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Topic: Would spend the rest of your life with your spouse who doesn
Henri's photo
Wed 10/17/18 01:48 AM
How do you do that?

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 10/17/18 03:20 AM

I wouldn't marry a man in first place if he didn't love me.

Some people say they fall out of love later though .

You are married and it's a legal contract.



Geezzz that is old-fashioned BS.
If love could be gotten by a legal contract we'd all just get married and live happily ever after.
A legal contract is not a guarantee for love. Buying a house is also a legal contract, doesn't mean you gotta stay in that house the rest of your life.
Even the thought of marriage being a "legal contract" is horrible. It sounds like a life-sentence in prison.
It used to be that way, when people were married off for financial/material gain for the family. Thank goodness that's quite some time ago.
Marriage is based on love, if there is no love anymore, you get a divorce. Which is also legal btw...

Duttoneer's photo
Wed 10/17/18 07:30 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Wed 10/17/18 07:40 AM

I wouldn't marry a man in first place if he didn't love me.

Some people say they fall out of love later though .

You are married and it's a legal contract.




I think some people use that as an excuse, those not prepared to work at keeping their marriage, easier for them to say "Oh sorry, I have fallen out of love" and just give up on it. Some use that excuse as the get of jail free card in my opinion. I don't believe anyone should stay in a marriage no matter what, but it seems to me by the very high divorce rates, many must choose to just give up on it, perhaps those who were never really in love when they married. I agree, I wouldn't marry someone in the first place if they didn't love me either.
I wouldn't expect my marriage to be time sensitive, after so many years it's over, run it's course, for those that want that it would be better to be honest and just live together, why marry.

oldkid46's photo
Wed 10/17/18 07:38 AM
"Marriage is based on love, if there is no love anymore, you get a divorce. Which is also legal btw... "

If that were true, there would be less marriage and most would end in divorce within 10 years. Maybe 1 in 10 would survive! Women still get married for security and men for sex in most first marriages and many second marriages. Marriage is much more about meeting those needs than love.

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Wed 10/17/18 07:44 AM

So I should what..get married because I can pound her in the sheets every night and she makes a mean sandwich...laugh

mzrosie's photo
Wed 10/17/18 09:22 AM
^^ no mention of making a mean sandwich bigsmile

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Wed 10/17/18 06:58 PM
I think a large part of the "falling out of love" stuff (aside from your partner cheating on you...or other things that would cause that)...is because most people don't do due dilligence when they meet an new person.

I have had several guys on other sites say, either literally or figuratively "all that msatters is I am attracted to you...everything else will work out/ none of that other stuff matters"..

"Other stuff"...like commonalities, shared world and social views and beliefs, goals..etc...

So...all they have going for them is sex/ hormones...and those will wane some when the "new" wears off, ebb and flow over time....
And, when they wane...and you have nothing else that interests you/ in common with you partner....then comes the "fell out of love"..

*If* you have shared commonalities and so forth..you have things that keep you close during *those* periods..

Just my opinion, based on my first marriage, in the 80's....and what i have observed in others in the past 30 years.

oldkid46's photo
Wed 10/17/18 08:23 PM


So I should what..get married because I can pound her in the sheets every night and she makes a mean sandwich...laugh


Better than no sex and can't cook!

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Sat 10/20/18 04:00 AM
hell

Larsi666 😽's photo
Sat 10/20/18 04:15 AM
Absolutely not shocked

Rooster35's photo
Sat 10/20/18 04:18 AM

Who doesnt love you

What lunatic would?

no photo
Sat 10/20/18 10:38 AM
Who doesnt love you


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Sat 10/20/18 10:38 AM
Who doesnt love you


:fish::fish::fish::fish:

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Sat 10/20/18 10:40 AM
doubtful.

But my X stayed for 18 yrs too long.

Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 10/20/18 12:53 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sat 10/20/18 01:04 PM


I wouldn't marry a man in first place if he didn't love me.

Some people say they fall out of love later though .

You are married and it's a legal contract.




Geezzz that is old-fashioned BS.
If love could be gotten by a legal contract we'd all just get married and live happily ever after.
A legal contract is not a guarantee for love. Buying a house is also a legal contract, doesn't mean you gotta stay in that house the rest of your life.
Even the thought of marriage being a "legal contract" is horrible. It sounds like a life-sentence in prison.
It used to be that way, when people were married off for financial/material gain for the family. Thank goodness that's quite some time ago.
Marriage is based on love, if there is no love anymore, you get a divorce. Which is also legal btw...


Opinions we all have them and Preferences too.

What is Bull to YOU is not another. Couples that Are Married should try their Best to work things out.

I don't consider any thing else like livins a commitment.

That's My Opinion !! Choose what You will to do !

I am ALLOWED to Disagree with Your Opinions !





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Chetan's photo
Sun 10/21/18 11:16 PM
I am interested with you

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 10/22/18 07:34 AM


I wouldn't marry a man in first place if he didn't love me.

Some people say they fall out of love later though .

You are married and it's a legal contract.




I think some people use that as an excuse, those not prepared to work at keeping their marriage, easier for them to say "Oh sorry, I have fallen out of love" and just give up on it. Some use that excuse as the get of jail free card in my opinion. I don't believe anyone should stay in a marriage no matter what, but it seems to me by the very high divorce rates, many must choose to just give up on it, perhaps those who were never really in love when they married. I agree, I wouldn't marry someone in the first place if they didn't love me either.
I wouldn't expect my marriage to be time sensitive, after so many years it's over, run it's course, for those that want that it would be better to be honest and just live together, why marry.




This is good response !

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Mon 10/22/18 12:49 PM
I agree

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