"Age is just a number", "Maturity's what really matters", "The heart wants what the heart wants", These are all cliche`s that we've all heard over and over. And they couldn't be more accurate. We truly can't help who we fall in love with. Love may not care if someone is older or younger, but we as a society certainly do. Society often holds a negative stigma regarding age differences. So what do you think? What are your thoughts on the matter?

Please post your serious and thoughtful answers.

Sure they could.
If they couldn't...they wouldn't be called cliches...they'd be called facts.


Sure we can. We can always say no and extricate ourselves from the situation.
We can always say yes, "settle," and delude ourselves into feeling something "good enough," which anyone can call love, and they wouldn't be wrong because there isn't an impartial omniscient arbitrator that judges your relationships and your feelings.


Love can't feel anything.
Love isn't an invisible being walking the earth and if you interact with someone in the "right" way it attracts the love creature to come nest in your stomach where it gets trapped.


That should tell you something.
As the cumulative interaction of individual people determines what "society" believes and does.
Society is also not an external creature that happens to live alongside human beings having developed without individual influence.


That's pretty much the starting rationalizing argument for any child predator.


I think you are bombarded with sense information on a constant basis and you need to come up with shortcuts by which to judge that information and what you are going to do with it in terms of the behavior you exhibit.
"Age" is just as relevant a factor as "gender" or "distance" or "dead body" or "has cats."


You aren't entitled to date anyone, and anyone that chooses to date you is making a choice for themselves.
Doesn't really matter what you believe.
At best you get a shot at convincing someone that your ideology is correct.
But even if someone says "you know, you're too old/young for me," and then you convince them that you're not, it doesn't mean it will lead to a happy relationship, that age difference won't become a problem in the future, or changing their ideology or perspective on the subject will do anything whatsoever. They can still say "okay, okay, I was trying to be nice, it's not really the age, I just don't find you attractive in any way."



Other than that, my thoughts on the matter are as a third person omniscient objective observer discussing a hypothetical, no, age doesn't matter, but neither does the life (nor especially any feelings or "love") of any individual, from that perspective.

the immortal words of this Isley Brothers song best express
my thoughts on this classic internet discussion subject...

" It's yo thing
do what ya wanna do
I can't tell you
who to sock it to"

Age matters in my dating or in a relationship. I am an older lady desiring an older mature gentleman. They are rare Online, because Many are already in serious relationships.


Not into hookups. or meets for coffee.

No, doesn't matter at all

Unless of course after time that much younger gal has a problem with wiping drool from his chin, getting his depends plastic underwear and his meds from the pharmacy and adjusting his hearing aid and of course, its "lights out at 7pm".

Yes! It matters more and more as I get older too. I had a strict rule on age before and every time I broke it, there have been issues, so yeah it matters to me. However, an even more important rule is mental stability.

Age *does* matter to me.

I do not want someone who is young enough I could have given birth to them...to *me*, that's just weird and creepy.

And, very few younger man/ older women..where the age spread is large ever last long term..
Say he's cool when she is 55 and he is 35..
But, in a few years when she is in her 70's, and he in his 50's..it *might* become an issue.

The only couple I know that has lasted with a big age spread is Marty Stuart (1958) and Connie Smith (1941)..
That's 17 years...but..it has worked out for them.

I don't want a guy that is old enough to be my dad either..
I wasn't into much older men in my 20's....

10 years either way seems a good age range.

To each their own.

Of course age matters. Its a " fade" to those who date people 1/2 their age. How can it last?.. really.. how? The older one ages much faster then the younger one.

I know people who did it and it NEVER lasted. Got to tell you, the ones that I know personally... their kids were mortified.. embarrassed.

Is it worth all that?... not in my book.

Yes, age matters. For example, someone my age, 65, would have nothing in common with someone 25-35, etc. We are at different stages of our lives and have different points of reference. I believe, as an older female, who is younger at heart, I can have a relationship with someone younger, but I wouldn't want it to be more than a decade...we can still relate by then, but those women who look at men young enough to be their child, are not looking for something lasting. Good luck to them...not for me.

NAMBLA would be proud...every one of these posts reminds me of pedifiles, not that I'm calling anyone one..

WOW!!, If you are 65 I can't wait to get there.