Topic: A little help
bestdadfire's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:30 PM
How do i make the mother of my kids realize that cig. smoke is hurting them?

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:31 PM
Does she smoke in the house and/or the car with them around?

bobson's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:31 PM
google: second hand smoke+children

theels08's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:31 PM
make her quit if she dont take the kids away from her and go out and have fun.. they dont be need to be around

JoLynn's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:33 PM
wow...i am surprised she would deny it hurting the kids. maybe the childrens pediatrician could be of help?

bestdadfire's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:36 PM
She says she knows that the smoke hurts them but keeps doing it. She even smokes in the car. My kids doctor has even wrote her a note asking her to stop. She keeps saying she will, but does not.

papabearcan's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:37 PM
Every time I hear this it s nuts ! I was and live around smokers for 43 yrs and I am in good health ! ITS government wanting to raise all OUR gas and fun prices !!LOL I I do not smoke SO dont worry !Shut they say the air out side your house is worse !!!laugh

bestdadfire's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:37 PM
taking the kids away is not the answer yet but thank you
make her quit if she dont take the kids away from her and go out and have fun.. they dont be need to be around

JoLynn's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:39 PM
have the kids expressed to her how they can't stand it? maybe that would make a bigger impact for her? It's so easy to just have a cigarette outside and keep it away from them.

papabearcan's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:41 PM
Even the food our grandparents ate now is bad for us and some are now a 100 yrs old go figure lol !I will eat !!all !!LOL just saying our government is a scam to us all so they can control our every movement ! Shoot there satilites are watching you now lol !! SMILE !! heheheh TRUE !!God bless !!

bestdadfire's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:44 PM
my kids have expressed their feelings. But that does not seem to make her stop. I really dont know what to do.

JoLynn's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:50 PM
I'm sorry...I wish I had a solution or better advice. The best thing you can probably do at this point is talk to her, not at her. She may just get more defensive and resist any kind of change if you handle it any other way.

bestdadfire's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:54 PM
Thanks for the advice. We get along real good and i hate to ruin that. But when it comes to my kids i will ruin it. I just hate to because i know what that intells.

JoLynn's photo
Sun 12/09/07 07:57 PM
I understand...believe me. Co-parenting is very hard at times.

bestdadfire's photo
Sun 12/09/07 08:09 PM
amen co-parenting is a whole lot of give and take. Thanks for everything God bless

LadyValkyrie37's photo
Sun 12/09/07 09:55 PM
Have you ever been a smoker? Tobacco containes this highly addictive drug called nicotine. The mother of your children is a legal drug addict, as are tons of other people. They are all addicted to Nictotine. It's extremely hard to get clean of this drug. I know, I'm a former smoker. What helped me were my children voicing their opinions about my smoking. I looked at it from the following point of veiw... I kicked drug and alcohol abuse, so I knew I could kick the smoking addiction... and I did.

I'm not going to sit here and pass judgement on either one of you. Your children, however, will be in my thoughts and prayers. I will say this, however, please don't use your children as the go between. You have something to say to her, say it to her yourself, don't send the children or use them as guilt trips.

no photo
Sun 12/09/07 10:04 PM
well i think she knows but she just doesnt care

maraskia74's photo
Sun 12/09/07 10:18 PM
noway if she hasnt stopped by now she really dosent care