I accepted and forgave my ex husbands’ cheating but i wont forget. I tried to be friends for the sake of our kids but things just worked out better when I distanced myself and didnt care anymore what he did or did not do for our kids. Things have a way of just moving on by itself sometimes

My son's dad was never mean to them, however, sometimes he neglected them so that can be called mean.

I never believe in talking down about your children father like some women do.

But that's just me. Let kids form their own opinions as they get older and see for themselves.

No !!! A topic of conversation.

An Old man stood at the Golden Gates,
His head was bent so low,
He meekly asked the Man of Fate,
"Which way he had to go"
"What have you done"St.Peter asked
"To gain admission here?"
"I was just a married man on earth" he said
"For many and many and many a year".
St.Peter opened wide the Gates
And beamed on him as well.
"Come in Come in My Friend " he said.
"You've had your share of Hell!!!"

Poem by Unknown

(only joking )

I don't know what causes some people to change the way they do. When my X and I married, a man couldn't ask for a sweeter woman. We dated for two years. But within six years of marrying her, I didn't know her anymore. She changed into a mean, hateful person that I couldn't stand to be around.

I know that as we get older we all change. I know I've changed. But, I like to think I've changed, at least some for the better. And not backward. In other words, I've always been opinionated and never did mind speaking my mind to anyone. As I've gotten older I've learned to keep at least some of what I think to myself. Don't be so willing to say what I think all the time. Stop being so willing to poke the bear.

My X went from a sweet person to a hateful, spiteful a-hole that to this day has a major don't care attitude. That's her though. I don't worry about it anymore. I'm better off. The only thing I do worry about is my boys. I don't want that hateful, mean spirit to rub off on them. So far, so good.

I think many people don't change but they are deceitful in the beginning and later in the relationship their true colors come out. Some can cover up things for years.

My son's dad was a good man, he was an adulterers and loved women. Didn't take commitment Serious enough. Otherwise he had a good personality.
Imo

I'm thankful I don't have kids with my second ex he was a charmer, but very deceitful. We ended on a good key thou. He never should marry. Now he's on his 4th wife. Hopefully he has changed for the better.

People used to tell me how my X was when I was not around.
I chose not to believe them, thinking they were just trying to break our marriage.
I couldn't see her true nature because of my own jaded view of her.
I was gullible to her lies.
I knew she had problems but I was so blinded by my love for her that I assumed she would NEVER LIE TO ME.
What I found out, when I woke up, is that she had been lying to me the WHOLE TIME.
She lies to everyone, even herself. I don't think she is capable of truth?
I know that now.

I often ask myself if it was her lying or my own gullibility?
I've come to the realization that it was both.
I made a poor choice.

There are a lot of defective people out there.
I stay single because women I meet tend to lie to me eventually.
I continue looking because I believe somewhere out there is a woman that feels the same as I.

I've adopted the discipline not to lie to myself.
Lying to oneself is called delusion.
I am getting pretty good at removing my own delusions now.
It makes me recognize when other's are deluded.
It helps me identify the liars I meet.

Some people can't help but to lie.
Some people don't know they delude themselves.
Its just their nature.
I don't fault them for it anymore, I just choose not to get close to them.
Therefore, I'm alone.

I'm not blind to love anymore nor am delusional . I don't know how those seeking love online can think it happens just by emailing, forums and talking on phone and skpes..

You have to spend one tme with someone and get to know them.

Then often times you still don't know them until you live together. I'm

From my story and others here, I am even more convinced I'm correct.

Yet I 'm still open to love. I have activity partner, not Romantic , so I don't feel alone. Also active and work .

At least I didn't have to pay for my ex's divorces, they did. And they moved on again and the women help them spend lots of their money.

I usually dated generous men. They didn't need my money. Yes, I always had a job outside of my home!