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mingle is a dating site?  One can dream can't they? 
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mingle is a dating site? 
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I'll only go on dating sites that have forums. This one boots up slow. Sometimes I'll go off then back on for a few moments. These forums are rather dry.
Dating on here? Fat chance of that ever happening. It's just amusement for me. I see no reason to boot up any photos. I tried in the past, but they don't like what I put up, so it's none for me. Spend MONEY on these websites? Oh no way. I learned from match, when I had to call my credit card company to stop payment to them. So I never spend money on any of them, anymore. Lots of scammers on this one. A few tell me that I have matches. To see them, I have to sign up and pay. From what I saw in my age range, I have no interest in any of them. My curiosity, I conquered years ago, so I don't even consider them anymore. |
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Everybody, I am new here to Mingle2. I guess one of my biggest questions is what are the main differences between this website and other dating websites such as match or eHarmony? If anybody has experience with both of these it be cool to hear some differences or comparisons from you guys. It's great to start being a part of this community. Its a known fact that eHarmony is owned by commies, whereas Mingle2 is not. So, don't be a comrade and be forced to wear one of those huge fur hats.... stay here with us. |
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Well thanks for all of the replies everyone. I'm definitely going to have to stick around a while to see how it feels as a dating website for me. Or whether or not it actually is a dating website now I'm confused haha
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Some dating sites have really weird questions you have to answer in order to join.
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hello how are you doing
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Mingle2 was advertised as a dating site when I first saw it.
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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OP deactivated. I was wondering how long it was going to take before (she?) got booted.
On the sites I mod or admin at there are not dating forums. They are mostly fansites, science sites or howto sites. What is common is any hostility in the threads gets a warning. We don't just ban members that violate. This is because bots are known and members are real people. Each person is given the chance to get within the sites rules. Its a whole different ballgame with dating sites. Many people have intolerance of others because they have been hurt or are vindictive. People that are emotionally fragile are subject to making incorrect decisions so that makes them prime targets for predators of any nature. I was asked to be a mod here and one other dating forum and declined. I declined because my plate is already full but I also know that its a whole lot of work to do the job right and I can't dedicate the time to the job. It would be unfair to M2 for me to take on that responsibility and not give it the dedication required. So, I declined so someone else that can do a good job can do it. Most of us (including me) have had comments or threads modded out to keep the balance. Some of us resent it but some of us understand why they had to be modded out. M2 tries to keep the forums open to all people. Each of us has the right to participate. If we choose to disrupt the flow or assault other members we should be modded out. Sometimes the reasoning behind the modding action is obscure but the result is favorable to the continuity and equality of all. I think there is a few here that don't realize they have it made as far as the forums go. OKC did away with there forums. So did POF. And DH, it just went away. All three of these sites lost control of the forums. Being a moderator on a site like this can be hard. You try not to be too hard on the other users. You can't rule with an iron fist. But on the other hand, you will have some users that if you don't get sorta tough with them, they will try to run over everybody. Including the moderator. It's a hard balancing act to do. I've been here since 2012. I've been reading and following these forums for a while. "Free for all's" are not allowed. And I'm glad they are like that. I know people get heated sometimes and that fine. Some folks might not like it being on the G rated side. In other words, the site tries to hold it at a PG13 rating. But they know that people will push that to an R rating at times. But, if they allowed an R rating, many would try to push it to an X rated. Which is what happened to POF, OKC, and DH. And now their forums are gone. POF, their forums had gotten to the point that they were dragging the site down as a whole. Which, if I understand correctly, is what happened to DH. Forums can be fun and keep people on site. But, forums can also go the other way. If the forums are not properly moderated, they can drag the site down. Many people will start to leave. The next thing you know all you have on site are the troublemakers. And that ain't good. Mingle has its problems. I think the dating part of the site could use an update. But as far as the forum part goes,  I've seen what it's like the other way on three different sites. Mingle forums, are good just the way they are. |
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I only know the different between this and datehookup
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Since when? PoF forums are alive and well, I just posted a while ago on them.
