try to understand or inquire as to why people may act of communicate the way they do? I have found 'reading between the lines' even here on mingle, over a period of time, it becomes easier to understand the situations that have molded people, and possibly easier to know how to react, or not. Anyone else find this to be true? This is actually the most logical TROUBLESHOOTING process to follow. It's not just a matter of feeling empathy for others, it's recognition of the fact that other people can have legitimate alternative goals and interests and concerns that you do, as well as that it is vastly easier and better to address those concerns, most of the time, than it is to quash and ignore them. One of the greatest (as in most influential and important) lessons of existence, is that nothing is MORE likely to roll over your life like a gigantic steamroller, than a problem ignored. In addition, there are few opportunities MORE likely to illuminate your own life and your own real needs, than seeing to the needs of the rest of the world around you. |
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It was the advice given to me by my elders growing up, and which life experience has proven as true. When people are combative, rude, or downright confrontational, there may be no 'excuse' but there is usually a reason. You never know who you are talking to, what their experiences or their day has been like, or who they might care about in their life, so its best to start from a place of respect and patience with others, as much as is possible. Do you care that individuals experience different things that shape their opinions and world views, or is all that matters what your world view is? Do you try to understand or inquire as to why people may act of communicate the way they do? I have found 'reading between the lines' even here on mingle, over a period of time, it becomes easier to understand the situations that have molded people, and possibly easier to know how to react, or not. Anyone else find this to be true? This is actually the most logical TROUBLESHOOTING process to follow. It's not just a matter of feeling empathy for others, it's recognition of the fact that other people can have legitimate alternative goals and interests and concerns that you do, as well as that it is vastly easier and better to address those concerns, most of the time, than it is to quash and ignore them. One of the greatest (as in most influential and important) lessons of existence, is that nothing is MORE likely to roll over your life like a gigantic steamroller, than a problem ignored. In addition, there are few opportunities MORE likely to illuminate your own life and your own real needs, than seeing to the needs of the rest of the world around you. absolutely. |
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I agree.. we never know what they've been through pr what they're going through so instead judging people about how they behave, it's better if we just take time to listen... sometimes that's what they need
As much as possible try to see the good in every people.. undestand them and be compassionate  ... our world will be so much better with that
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It seems that a lot of people would agree this is how they would love to be treated, though often this is not how they treat others. Perhaps it's hard to take the time?
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