Topic: How to get local contacts here?
Tfor2's photo
Tue 11/20/18 07:02 PM
New to trying this site and finding all out-of-state replies or contacts initially. Tough enough to meet someone local I don't want out-of-state to be a long-distance Factor at this point. How do you get local replies at your area instead?

Toodygirl5's photo
Tue 11/20/18 07:07 PM
Set your filters for distance search and who can message You.
That may help.

Rock's photo
Tue 11/20/18 09:42 PM
Wait!
There's locals here?


Carolyn's photo
Sun 01/06/19 03:13 PM
Men my age close to my location

Smartazzjohn's photo
Tue 01/08/19 10:24 AM

New to trying this site and finding all out-of-state replies or contacts initially. Tough enough to meet someone local I don't want out-of-state to be a long-distance Factor at this point. How do you get local replies at your area instead?


1) You only get replies from people you contact.
2) If people outside an acceptable area contact you just delete their message.
3) To find people in an area that is acceptable to you adjusts your search preferences accordingly.
4) Distance isn't a factor unless you allow it to be a factor.
5) This isn't complicated unless you make it complicated.

teddybearxx's photo
Sat 03/16/19 10:30 AM

New to trying this site and finding all out-of-state replies or contacts initially. Tough enough to meet someone local I don't want out-of-state to be a long-distance Factor at this point. How do you get local replies at your area instead?

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Sat 03/16/19 10:55 AM


New to trying this site and finding all out-of-state replies or contacts initially. Tough enough to meet someone local I don't want out-of-state to be a long-distance Factor at this point. How do you get local replies at your area instead?


1) You only get replies from people you contact.
2) If people outside an acceptable area contact you just delete their message.
3) To find people in an area that is acceptable to you adjusts your search preferences accordingly.
4) Distance isn't a factor unless you allow it to be a factor.
5) This isn't complicated unless you make it complicated.


1. Not necessarily.
Most of the time there's no reply.

2. Yes.

3. Finding no one within 100 miles of me has been active in the last month...
The 2-3 that occasionally pop up have nothing written on their profile, which gives me no idea if we have anything at all in common...even one thing.
And, so far in my expereinces, those guys with nothing on their profile can't reply with anything of worth anyway..just repeated 2-3 word replies...

4. Let's be practical here.
Jobs, finances, etc...CAN be an object to long distance travel...
Weekends, you say? (re: jobs)
Some people aren't financially able to fly out of town every weekend to to be with someone hundreds of miles away...
And seeing someone 2-3 days a month really doesn't give you an idea of if you are compatible enough for one ot the other to relocate.
(Plus, it's always the scammer dudes 500+ miles away with their "seeking for" profiles that yammer about "distance is no object for truuuuu luuuuv...")

Plus, one or the other may not be able to uproot....
Getting the abilty to relocate, plus working out a visitng schedule, just *that* is hard enough, much less finding someone that you have enough in common with to make it worthwhile.


Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 03/16/19 12:12 PM
It is rare unless you live in Large Cities like Chicago, Dallas, LA, etc list goes on.

Liz's photo
Sat 03/16/19 12:22 PM
Chatted with a guy off n on for about a week and a half. Turns out he isnt honest about his age in his profile. Yeah, it's a learning process. Next...

mzrosie's photo
Sat 03/16/19 04:31 PM

New to trying this site and finding all out-of-state replies or contacts initially. Tough enough to meet someone local I don't want out-of-state to be a long-distance Factor at this point. How do you get local replies at your area instead?


Hi Tfor2

Use the Search option, set your preferred distance and send messages yourself. Keep in mind that no reply could mean not interested or they are not active here anymore.

As this is the internet, you have to be careful with scambugs so always be aware of the old adage "If it seems too good to be true, it probably is".

Also may I suggest not to put all your eggs in one basket... and have patience, lots of patience.

Best wishes
happy waving

Smartazzjohn's photo
Sat 03/16/19 04:34 PM
Edited by Smartazzjohn on Sat 03/16/19 04:35 PM


New to trying this site and finding all out-of-state replies or contacts initially. Tough enough to meet someone local I don't want out-of-state to be a long-distance Factor at this point. How do you get local replies at your area instead?


Hi Tfor2

so always be aware of the old adage "If it seems too good to be true, it probably is".







Well that explains why I'm single, women think I'm too good to be true.tears

mzrosie's photo
Sat 03/16/19 04:44 PM
there there, John.. happy flowerforyou


Smartazzjohn's photo
Sat 03/16/19 04:47 PM
waving I love the Big Bang Theory. tongue2

mzrosie's photo
Sat 03/16/19 04:50 PM
me too happy waving

Smartazzjohn's photo
Sat 03/16/19 04:53 PM
I have a crush on Bernadette.smitten

Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 03/16/19 05:46 PM
I like Rajesh. :smitten

ctr916's photo
Tue 03/19/19 07:53 PM
where are the nice girls who enjoy helping guys practice get really really good at full body massage?

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 03/19/19 07:57 PM
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Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 04/01/19 02:50 PM
laugh :

Smartazzjohn's photo
Mon 04/01/19 05:40 PM

where are the nice girls who enjoy helping guys practice get really really good at full body massage?


Too bad you can't find them on Craigslist anymore.....right????laugh