Topic: Now,let's talk about MARRIAGE.
Mrmxb's photo
Fri 10/26/18 02:19 PM
"How does he fold his thorn? surprised"



No marriage to a folded thorn. Been there, done that. glasses


"Love the rose blossom, folding his thorn" to me means love the beauty, the positive... Put away the things that harm, the negatives.


yes, sometimes the translation is funny.

River, similarly explained.

"Love the rose blossom, folding his thorn"

this means;

be patient with your thorns. So do not see the negative aspects of your loved one.
Galaxi, I hope this explanation is enough. sometimes I laugh at translations. Because it's funny. more funny than a joke.

smile2

Mrmxb's photo
Fri 10/26/18 02:22 PM

I believe the translation he intended was:

Who loves a rose will endure its thorns.

Which is a common Turkish proverb.


:thumbsup:

Yes, I mean it
thanks actionlynx

actionlynx's photo
Fri 10/26/18 02:22 PM
You're welcome. tongue2

Actually, I did it to help Mrmxb. Even running it through a translator might help him catch little errors like that. Depends on the translator software, of course.

Mrmxb's photo
Fri 10/26/18 02:27 PM
24:27

I am late...
Good day everyone...
waving

Abir's photo
Sun 10/28/18 02:39 AM
I'm here for u. but would u concider may age? :smiley:

whatssuup's photo
Sun 10/28/18 06:22 AM



Marriage ..... you may think it's a word but it's really a sentence

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Sun 10/28/18 07:29 AM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Sun 10/28/18 07:31 AM




Marriage ..... you may think it's a word but it's really a sentence


I truly feel sad for people with *this* ^ sentiment.
They clearly have never had a really good, loving, and fulfilling marriage.
I guess I should count myself lucky then to have had one (am now a widow)...and a similar long term prior.

My first marriage, in the 80's, well..that was a total goat screw..
Still...I wasn't bitter or adverse to marriage.

oldkid46's photo
Sun 10/28/18 02:13 PM
Most people who have had a good, long term marriage, consider marriage a positive experience. Most who have had a disastrous marriage or two and have lost a significant amount of assets, have a very negative attitude toward marriage. They also probably have a negative attitude toward anyone who wants marriage.

msharmony's photo
Sun 10/28/18 02:27 PM
Edited by msharmony on Sun 10/28/18 02:29 PM
I feel marriage, as originally designed, with original family roles, works wonders. I think it is beautiful. I think the complication is that in modern time, 'roles' are frowned upon and many want to do what they want for themselves and have what makes them happy with as little compromise or sacrifice as possible. This makes the union of two people much more complicated, if each is still viewing life in terms of the self instead of the unit.

These are only my personal preferences, and other ways work if there is honest communication of what each can offer and wants to receive in return. I think the complication there is that many only put forth what they THINK the party they are 'attracted' to might want, instead of just being honest about what they will be likely to offer or expect.


I would love to be able to be the domestic and nurturing support to husband and family, and have a husband who cherishes the value in that. I would love to find the husband who would love to be the protective provider to a wife and family, and have a wife who cherishes the value in that.

but these days, people expect to do and expect others to fill all roles, and I dont see the point in having a complement(spouse) if the expectation is for me to do it all myself anyway, or for them to do it all themselves.

Mrmxb's photo
Mon 10/29/18 01:13 PM
Those who want to get married are more positive when they look at marriage, while those who do not want to get married seem more negative.

The concept called marriage is an abstract concept.
but the human elements that make it up are concrete entities.
a little more detail;

The behavior of people causes the beginning or end of important events in their lives. marriages in the marriage of good behavior against each other is a key element for the continuation of marriages.

so,
the state that conducts or cannot marry marriages is the transformation of abstract emotions in the human mind into concrete in behaviors.
then;
marriage ends up as abstract in the brain before various reasons. this state of ending then becomes concrete in behavior. and marriage ends. a negative outlook resulting from it is born.


***a nice meal can not be eaten beautifully in a beautiful place?***  smile2


we can think that the marriage institution will continue with various tools.
some of these tools;
the desire for sacrifice, love, respect, the view of maturity as the patience of life (the mature given by life's difficulties as patience), the attitude of people as not prejudiced as possible, the idea that what you are looking for in other people already exists in your spouse, I'm a little embarrassed to say this, but let me say (a little passion blushing ), a heart looking for love, ... .
as, as

these can be further increased...

for example,
it is clear that a sacrifice that can be made when it comes to carry the marriage on its back.

much more detail can be made. but I am writing them with translation. I know I don't exactly express my mind frustrated . I'm sorry for that. so it takes more time to write.

just a point of view...shades :

no photo
Mon 10/29/18 08:02 PM
In my opinion, we should get marriage with someone to have a child. Everyone needs a family, if we are alone, when our parents are gone, who we can rely on? So, I will have a marriage to make sure that someone can accompany with me when I am old.

darkowl1's photo
Mon 10/29/18 08:09 PM
quote Tom 4 u......276 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU MARRY



I am SO GLAD I am not human.

Besides, I can't cuddle anyway. Not after what happened in the Sahara.

I'm good to go, with travel as my first love.

no photo
Mon 10/29/18 08:17 PM
Only pizza from NJ.

RustyKitty's photo
Tue 10/30/18 03:52 PM

In my opinion, we should get marriage with someone to have a child. Everyone needs a family, if we are alone, when our parents are gone, who we can rely on? So, I will have a marriage to make sure that someone can accompany with me when I am old.

Maybe that works in your culture.. but in North America.. not so much.. Having a child is no guarantee that they will 'look after you' in your old age..

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Tue 10/30/18 05:51 PM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Tue 10/30/18 05:53 PM


In my opinion, we should get marriage with someone to have a child. Everyone needs a family, if we are alone, when our parents are gone, who we can rely on? So, I will have a marriage to make sure that someone can accompany with me when I am old.

Maybe that works in your culture.. but in North America.. not so much.. Having a child is no guarantee that they will 'look after you' in your old age..


THIS.
And to *have* a child solely to have someone to "look after you" is having one for the wrong reasons..
They are a free person...they can choose to be your caretaker, or not..and plenty of parents have found out their kids don't give a s**t about their elderly parents.

I used to volunteer in a nursing home, and it was just so sad that these people had several kids, all within 150 miles...and they never saw them but *maybe* once a year...
So..having a kid is no guarantee you won't be alone when you get old.

Tony's photo
Tue 10/30/18 06:05 PM
In my opinion, getting into marriage is a lifelong commitment. But in reality, there is a divorce which gives an option for separation. If only law can be modified to allow divorce for reason of physical abuse only.

no photo
Tue 10/30/18 06:07 PM
Let's not and say we did

no photo
Tue 10/30/18 06:09 PM
I've heard, the only reason to get married is to have kids. That leaves me out.

no photo
Tue 10/30/18 06:14 PM

I've heard, the only reason to get married is to have kids. That leaves me out.


Not true it's to share your life and heart with the perfect person who's just for you and everyone deserves to have it even if only once

JustBeHonest's photo
Tue 10/30/18 06:16 PM
True, I tried it once.