i find those with a good personality attractive

body design is not really important

Found this thread interesting, as I've never been a 'Betty Spaghetti' and tend to be attracted to 'cuddlier' guys too; While looks aren't the be all and end all, they do play a small part, though saying that, personality counts for so much more in my book, honesty, a sense of humour and a good heart definitely mean more to me than how much weight a person carries..

Whatever your body shape, let the inner you shine, and enjoy being you, then others will too

Joe Nichols sings a great song called Size Matters. Here's a link to stream it. Enjoy!

http://www.mediamax.com/pominoz_67/Hosted/JoeNichols-SizeMatters.wav

Size matters..
Size does not matter...
Really a perpetual question with not actual answer.
Yes it does matter to some, both guys and girls. Great if that is they way they think, good for them. Although I tend to think that an attitude like that will slowly transpose across to other areas of their lives and lead to more shallow and empty relationships as time goes by.
Personally to me as long as the girl is happy and it is not a bad health issue there is so much more to a woman than a handbag for her bones.....just my two cents.

*takes soapbox to make a go kart with.....*

Oh yeah I know this is a bit away from men but....well ya know...lol

i like bbw woman

not only am i "full figured" as you say...


but i think girls with meat on them are hot!

No offense, but I find the excuse, "Men don't like me because of my size" to be very weak. There are plenty of men (and I do mean plenty) that like women with meat on their bones.

You should be more focused on your inner self. Stop worrying about the outside. If Joey Ramone from the Ramones could get attractive women then ANY man can get a woman and vice versa for women. You ever see what Joey Ramone looked like?

I see so many posts about "Do you think I could get a date?" or "Why isn't anyone looking at my profile?", etc. It's called low self esteem. You need to embrace who you truly are inside. It doesn't matter if some people don't like you because you don't need those people in your life anyway. Once you start learning to love yourself then your life becomes a whole lot brighter. No one in this world is going to improve your life except for yourself. Sure, it's great to have a co-pilot on board but be secure in flying solo from time to time as well.

By the way, I love larger women. I can usually go up to about a size 20 or so depending on how she carries herself. I love large natural breasts and nice curves. Would I date someone over 300 pounds? Probably not. However, I knew a guy when I was in my early 20's that would date women over 300 pounds and he weighed 130 lbs.

Lastly, stop letting the media make you feel guilty about your size.

I do.Always have. however, I have problems finding women who like fat, short, hairy, balding, graying guys.
...but I have a good personality!

lmao... positive outlook is ALWAYS a plus...

I think a lot is how you carry yourself...male or female. Confident "bigger" gals a just plain sexy. Me, I go for a little slef-depreciating humor, or any humor for that matter. laughter is good!

my profile states
"I AM NOT A BARBIE nor am i built or do i want to be like her so if thats a problem don't even bother me"
youd be surprised at how many guys dont read it though

Maybe I'll catch flak but looks matter to me, and I think most people who say that it doesn't matter are liars. That said different people have different ideas about physical body types they like. Of course personality also plays a huge role as well, sometimes more than body depending on the person.

I hate the skin and bone girls, the ones you could play a tune on their ribcage. I don't know what people mean by full figured, that could encompass different body types. I like curvy if the curves are in the right places. i like a little roundness to a girl.

When I look through profiles, I'll admit, if I don't find someone physically attractive I won't click and email them. I'm not saying that someone has to be a model or out of a magazine but people who say looks don't matter at all, do you really only read the profile and have no standard whatsoever when it comes to looks?

geek if it was all about personality i would be getting a whole lot of e-mail which im not and if i do talk to any one the first thing they say is got a picture so i would have to agree with you on this

geek and tomb ~ you are both right... to a point.

there does have to be attraction... but it doesnt always happen instantaneously... sometimes the more you get to know someone the more beautiful they become. it is truly based on personality... i would take an OK guy that i have a blast with over a HOT guy who cant tie his own shoes, anyday.

I'm right to a T damnit LOL.
I never said it was the MOST important thing, just one factor. When will people realize that it's not all or nothing. If you care about appearance it doesn't mean you don't care about personality. We all, every single one of us care about the total package a person presents. We just have different ideas of what's more important, or what's ideal.

I'd hate a barbie girl with a horrible personality or low intellect or terrible values (from my perspective).

Yes you're right in that sometimes someone's appearance can grow on us due to personality.

Interesting topic! After I had my son I was up to 180....at my lowest a few months back I was 112. I now i'm back in the 120s and not so skeletal. I think that it depends on what a person is attracted to...and dont let anyone else tell you what attracts you...

One thing you might do is email the admins here and ask if they can look into adding a section in your profile that gives a description of the type of person you are looking for. It could be general enough to include several different body types, height, hair color, etc. Might make it easier for you to see if they are into full figured women or not.

As a rule of thumb, physical attractiveness in females is primarily based on a waist-to-hip ratio where the ideal WHR is approximately .70. WHR is not dependent on overall weight or size and is defined by the difference in waist and hip.

Obviously some guys like big girls otherwise I would never ever get a date .
Really though it bothers me when men say oh I like BBW's what the heck . I don't want a guy who is in to me because he likes "BBW'S" . It's offensive .
People are so flipping close minded how in the world do you know that fat , ugly chick you didn't talk to because she was fat , ugly at first glance isnt PERFECT for you .
You may have just passed up your perfect match . If you give someone an oppurtunity you may find whats inside attractive or even sexy !

I'm rambling and i'm not sure this post is even really relevant to this topic but whatever , it's late .

well, despite what chief might think, i'm not into girls. however, i think girls look better with curves. the stick thin girls just look sickly. and biologically, girls with bigger breasts and hips are better for reproduction. just sayin...