Being brought up to be polite, I used to think exactly the same as yourself but I didn't have much experience of any social media or dating sites. Then I saw a lot of women whose opinions I respect explain that a lot of men ( but not the good ones ) react very badly to rejection and that accordingly, no answer is also an answer. Now if someone that I contact doesn't reply, that's their choice and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I imagine that some women who do contact me find it rude when I explain that there are so many scammers on this site (just an observation) that I only reply to someone if they survive the first 24 hours on site.

OP OutlawBill I tend to agree more with you on this but my view is that it's certainly too trivial to get excited about.

Welcome to Mingle2

That's all well and good saying ladies should politely say no if they're not interested and I used to do that but I no longer do so. There are many guys that can't/won't take no for an answer. I have been verbally abused and called a few choice names and for what? Saying no thank you, we'd not be a good fit? Nah, being polite is sometimes just not worth it so now I no longer respond. It's better for my well being

Yes
And any man who thinks we are exaggerating.... I'll be happy to let you answer my mailbox for a month, just to see where being polite gets you

I'm not debating you at all KK and I would love to do your mailbox, I've always been a student of human behavior and I'm sure it would be fascinating

I'm guessing you haven't been on the net for long. Not responding means "No". It's not rude to ignore a message from someone. You're message is viewed as, "Read my profile and look at my pics. If you think I'm worth you're time than let's talk".

"Honesty is the best policy". I still go by the old fashion Jersey City rule, "As long as you're honest and don't spergeout you're never rude". Of cause that Jersey City is long dead and gone with the old standards. That's why I like this site because even those who don't like you much don't cross that line.

Although, I did see some posts on the forums that probably were taken down to either prevent people or people did spergeout.

This is the T-shirt:



Courtesy of . . .

Classic, we should get this printed on the side of the popcorn carton also..

let me know when you've got a free month...I could use a break

But....that's what the BLOCK button is for...

If some guy gets rude..just block him..
Don't treat everyone like they are going to act a fool..
We don't like it when guys say all women are alink...so...

I will treat a legit guy with courtesy, until he get's rude or crude or nasty..then...boom, block..problem solved..

The scammerdudes though?
I don't have to be polite/ cordial to then...they don't deserve it.

You know...there was another post in a different catagory over the weekend about chivalry/ common courtesy....
And several guys got bent because they open a door/ hold open a door for a woman...and she either says nothing, or makes a smart remark..

And ~everybody~ said that isn't right, isn't decent behavior...
And that people seem to be losing common courtesy...

That they should at least acknoweledge the guy did it by saying "thank you"...

But, the exact same guys are all perfectly OK with ignoring someone who made a good faith effort and messaged them?

Don;t they, like *yoy*, deserve to be acknowledged and get a courteous reply if you are not interested?
(as i have said probably 5 times already..if they then get rude, well, simpkle..block them)

I don't get the hypocrisy of expecting a woman to say "thanks"/ "thank you" when you hold open a door....but you wouldnt extend that same courtesy to someone who messaged you that you weren't interested in...

A couple of times when I didn't respond I was called all sorts of ignoramus', and it was like 10 minutes after I got the message, impatient indeed, and wait for it... It was by women, imagine that But it just went to show that I was right not to respond, I got no time for drama queens at my age.. as Bluegrass says"Boom Block problem solved"

Love is lovely though..

The same answer you gave me when I posted the same reply Delightful posted.
But... the BLOCK button is not there to use after you've allowed yourself to get verbally abused by some dude.

Maybe you can sniff out upfront who's going to be an a-hole and who isn't but I doubt it.
It's like I said earlier, it's even guys who SEEM great that turn into complete rude w@nkers when you tell them a polite 'no'.

Oh how I just love the block button

Just checked and I have used it 360 times

No, I have no special skill in that regard, but, as I *also* said more than once...I will be polite and courteous to a guy, *until* he acts badly, then he gets the boot..
I don't personaly view ONE message from a jerk being stupid as 'being verbally abused"..
That's all it takes, one time them being that way, then they're outta my inbox...

I don't give a restaurant a bad review because I * might* have a bad meal/ sh***y service there...I wait until that happens, then do a bad review.

But, we're all different, have different opinions and the right to express them, we're never going to agree on this, and that's Ok...you do you....

I checked as well, curious as I do not use it very often since there's no need.
226 times in 6 years. I actually had expected it to be less as I really hardly ever use it.

The figure of 360 does include guys that have sent me their phone numbers. No hello, just their phone numbers. I block them instantly.

Ok to clear up some confusion.... some use this as a dating site, others, myself included are only here for forums.
I make that clear in my profile, and say that I will not answer messages except from people in the forums and wish everyone luck in finding what they seek.
And I do report and block

Those are most likely those-that-Mingle-doesn't-like-you-to-say-that-word....

They don't count.
I either summarily delete/ block them...or get rude/ snippy with them, if I am feeling especially salty...

Hey KK, you and I must have the same profile hehe