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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? With the way the great majority of women are now, Why would a man want to take care of a woman? Especially financially? Many are doing it by themselves. You can too. In other words, Go get a job and then pursue your dreams. When you have finished whatever it is you wish to pursue, then start looking for a man. And when you start looking for one, look for one for the right reasons. Look for one that you can love, that loves you, unconditionally. Never go at it with the idea of, "I love you "if" you take care of me. Or "if" anything. You both should be, "I love you, PERIOD. Because shyt is gonna happen. That's just life. If the real love isn't there, you will never make it. So, forget about all that other stuff. Take care of yourself. Learn to support "you". And always remember, Never ask another to give you something that you can't give back. Or give yourself. In other words, Many women now will ask a man to support her in all kinds of ways. But many are not willing to give that same support back to him. I really feel sympathy for you that you haven't crossed paths with a woman who would have made you feel protective and possessive towards her. And all the more because of the lack of reciprocation. I don't know everything. But, since you come from a different part of the world, well, things are just different. Women where you are, are more like the way women used to be here. As far as the "protective" and "possessive" part of your statement goes, Every woman that I've ever been romantically linked with I felt protective of. I think that's just born in a man to be that way. But many women here in this part of the world, they no longer appreciate that. They can do it for themselves. So, since so many want to assert their independence to such an extreme, Well, many men just don't see the point anymore. The "possessive" part of your statement. I've never wanted to possess a woman. They are not a possession. I do understand what you mean, though. At least I think I do. I think you mean more like, "belonging". That's the way it once was here. If you said you belonged to a man, it meant that was where your heart was. Your heart is with him. And even with that, you're still not a possession. That lack of reciprocation you spoke of, that's one of the reasons why so many American men every year go to other countries seeking wives. Mostly certain Asian countries. Another small bit of information. Some men will bring a woman back with him to the USA. Many will not. They go where ever she is. Let's say the Philippines. They will go there and live with her because they don't want to bring her here where she might see how many American women are. They don't want to run the risk of her getting around American women that might change her from the way she is. And yes, many will argue that they can show her how to not be a slave to a man. It's not about being a slave to some man. It's about being a wife.Showing a man that you love him, respect him and you need him in your life. And many here don't know how to do that anymore. What many American women will show you, is how to wind up alone. Like many of them are. I'm not saying that "all" are this way. But too many are. It's sad really. |
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? With the way the great majority of women are now, Why would a man want to take care of a woman? Especially financially? Many are doing it by themselves. You can too. In other words, Go get a job and then pursue your dreams. When you have finished whatever it is you wish to pursue, then start looking for a man. And when you start looking for one, look for one for the right reasons. Look for one that you can love, that loves you, unconditionally. Never go at it with the idea of, "I love you "if" you take care of me. Or "if" anything. You both should be, "I love you, PERIOD. Because shyt is gonna happen. That's just life. If the real love isn't there, you will never make it. So, forget about all that other stuff. Take care of yourself. Learn to support "you". And always remember, Never ask another to give you something that you can't give back. Or give yourself. In other words, Many women now will ask a man to support her in all kinds of ways. But many are not willing to give that same support back to him. I really feel sympathy for you that you haven't crossed paths with a woman who would have made you feel protective and possessive towards her. And all the more because of the lack of reciprocation. I don't know everything. But, since you come from a different part of the world, well, things are just different. Women where you are, are more like the way women used to be here. As far as the "protective" and "possessive" part of your statement goes, Every woman that I've ever been romantically linked with I felt protective of. I think that's just born in a man to be that way. But many women here in this part of the world, they no longer appreciate that. They can do it for themselves. So, since so many want to assert their independence to such an extreme, Well, many men just don't see the point anymore. The "possessive" part of your statement. I've never wanted to possess a woman. They are not a possession. I do understand what you mean, though. At least I think I do. I think you mean more like, "belonging". That's the way it once was here. If you said you belonged to a man, it meant that was where your heart was. Your heart is with him. And even with that, you're still not a possession. That lack of reciprocation you spoke of, that's one of the reasons why so many American men every year go to other countries seeking wives. Mostly certain Asian countries. Another small bit of information. Some men will bring a woman back with him to the USA. Many will not. They go where ever she is. Let's say the Philippines. They will go there and live with her because they don't want to bring her here where she might see how many American women are. They don't want to run the risk of her getting around American women that might change her from the way she is. And yes, many will argue that they can show her how to not be a slave to a man. It's not about being a slave to some man. It's about being a wife.Showing a man that you love him, respect him and you need him in your life. And many here don't know how to do that anymore. What many American women will show you, is how to wind up alone. Like many of them are. I'm not saying that "all" are this way. But too many are. It's sad really. I just saw Philippines and I do feel Charles gave us a compliment. So in behalf of the Filipino women here. I want to say thank you  there are really cultural differences which can shape our character and if imbedded really deep there’s really no need to worry. IMHO 
