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Topic: Arguing in public. How do you feel?
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Tue 02/06/18 07:39 AM

I don’t know about arguing in public but it’s embarrassing when you get caught making love in public places.

Or so a friend told me.


Your...um, friend...should scout his venue a little better in future. slaphead

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Tue 02/06/18 07:43 AM

Chit can happen, and it depends on context whether or not it will be in public.
But if the dynamic of the relationship would push my buttons to the extent of having public arguments, I don't think I'd want to be in that relationship. It means something between two people isn't working out too well.

Apart from that, I don't like the totally upset drama scenes, but I read the other day that more often than not couples that fight that way stand a better chance of a long lasting relationship than couples that calmly talk about things.
Reason being that couples that argue fiercely are their authentic selves which ultimately is always best in a relationship.
Nevertheless, if me and a partner would regularly clash to the extent of screaming and shouting I feel it's an indication I'm with the wrong partner.


Yes, I too believe in airing laundry over shoving it in a closet to mold. I can air laundry quite loud and clear! laugh Just not in the moddle of the mall.

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Tue 02/06/18 07:49 AM

I think it depends a lot on the subject priority and the personality of the participants.
I learned arguing with my X was a no-no whether in public or not.
Her personality was such that she had no trouble making a scene out of any disagreement.
On the flip-side, I once had a girlfriend that could argue her point calmly and without grandiose fanfare. In public, if we could not reach an agreement we walked away from the decision. I have the ability to see others points of view. Most of the time I just went along with her because it really did no harm.

I do not like when people are yelling at each other on their phones in public. These personalities forget they are in public and shout the most vile stuff for everyone in earshot to hear. If you treat others that you know like THAT, I don't want anything to do with you.


Your girlfriend had a special skill. I’d rather debate than argue usually. But I can get a little passionate when really frustrated! Name calling or insults dont fly with me at all though. noway

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Tue 02/06/18 07:54 AM

Chit can happen, and it depends on context whether or not it will be in public.
But if the dynamic of the relationship would push my buttons to the extent of having public arguments, I don't think I'd want to be in that relationship. It means something between two people isn't working out too well.

Apart from that, I don't like the totally upset drama scenes, but I read the other day that more often than not couples that fight that way stand a better chance of a long lasting relationship than couples that calmly talk about things.
Reason being that couples that argue fiercely are their authentic selves which ultimately is always best in a relationship.
Nevertheless, if me and a partner would regularly clash to the extent of screaming and shouting I feel it's an indication I'm with the wrong partner.


I think you’re right. If someone gets that worked up, there may be something wrong.

There is a very long distance between standing your ground and screeming and shouting. I think most of us fall in the middle somewhere. The idea screeming and shouting makes me feel ill, frankly.

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Tue 02/06/18 11:48 AM


I won't argue in public. I would not embarrass my mate.. and make myself look like a a*s.

I just don't do it

now alone with her in the car... that's a different story Lol


No, I can't imagine you would embarrass your mate. But don't drive when you're upset...laugh I forgot in Jersey that's just normal. rofl


Every driver on the N.J. Turnpike needs anger management classes.. its the wild west. with tolls.. ;)

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Tue 02/06/18 12:30 PM
Hi there I think that arguing with your partner in public is immature and ridiculous It certainly draw's attention to the both of you and should not happen. I think two grown up adult's should be able to keep their cool until they can discuss their differences without looking like idiots. I can't stand a partner who acts like that.

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Tue 02/06/18 12:36 PM

I have a pocket taser in my bra ... it is a little bulky but it is a handy deterrent when I don't feel motivated to argue :angel:


Brings a whole new meaning to "feeling a spark" on a date with you, I guess.

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Wed 02/07/18 02:58 PM


I have a pocket taser in my bra ... it is a little bulky but it is a handy deterrent when I don't feel motivated to argue :angel:


Brings a whole new meaning to "feeling a spark" on a date with you, I guess.


laugh

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Sat 02/10/18 04:10 AM
it's not necessary at all keep single argument in a public. just let it go and find a solution after arrive at home

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Mon 02/12/18 09:47 AM

No matter how perfect a relationship, there will be disagreements. When they come up in a public situation, how do you deal with it?

Personally, I feel like arguing with your partner in a public place is extremely disrespectful, not only to them, but the people who have to witness it. I'm one for waiting until I get home to voice a complaint or discuss an issue.

But as often as I see it, it seems like many couples simply don't care who sees/hears their spats.

Do you think views on whether or not it's acceptable to argue in public is something that differs regionally? What about culturally?



I would not like it in public ... but not sure what they would say to get me to argue with them... but I might ...can't say no ... becouse I don't know ...

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Mon 02/12/18 03:09 PM
I would wait til we get home, then blast him out.
My ex needed that often, when he had too many Natural Lites.sad2

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Mon 02/12/18 03:51 PM
shocked

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