Life at Pof forums is rather laid back. We're allowed to ramble on, taking the subject to different directions. That doesn't happen here. Photos, screwy adds can be done here, but not there. We're allowed to voice opinions more aggressively there. If you're an idiot, you get told you're an idiot. (With some discretion) Here, If you say some person has a wart on their nose, that post gets knocked off. Must be why they have pages of posts. Here, a couple, and the thread dies. DH was wild and wooly, a definite popcorn event. There, you put on your helmet, crawled into a foxhole, and waited for the shells to start flying. There, you could block posters. There,if you didn't like a poster, you could block them, and not read their lunacy. They made you look up news feeds. Because some of the quoted garbage was just that-garbage. Posters there did get banned, but they had to be extremely vile to get banned. I spent the most time there. That, was entertainment. |
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Since when? PoF forums are alive and well, I just posted a while ago on them. Life at Pof forums is rather laid back. We're allowed to ramble on, taking the subject to different directions. That doesn't happen here. Photos, screwy adds can be done here, but not there. We're allowed to voice opinions more aggressively there. If you're an idiot, you get told you're an idiot. (With some discretion) Here, If you say some person has a wart on their nose, that post gets knocked off. Must be why they have pages of posts. Here, a couple, and the thread dies. DH was wild and wooly, a definite popcorn event. There, you put on your helmet, crawled into a foxhole, and waited for the shells to start flying. There, you could block posters. There,if you didn't like a poster, you could block them, and not read their lunacy. They made you look up news feeds. Because some of the quoted garbage was just that-garbage. Posters there did get banned, but they had to be extremely vile to get banned. I spent the most time there. That, was entertainment. Word lol |
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I've been a presence online since 1995. That was the year I got my first 'home' computer and internet connection.
For a little more than a decade I participated in chats and forums under a personification. My photo was an avatar I made. I did not use dating sites, had no need because I was happily married. One thing that I noticed after years of participating at forums is that no matter which personality I played as my avatar, the real me was in there. After I was put out of work, the marriage ended, the career ended and I had to fight for life my need for a personification ended. Of the few sites I continued to use, every one of them were of a fandom, science or practical application nature. I turned to online dating sites because of my health. I switched off the personification, posted and actual picture of myself for an avatar and ended the personality. I basically, became myself. I did this because in removing my delusions, I realized that personification was basically a lie and lies are delusions. I lost interest in messing with other people. What I found out (by asking others) is that even tho I no longer hid behind a personification and avatar I had the same personality. My core didn't change. People still liked me. Some people that didn't like me started to like me. A few missed my avatar driven antics, but not many. My point is, no matter how you hide behind your screenname your true personality always show thru. I understand the need for an online personification. Its a protection mechanism. The more participation someone does in a forum presence the more the true personality shines thru. So, if you're a caring person, your avatar will be a caring person. If you are devious, hateful, angry at the world, hostile, prejudiced or lackadaisical it will show thru in your online presence. I used to tell people in the real world that knew me also in the forums that I'm just playing and some believed me but some called me out. "No you're not Tom" started to make me realize that while I thought I was insulated between online and real life, my real life personality was 'bleeding thru'. That is when I decided to stop with the play acting and just own myself. In a dating site social forum, if you participate regularly, your personality always eventually shows thru. The only one yer really fooling is yourself. As far as dating forums go, I find M2 has fewer people trying to maintain a personification. Many of the participants are true representations of the people they are. Its a unique condition when considering forum communities. I participate at fansite forums that encourages avatar personification. Many choose the evil overlord and excel at it because they have actual personality similarities. I'm more of a Spock or Commander Data avatar. At M2, there are a lot of Gandalf the White and red shirt sacrifices. Many have a wrath of Khan mentality that shows thru. The mixture of personality provides entertainment but is very hard to moderate when you don't realize what yer dealing with. |
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Mingle2 was advertised as a dating site when I first saw it. That's what *I* was told also.... |
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OP deactivated. I was wondering how long it was going to take before (she?) got booted. On the sites I mod or admin at there are not dating forums. They are mostly fansites, science sites or howto sites. What is common is any hostility in the threads gets a warning. We don't just ban members that violate. This is because bots are known and members are real people. Each person is given the chance to get within the sites rules. Its a whole different ballgame with dating sites. Many people have intolerance of others because they have been hurt or are vindictive. People that are emotionally fragile are subject to making incorrect decisions so that makes them prime targets for predators of any nature. I was asked to be a mod here and one other dating forum and declined. I declined because my plate is already full but I also know that its a whole lot of work to do the job right and I can't dedicate the time to the job. It would be unfair to M2 for me to take on that responsibility and not give it the dedication required. So, I declined so someone else that can do a good job can do it. Most of us (including me) have had comments or threads modded out to keep the balance. Some of us resent it but some of us understand why they had to be modded out. M2 tries to keep the forums open to all people. Each of us has the right to participate. If we choose to disrupt the flow or assault other members we should be modded out. Sometimes the reasoning behind the modding action is obscure but the result is favorable to the continuity