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? With the way the great majority of women are now, Why would a man want to take care of a woman? Especially financially? Many are doing it by themselves. You can too. In other words, Go get a job and then pursue your dreams. When you have finished whatever it is you wish to pursue, then start looking for a man. And when you start looking for one, look for one for the right reasons. Look for one that you can love, that loves you, unconditionally. Never go at it with the idea of, "I love you "if" you take care of me. Or "if" anything. You both should be, "I love you, PERIOD. Because shyt is gonna happen. That's just life. If the real love isn't there, you will never make it. So, forget about all that other stuff. Take care of yourself. Learn to support "you". And always remember, Never ask another to give you something that you can't give back. Or give yourself. In other words, Many women now will ask a man to support her in all kinds of ways. But many are not willing to give that same support back to him. I really feel sympathy for you that you haven't crossed paths with a woman who would have made you feel protective and possessive towards her. And all the more because of the lack of reciprocation. I don't know everything. But, since you come from a different part of the world, well, things are just different. Women where you are, are more like the way women used to be here. As far as the "protective" and "possessive" part of your statement goes, Every woman that I've ever been romantically linked with I felt protective of. I think that's just born in a man to be that way. But many women here in this part of the world, they no longer appreciate that. They can do it for themselves. So, since so many want to assert their independence to such an extreme, Well, many men just don't see the point anymore. The "possessive" part of your statement. I've never wanted to possess a woman. They are not a possession. I do understand what you mean, though. At least I think I do. I think you mean more like, "belonging". That's the way it once was here. If you said you belonged to a man, it meant that was where your heart was. Your heart is with him. And even with that, you're still not a possession. That lack of reciprocation you spoke of, that's one of the reasons why so many American men every year go to other countries seeking wives. Mostly certain Asian countries. Another small bit of information. Some men will bring a woman back with him to the USA. Many will not. They go where ever she is. Let's say the Philippines. They will go there and live with her because they don't want to bring her here where she might see how many American women are. They don't want to run the risk of her getting around American women that might change her from the way she is. And yes, many will argue that they can show her how to not be a slave to a man. It's not about being a slave to some man. It's about being a wife.Showing a man that you love him, respect him and you need him in your life. And many here don't know how to do that anymore. What many American women will show you, is how to wind up alone. Like many of them are. I'm not saying that "all" are this way. But too many are. It's sad really. I just saw Philippines and I do feel Charles gave us a compliment. So in behalf of the Filipino women here. I want to say thank you there are really cultural differences which can shape our character and if imbedded really deep there’s really no need to worry. IMHO It is a compliment. If you can, try to look at it from a man's perspective. Many men have dated and married American women. For some, after a while of being married and being made to feel like they don't matter, useless and unneeded, he gets divorced from her and sets out to find one that will let him be the man. Instead, he finds more of what he just left. A lot of time goes by right along with many other women that are very close to being the exact same way. Then one day he finally gives up and starts looking around Asia. And he finds women are totally different. And it appeals to him. When a man gets lucky enough to find something like that. A woman that he can put first and she does the same for him. She loves and respects him and treats him well. He actually, finally has harmony in his how. He's going to be real careful that nothing comes along and ruin's it. Like some of these American women whispering in your ear. I can understand how a man would feel. Scared, afraid you might get around the wrong influence. |
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In fairness to American women , there are also Filipino women who are like what you said Charles. It is just a matter of making the right choices I think. Whatever culture someone falls in love with there are I guess areas that should be worked on wherever we may live as a couple. It either becomes heaven or hell depending on how the couple works it out?
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Ummm... all I can say to this is ..if she is taking care of my needs... I'm definitely going to take care of her needs ...mmmhhmm
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Good day baby,my name is raymond and I will like you to be my sugar baby and that comes along with an allowance of $300 weekly ..I will be waiting for your text here 704 826 2139 |
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I have two kids, both grown and gone....I have been alone for three years now and sometimes it get so lonely, I have a house in Houston .where I have fun when I am on mining trips. I just want some attention and someone to share everything with |
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In fairness to American women , there are also Filipino women who are like what you said Charles. It is just a matter of making the right choices I think. Whatever culture someone falls in love with there are I guess areas that should be worked on wherever we may live as a couple. It either becomes heaven or hell depending on how the couple works it out? I'm sure that you are right. You live there, you should know. But, me personally, I think it's more widespread here than it is there. I've dated white women up until a few years ago. Since then I've dated Puerto Rican women and Filipino. And even though none of them worked out long-term, it was still better than most of the white women I've dated over the years. I hate to say that. But it's the truth. I'm attracted to white women. But, for the most part, for me and people that I know, Filipino women have a different way of treating a man. I'm not saying that "all" Filipino women treat American or any other man better. All I'm saying is, from what I've seen and experienced. They just have a different way that's very appealing to most American men. And it's a way that many American women just don't have now. |
