Topic: Why love is so hard ?
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Sun 03/22/20 02:52 AM
u are correct

Shivam Kumar's photo
Sun 03/22/20 03:04 AM
love is very easy than fight

Trippler's photo
Wed 03/25/20 11:55 PM
Very true when you get it right it's not hard but a pleasure.

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Thu 03/26/20 12:11 AM
yes right

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Thu 03/26/20 07:53 AM

Because many people do not know what love is/ means.
It's not a feeling - you do not "FALL" in love. That's affection. Love is what you do with that (feeling or no feeling), it's a commitment to someone else. That's why so many couples call it quits at the first onset when that "feeling" (affection) subsides, because the trials of life stream in and they get overwhelmed. Then you hear:
- well, we just "fell out" of love - If you do not fall "IN" love you cannot fall "out" of love, quite simple...

But I also answered that here:

https://mingle2.com/topic/577318?page=5 - (bottom of page)


agree, love is a choice , a commitment not only about feeling that will fade and goes off

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Thu 03/26/20 07:56 AM

Hello how her you doing,understanding is the key to everything in life



courage and strength too

Gehan's photo
Thu 03/26/20 08:57 AM
false...

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Thu 04/02/20 01:38 AM
Yes

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Thu 04/02/20 06:33 AM

it's not so hard to love someone it's so hard to find the right one to love 藍藍


Agree! Anyhow, you cannot find love from other people if you cannot find it first from yourself.

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Thu 04/02/20 09:22 AM
"Love" is difficult because...

Emotional based feelings are personal.
You feel love passionately within.
The sensations affect you emotionally, physically and spiritually.
The severity of these sensations is directly related to how emotionally balanced you are.
Less balanced equals less control.

We often compensate by placing expectations on others to try to get control of ourselves.
This is why we 'think' we can radiate love to another.
Its also why we 'think' we can "find" love.
We often fail because we look outside ourselves for something that is only experienced from within.

This is why you can't go to a store and select love from a shelf.
This is why when we look for love on a dating site we are often disappointed.
We often assume we found love when it really isn't.
Sometimes many of our expectations are realized but love still is not found.
This is because no matter what we do or say...or think, we can't 'make' someone we love, love us back.
We also can't make someone who loves us not love us.

Sometimes a connection is make where both people actually love each other.
If circumstances allow it, they will stay together for long periods of time.
However, sometimes other stuff gets in the way.

Some people think love is supposed to be an on/off type thing.
Problem with that is no emotional state is on/off.
Sadness, joy, fear, elation...love, all have varying degrees of severity which changes constantly. For 'Each' person.

That means even two people who share a bond of love can have hot spots and cold spots of love from time to time. Love between two people naturally waxes and wanes.

Everybody has the capacity to love.
Each person defines the love they feel.
You may love someone who does not love you.
Someone may love you who you do not love in return.
Its only difficult if you try to control someone else's emotional state.
Its your own expectations that makes love hard.

Many people twist love to mean something more than it is.
Love is simple.
Love is always true love because it is felt within.
Love that isn't true love is not love at all, it is something else.

People often expect love to be everlasting, constant and unwavering but that is not how any emotional state actually works.
Love is not constant because life is not constant and you are not emotionally programmed.
Like any emotion you experience highs and lows of love.

Couples who last lifetimes together realize this.

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Thu 04/02/20 05:48 PM

love is very easy than fight


What the heck laugh

Alvin 's photo
Sat 04/04/20 01:27 AM
hi

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Sat 04/04/20 01:29 AM
well said

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Sat 04/04/20 01:30 AM
not true

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Sat 04/04/20 02:02 AM
yes......my

Road's photo
Sat 04/04/20 11:58 PM
exactly

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Mon 04/06/20 03:17 AM
What country are you from

Kevin's photo
Mon 04/06/20 10:05 AM
Without a doubt it is very hard to find a real,honest,person to start to like and know that that person is for you

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Thu 04/09/20 01:33 PM
hi friends p

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Thu 04/09/20 02:23 PM
exactly dear