and equality of all. I think there is a few here that don't realize they have it made as far as the forums go. OKC did away with there forums. So did POF. And DH, it just went away. All three of these sites lost control of the forums. Being a moderator on a site like this can be hard. You try not to be too hard on the other users. You can't rule with an iron fist. But on the other hand, you will have some users that if you don't get sorta tough with them, they will try to run over everybody. Including the moderator. It's a hard balancing act to do. I've been here since 2012. I've been reading and following these forums for a while. "Free for all's" are not allowed. And I'm glad they are like that. I know people get heated sometimes and that fine. Some folks might not like it being on the G rated side. In other words, the site tries to hold it at a PG13 rating. But they know that people will push that to an R rating at times. But, if they allowed an R rating, many would try to push it to an X rated. Which is what happened to POF, OKC, and DH. And now their forums are gone. POF, their forums had gotten to the point that they were dragging the site down as a whole. Which, if I understand correctly, is what happened to DH. Forums can be fun and keep people on site. But, forums can also go the other way. If the forums are not properly moderated, they can drag the site down. Many people will start to leave. The next thing you know all you have on site are the troublemakers. And that ain't good. Mingle has its problems. I think the dating part of the site could use an update. But as far as the forum part goes, I've seen what it's like the other way on three different sites. Mingle forums, are good just the way they are. POF still has Forums....I know, I was just on there... |
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Since when? PoF forums are alive and well, I just posted a while ago on them. Life at Pof forums is rather laid back. We're allowed to ramble on, taking the subject to different directions. That doesn't happen here. Photos, screwy adds can be done here, but not there. We're allowed to voice opinions more aggressively there. If you're an idiot, you get told you're an idiot. (With some discretion) Here, If you say some person has a wart on their nose, that post gets knocked off. Must be why they have pages of posts. Here, a couple, and the thread dies. DH was wild and wooly, a definite popcorn event. There, you put on your helmet, crawled into a foxhole, and waited for the shells to start flying. There, you could block posters. There,if you didn't like a poster, you could block them, and not read their lunacy. They made you look up news feeds. Because some of the quoted garbage was just that-garbage. Posters there did get banned, but they had to be extremely vile to get banned. I spent the most time there. That, was entertainment. It seemed a LOT of the people at DH were nasty, spiteful, mean.... You asked a real question...got smart-aleky answers....or completely unasked for "advice"... I have no tolerance for Jr High (some of us oldesters remember that..now it is mostly "Middle school") type behavior.... I love forums where people are adults..can be conversational, chatty... If that doesn't suit someone...if they get off on being rude or a jerk or mean-spirited..there are a lot of forims just for that.... |
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I was never interested in POF's forums.
My profile at POF got hacked at the beginning of the year and instead of starting a new account, I just let it go. While I have met actual women locally from POF, I am no longer actively looking. I don't search much here either. If she finds me, I will respond if I am interested but there isn't many I'm interested in. I know to find someone right for me I have to be healthy enough to actually go out and meet women and I am not. Being alone is not that important to me right now. If it was, I would do anything to stop being alone. I would make an effort to change those conditions. My condition deteriorates in a spiral decline. I will not subject someone I love to these conditions. I know I will die alone and in pain and I can accept that. |
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I was never interested in POF's forums. My profile at POF got hacked at the beginning of the year and instead of starting a new account, I just let it go. While I have met actual women locally from POF, I am no longer actively looking. I don't search much here either. If she finds me, I will respond if I am interested but there isn't many I'm interested in. I know to find someone right for me I have to be healthy enough to actually go out and meet women and I am not. Being alone is not that important to me right now. If it was, I would do anything to stop being alone. I would make an effort to change those conditions. My condition deteriorates in a spiral decline. I will not subject someone I love to these conditions. I know I will die alone and in pain and I can accept that. It's sad you feel that way.. There are women who wouldn't mind someione with helath issues, if everything else was on point.. But, they are even harder to find... I know..I am a trapezoidal peg in a region of round holes, and I run across *very few* profile I am interested in (who have anything in common with me).. Then, I am chunky..that doesn't help...most I am interested in aren't interested in a chunky gal. So, I can relate. It's not just looking for a needle in a haystack..it's looking for a hay colored needle....much harder to find... |
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I only know the different between this and datehookup Hi, hun! |
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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Wed 09/26/18 11:38 AM
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They are no longer connected to POF. Only in name. They actually now belong to Match.com. Why they let them stay up, I have no idea anymore. All I know is they are not moderated anymore and are mostly trash. And have been for years.
Many of them are just like DH was. You can't post a serious thought on many of them. You can't have a different way of thinking either. If you don't mind being attacked and most times being talked to like a dog and treated worse, I guess they are OK. If you are the type that doesn't mind being on a thread with a bunch of sex perverts, it could be the place for you. If you have a problem respecting people, it might be the place for you. POF gave up those forums for a reason. To much trash. And they didn't want the trash to bring down the whole site. The guy who used to own the forums, he looked at those forums as if they were full trash cans that needed emptying. Which was exactly what he did. |
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