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In fairness to American women , there are also Filipino women who are like what you said Charles. It is just a matter of making the right choices I think. Whatever culture someone falls in love with there are I guess areas that should be worked on wherever we may live as a couple. It either becomes heaven or hell depending on how the couple works it out? I'm sure that you are right. You live there, you should know. But, me personally, I think it's more widespread here than it is there. I've dated white women up until a few years ago. Since then I've dated Puerto Rican women and Filipino. And even though none of them worked out long-term, it was still better than most of the white women I've dated over the years. I hate to say that. But it's the truth. I'm attracted to white women. But, for the most part, for me and people that I know, Filipino women have a different way of treating a man. I'm not saying that "all" Filipino women treat American or any other man better. All I'm saying is, from what I've seen and experienced. They just have a different way that's very appealing to most American men. And it's a way that many American women just don't have now. Thank you Charles for the high regard that you have for us. The Filipina was surely lucky to have dated and known you. I am now curious why it didn’t work out with her. Anyways didn’t mean to pry  more blessings to you Charles and I hope more Filipina can get to meet more men like you
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ?  Sorry to intrude. I agree in principle, but not sure that it is "old fashioned". Throughout most of history, I suspect that working as a team was not only in fashion, but in many cases necessary for survival. Their dreams became intertwined and they worked together to accomplish the goal. Obviously, it looked differently then it does today, but I think your point about teamwork has always been the model that works best. |
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? Sorry to intrude. I agree in principle, but not sure that it is "old fashioned". Throughout most of history, I suspect that working as a team was not only in fashion, but in many cases necessary for survival. Their dreams became intertwined and they worked together to accomplish the goal. Obviously, it looked differently then it does today, but I think your point about teamwork has always been the model that works best. I did understand and I agree with you completely. I'm just not sure that this is a modern method. I know that based on the last 150 years that was a model, but there have been many periods of time and cultures where women have contributed equally and arguably supported their families. lol.. I suspect I am over-thinking this. Even in my childhood, I witnessed my grandmothers as equal contributors, although it did look differently then it does today. |
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hiii
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Just fall in love and see what happens.
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hiii 
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Good day baby,my name is raymond and I will like you to be my sugar baby and that comes along with an allowance of $300 weekly ..I will be waiting for your text here 704 826 2139 poof, your post will be gone soon. |
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In fairness to American women , there are also Filipino women who are like what you said Charles. It is just a matter of making the right choices I think. Whatever culture someone falls in love with there are I guess areas that should be worked on wherever we may live as a couple. It either becomes heaven or hell depending on how the couple works it out? I'm sure that you are right. You live there, you should know. But, me personally, I think it's more widespread here than it is there. I've dated white women up until a few years ago. Since then I've dated Puerto Rican women and Filipino. And even though none of them worked out long-term, it was still better than most of the white women I've dated over the years. I hate to say that. But it's the truth. I'm attracted to white women. But, for the most part, for me and people that I know, Filipino women have a different way of treating a man. I'm not saying that "all" Filipino women treat American or any other man better. All I'm saying is, from what I've seen and experienced. They just have a different way that's very appealing to most American men. And it's a way that many American women just don't have now. Thank you Charles for the high regard that you have for us. The Filipina was surely lucky to have dated and known you. I am now curious why it didn’t work out with her. Anyways didn’t mean to pry more blessings to you Charles and I hope more Filipina can get to meet more men like you I would rather not go into the why's and what for's here. Things just didn't work out for us. But, I have to admit that being with her left me with a lasting impression. Not only with her though. With others, I've known too. I will say that one of the best impressions they all left on me, Many American women care too much about "things". They care too much about there career. Many American women put their career ahead of their man. When they have kids, the man can fall to 3rd or 4th or farther down the totem pole. I've known many that wound up feeling like nothing more than a sperm donor with a paycheck. Filipina women, many don't seem to put career so high up. Many don't seem to care about a career at all. Both their man and the kids come first. The ones that I've known, the kids and their man shared the same #1 spot. Too many American men, that in its self is very appealing. Filipina women don't seem to care so much about "things". They seem to be happy just living within there means. They seem to care more about the "core" things. There husband, kids, a roof over there heads and food in there stomach. Just creating a warm, happy home for everyone under that roof. I might be a bit oversimplifying things. Everybody likes having some of the better things in life. It just seemed to me that as long as they have love and a happy home, they're happy. They don't seem to put a lot of demands on a man. Just "love me". |
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That is correct Charles. We would love for a man to take care of us and be protected so much so that most settle for cheating husbands as long as they are doing their responsibility for the family. Most of us cannot support a family alone and it really saddens my heart. It’s like most women here don’t have a choice. Oh but well that’s another topic
 
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Charles your posts are depressing me, I'm starting to feel I'm doomed to singlehood just because I'm an American woman!
Not all American woman are as you describe. And not all are bad for being how you described. You seem to generalize a lot based on your personal experiences and imo that's not really fair. I would love to make my relationship, when I have one, my priority. To only work part time and be a full time wife. Maybe some day I will find a man who is okay with that and doesn't think because he is the main provider that it's okay to hit me! I'm sure not all men are like that, just as not all women are how you describe. |
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its a free world 
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